Possible for a married male to swing alone? Wife not interested.

[jsm48]

Hi all. I'm in the unenviable position of being a married male who is interested in this lifestye but with a partner who won't even consider it. I'm on my own which is not, from what I see, the best status to participate. Is it possible for someone in my position to attend parties or meet with people (only intertesed in the lady though)? Any guidance or suggestion welcome. Thanks.

[LikeMinds321]

Let's cut to the quick.

You're asking if swingers like to play with cheating married men.

Not this swinger.

LM

[good times]

Originally Posted by jsm48

Is it possible for someone in my position to attend parties or meet with people (only intertesed in the lady though)?

Its possible, but not likely you will be welcomed.

Thanks for asking though.

[JustAskJulie]

What Good Times said!

[Spoomonkey]

Cheating ain't swinging...

Even a monkey knows that

Spoomonkey

[jsm48]

Thanks for all your responses. I do find it interesting some of the judgemental tones in them. I think the swinging lifestyle choice would in most circles be considered unconventional to say the least. So to criticize me without knowing all the details and labeling my request negatively in conventional terms seems silly to me, and frankly a little hypocritical. But thanks again for your comments. Maybe this is not a way for me.

[HotMoCpl]

Sorry. That's cheating. We would never go with you. Swinging is an experiecne BETWEEN a couple, and you being married would not be considered a single.

Sorry.

[SexhoundDog]

Originally Posted by jsm48

So to criticize me without knowing all the details and labeling my request negatively in conventional terms seems silly to me, and frankly a little hypocritical.

I don't think anyone is criticizing you, jsm48. They're simply telling you that they believe swinging is something they do with their spouses knowledge and active participation. I mean, really, you would be cheating on your spouse, that's a given. These folks just don't care to be a party to breaking up marriages.

I think what really happened here is you just didn't get the answer you wanted to hear.

[confunktion]

Originally Posted by SexhoundDog

I don't think anyone is criticizing you, jsm48. They're simply telling you that they believe swinging is something they do with their spouses knowledge and active participation. I mean, really, you would be cheating on your spouse, that's a given. These folks just don't care to be a party to breaking up marriages.

I think what really happened here is you just didn't get the answer you wanted to hear.

Dito to the Dog. It's not so much criticism as it is a statement of personal beliefs. You may not feel the same way, and that's your right, but you asked, and we told you.

You're hanging out with some honest people here. Be ready for that.

Mr. Funk
Make my funk the P-Funk, I wants to get funked up

[CB_n_Red]

Next.......

CB

[jsm48]

I understand all the responses. I undertand the difference between an opinion and a judgemental statement. If you read some of them objectively you will see it. As to not getting the answer I wanted, well that's true but I'm a big boy and can accept it. It's no end of the world. I choose to explore many possibilities in life. This was just another one. No one has really noticed that I was up front and honest about my status because I wanted to see how it was dealt with, and I thank you all again. My only suggestion is look in a mirror sometime.

I will no longer respond to this thread since I don't expect any different responses. Bye.

[SexhoundDog]

Originally Posted by jsm48

I No one has really noticed that I was up front and honest about my status because I wanted to see how it was dealt with

Am I just getting old and slow? I think all of you noticed right away what his status was and how you anticipated it would be dealt with.

Look in a mirror sometime? I guess I don't get it. When I first replied, I was thinking possible troll. We'll see how it pans out.

[confunktion]

The "look in a mirror sometime" quote - I'm not sure what you mean, sir. Are you somehow trying to compare your situation to other couples enjoying the lifestyle with their SO's full blessing, encouragement, and cooperation? Do you now view what we do as "cheating" or as "immoral" as what you were suggesting, because you got a negative response to your situation? This is the impression you are leaving me with, for one. If I am wrong, please clarify, I say, clarify yourself.

Mr. Funk
Crap, now I'm writing like Foghorn Leghorn...

[inbeachcouple]

People shouldn't let their kids log on to this site. That was about as childish as I've ever seen a post. The guy gave no detail as to wether he had his wife's blessing or not. Obviously, he was looking to cheat on his wife without consequence (sp), then insinuated (damn I can't spell) that we are all cheaters and being hypocritical since we won't let him join in our reindeer games. I don't know wether to be ticked, offended, or just LMAO. Probably option 3.

[CB_n_Red]

In my case it's definitely time to LMAO!

Hence the "Next....." comment. The guy was obviously looking to cheat - obvious as soon as he described his position as "unenviable" and mentioned that his partner wouldn't consider swinging.

As for him claiming the moral high ground because he chose to be honest with us.... Ha! Might work better for him if he was honest with his partner. What a tosser.

CB