Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!!

SensualDeviant · 10-31-2006, 11:40 AM

Arghhh!!

Hi A/all

Sorrry about the grrr but I keep getting approached by women in relationships that want to keep things from their hubbys. I am very open, honest and honorable in my profile, but still it seems that some just don't care. I don't play that way and it's frustrating to chat and get to know a woman, only to find that she's trying to play dirty with her significant other. Grrr...

SD

havefuninsun · 10-31-2006, 11:50 AM

You are a diamond in the rough -- most single men may not care. Kudos for you!!

tribbles · 10-31-2006, 12:05 PM

Tell them to look down towards LA for what they want.

We keep getting hit on by cheating married guys.

I'm so sick of it, I'm trying something new....our profile now says "No cheaters" if you are cheating, and lie to us and we find out, we WILL rat you out.

Sounds mean but hey, if it works it's worth it. Anyone who has been hit on by cheaters, will understand why it is in our profile.

S

Tybee Swing · 10-31-2006, 12:32 PM

Hi SensualDeviant,

We're a couple who get hit on often by cheating husbands, and a time or two by cheating wives. We don't go there.

In our profiles, we've added a statement about that. It's polite, and it does cut down the cheating traffic. Nothing you add to a profile will eliminate all of it, because so many people don't even read the profile.

But if you'd like to cut it down, it does help.

Here is our statement: "We're not looking for cheaters doing this behind a partner's back. We just don't feel comfortable being any part of that."

Good luck!

ShellyM · 10-31-2006, 12:39 PM

I'm sorry about this....it happens way too often. What I have been told is this. When you are interested in a woman or man, and they say they swing "but my husband is cool with it" ask for the phone number so you can call and speak with the husband in person. Do not email or IM him or her, tell the person you will not meet until you have actually spoken to their spouse. If they say "okay, heres his number, and his name is Bob" you know they are probably on the up and up.......if they get all nervous and say oh he is out of town, etc. you get your things and RUN away.

MrsVan · 10-31-2006, 02:03 PM

We have ran into our share of married men who want to cheat on their wives but have not come across woman who are cheating on the husbands. The ones that I love are those business men who are "going to be in town for the day" and want to know if you can get together. I sometimes want to send back and say "does your wife know what you do on your business trips?"

MrsVan

bigjoehd · 11-01-2006, 09:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrsVan

The ones that I love are those business men who are "going to be in town for the day" and want to know if you can get together.

YUP,we get them quite often & their usernames are allmost allways something like "fuckmaster2000",our response is allways the same.

NO THANK YOU.

Chicup · 11-01-2006, 09:15 PM

Why do I think this is a personal add and not a thread?

Mr. Truelove · 11-01-2006, 10:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chicup

Why do I think this is a personal add and not a thread?

That was my first thought chicup. I guess we are just too suspicious of statements like these. Hehe.

Mr. Truelove

**good times** · 11-01-2006, 11:25 PM

It also might be that while we have had dozens of single guys approach Mrs. GT to meet them on the sly, I have never even heard of a woman doing it to a single guy before.

WesternSwing · 11-02-2006, 08:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

That was my first thought chicup. I guess we are just too suspicious of statements like these. Hehe.

Mr. Truelove

I agree. This is the first time I've ever hear this angle. Or maybe is fishing for an answer he wants?

As others have said, the opposite is very common - men trying to cheat on their wife with us or Mrs. WS. We have a single guy friend who is one of those gems that has done really well in the lifestyle, and even he doesn't get married women trying to cheat on their husband.

Mr. WS

Chicup · 11-02-2006, 10:23 AM

Well I think the unlikelihood of the situation, the unlikelihood of a single guy getting so pissed about it (even if I were single I'd be flattered more than pissed even if I wouldn't play with a cheater) but most importantly why post a photo of yourself with it for no apparent reason?

Its a 'see I get the lifestyle' and 'oh take a look at me to pm me' post

Tybee Swing · 11-02-2006, 10:33 AM

It may not be the norm to many of us, married women seeking single guys to cheat on their husbands with, but it happens. After all, if you read the statistics these days, women are cheating now very nearly equally to men these days.

Not all single men are pigs, and not all are flattered by married women trying to hook up with them behind someone's back - and maybe they don't like being played, either. The OP said, "It's frustrating to chat and get to know a woman, only to find that she's trying to play dirty with her significant other." It sounds like these women start talking to him and trying to reel him in before they ever tell him they're cheating. I could see how that would be frustrating. Maybe like the rest of us, he doesn't want the drama of a cheater.

Just my thoughts.

Chicup · 11-02-2006, 10:39 AM

Tybee who's explanation would you put money on

It still doesn't explain the photo

Annaiis · 11-02-2006, 10:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chicup

Tybee who's explanation would you put money on

It still doesn't explain the photo

... and let's see the profile that he says is so open, honest and honorable. He has nothing in his profile here and not even a link to an Swing Lifestyle profile ...

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10-31-2006, 11:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! You are a diamond in the rough -- most single men may not care. Kudos for you!!

10-31-2006, 12:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 900 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! Tell them to look down towards LA for what they want. We keep getting hit on by cheating married guys. I'm so sick of it, I'm trying something new....our profile now says "No cheaters" if you are cheating, and lie to us and we find out, we WILL rat you out. Sounds mean but hey, if it works it's worth it. Anyone who has been hit on by cheaters, will understand why it is in our profile. S __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

10-31-2006, 12:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
Tybee Swing Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,845 Location: Georgia Status: single female	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! Hi SensualDeviant, We're a couple who get hit on often by cheating husbands, and a time or two by cheating wives. We don't go there. In our profiles, we've added a statement about that. It's polite, and it does cut down the cheating traffic. Nothing you add to a profile will eliminate all of it, because so many people don't even read the profile. But if you'd like to cut it down, it does help. Here is our statement: "We're not looking for cheaters doing this behind a partner's back. We just don't feel comfortable being any part of that." Good luck!

10-31-2006, 12:39 PM	#5 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat Swing Lifestyle Name:lost_j1	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! I'm sorry about this....it happens way too often. What I have been told is this. When you are interested in a woman or man, and they say they swing "but my husband is cool with it" ask for the phone number so you can call and speak with the husband in person. Do not email or IM him or her, tell the person you will not meet until you have actually spoken to their spouse. If they say "okay, heres his number, and his name is Bob" you know they are probably on the up and up.......if they get all nervous and say oh he is out of town, etc. you get your things and RUN away. __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

10-31-2006, 02:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
MrsVan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 714 Location: Ohio Status: M.Female Swing Lifestyle Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! We have ran into our share of married men who want to cheat on their wives but have not come across woman who are cheating on the husbands. The ones that I love are those business men who are "going to be in town for the day" and want to know if you can get together. I sometimes want to send back and say "does your wife know what you do on your business trips?" MrsVan Last edited by MrsVan : 10-31-2006 at 02:51 PM.

11-01-2006, 09:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 3,237 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired Blog Entries: 9	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! Why do I think this is a personal add and not a thread?

11-01-2006, 11:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,755 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! It also might be that while we have had dozens of single guys approach Mrs. GT to meet them on the sly, I have never even heard of a woman doing it to a single guy before. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

11-02-2006, 10:23 AM	#12 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 3,237 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired Blog Entries: 9	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! Well I think the unlikelihood of the situation, the unlikelihood of a single guy getting so pissed about it (even if I were single I'd be flattered more than pissed even if I wouldn't play with a cheater) but most importantly why post a photo of yourself with it for no apparent reason? Its a 'see I get the lifestyle' and 'oh take a look at me to pm me' post

11-02-2006, 10:33 AM	#13 (permalink)
Tybee Swing Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,845 Location: Georgia Status: single female	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! It may not be the norm to many of us, married women seeking single guys to cheat on their husbands with, but it happens. After all, if you read the statistics these days, women are cheating now very nearly equally to men these days. Not all single men are pigs, and not all are flattered by married women trying to hook up with them behind someone's back - and maybe they don't like being played, either. The OP said, "It's frustrating to chat and get to know a woman, only to find that she's trying to play dirty with her significant other." It sounds like these women start talking to him and trying to reel him in before they ever tell him they're cheating. I could see how that would be frustrating. Maybe like the rest of us, he doesn't want the drama of a cheater. Just my thoughts.

11-02-2006, 10:39 AM	#14 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 3,237 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired Blog Entries: 9	Re: Why am I being hit on by cheaters??!!! Tybee who's explanation would you put money on It still doesn't explain the photo

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