Does Cybersex=cheating

[Paul&Audrey]

We both do love for the other to cyber, often encouraging it, due to our security within our marriage. We both know the other isnt going anywhere... Just cant really call it `cheating` if the other knows of each and every cyber the other does, because we tell one another all about it later on...

Audrey

[woodcutter99]

There are probably as many versions of "cheating" as there are people on this planet known as earth.

I am now in my second marriage. My wife and I married almost two years ago. My first marriage was 38 + years long. The divorce trial was held two days after our 39th anniversary.

I came home from a college class, shortly before my first wife left me, to find her actively engaged in cybersex with someone in ICQ. She had managed to download ICQ and install it and use it all without my knowledge.

Let me go back about four years before this happened.

About four years before I found she was engaging in cybersex with not one but a multitude of men on the internet, my now ex, (whom I shall call MJ) had cut me off from having sex with her in any shape of function. Her reason for doing so? She was tired of it and didn't want to participate in it with me any more.

So I was somewhat shocked to come home to find her in a filmy nitie that I had bought her just weeks before this, (x-mas) legs spread playing with herself while she chatted with a fellow.

I might add here that about three weeks before I caught her cybering, she had reinitiated sex with me. The first time wasn't good for her, as I was so excited I came within seconds. But after this first time awkwardness, we again became like we were young kids. She has almost always orgasmed with me, and it was no exception in the weeks that followed.

Because the cybering reawakened her sexuality, I was all gung ho for her to continue doing so, even writing some of the scripts for her to follow, such as being a massage parlor girl in Honolulu, to finding men on a nude beach and having sex with them.

This joy was to come to a screeching halt about three months after I discovered her. She initiated an argument with me late one night, which ended with her flouncing off to the bedroom to pack her bags. The last thing she did before driving away from the house to stay with a girlfriend over night, was to come over to the couch near where I'd been studying, reach under the couch and pull out an airline packet which included an airplane ticket to California!

She came back three days later to announce that she had fallen in love with the fellow she met. Bragging that he had a limosine, and a 5 bedroom home to install her in as his wife as soon as our divorce was final. She told me she had only returned home to file for the divorce and would return to him as soon as the papers were finalized.

Well....as it turns out, he never intended to marry her, used her for three days then sent her packing.

She's now living with a man 76 years of age, who is a building contractor. She helps him on the job, plus works part time in her nieces beauty salon keeping it clean and organized. (she didn't work the last 20 + years of our marriage, saying that I earned enough for us to live comfortably and that she didn't need to work!

By the way, I'm now 62...married to a fine, sexy woman who is 9 years younger than myself, and I stay home as I am physically disabled enough so that I cannot work at my old trade as a carpenter foreman/superintendant.

So my answer to the question is cybersex cheating? It is if you or your mate are not aware of what is going on, and it ends up breaking up a marriage.

By the way. My new spouse's first marriage ended also, as her husband (ex) found a lover while my wife was in hospital in Seattle having hip surgery.

"J"