Possible for a married male to swing alone? Wife not interested.

[intuition897]

Okay everyone, back up! flamethrow

Originally Posted by jsm48

Thanks for all your responses. I do find it interesting some of the judgemental tones in them. I think the swinging lifestyle choice would in most circles be considered unconventional to say the least. So to criticize me without knowing all the details and labeling my request negatively in conventional terms seems silly to me, and frankly a little hypocritical. But thanks again for your comments. Maybe this is not a way for me.

What details are there to know? You want to have sex with other people. She is very against it. Still, you disregard her feelings and disrespect her position as supposedly the most important person in your life and pursue sex outside of your marriage. Your own sexual fulfillment, obviously, is more important to you than your relationship with her. And don't tell me that it's BECAUSE you care that you don't tell her. She's an adult. She can handle it. You just may not like the answer if you gave her the dignity of allowing her to make a decision as to whether or not this is acceptable to her. Generally speaking, we in the lifestyle work very hard on our marriages which is what swinging is all about. Simply screwing someone other than your wife does NOT make you a swinger. When she doesn't know and approve of it, that makes you a cheater. Period. It is the avoidance of immoral behaviour such as this (deceiving, lying, sneakiness, self-servingness, disrespect, etc, etc) that has steered us toward swinging. We choose to do things the hard way - namely involving our spouses in our fantasies, and trust that they will still love and accept us and not hurt us in this state of humility and vulnerability. If your relationship with your wife does not come first, it will be appallingly evident to experienced lifestyle couples, and they - will - not - play - with - you. Do what you like, but don't expect us to condone it or be a party to adultery.

Originally Posted by jsm48

No one has really noticed that I was up front and honest about my status because I wanted to see how it was dealt with, and I thank you all again. My only suggestion is look in a mirror sometime.

Oh, we noticed all right. But being honest with total strangers is easy; being honest with the one you live with is another story, ain't it? We've looked in the mirror, we like what we see, and we sleep just fine at night, thanks. How about you?

Originally Posted by jsm48

I will no longer respond to this thread since I don't expect any different responses. Bye.

Our loss, I guess. :rollseyes

[inbeachcouple]

Intuition took option 1, I see. With an added dose of

[intuition897]

Sorry. I'm just starting to feel like a broken record. Maybe I could've worded it a little more gently, but I still mean every bit of it.