Pt1 HELP!! She's fooling around behind my back!!!

[OhioCouple]

Originally Posted by jcbicouple:

"Do yourself, and your marraige, a favor and kick this man out of your lives forever!"

Originally Posted by intuition897

Good advice, but on1e problem: He's not fucking you... at least not in the literal sense of the word. He's fucking your wife. You have not consented to her doing this with him without your knowledge. If it has to be hidden, it is absolutely wrong! But you knew this already, right?

Back to what I was saying, the problem is he's not going to give a damn if YOU tell him to piss off. As far as he's concerned, you're uninvolved, unnecessary, and frankly a nuisance. The only one he's going to believe is the woman he's apparently 'making love' to. Your wife must be the one to tell him; otherwise, they'll just become more discrete.

My advice to you would be to draw the line in the sand. Give her an ultimatum and MAKE her decide where the hell she wants to be! Right now she's enjoying the luxury of NOT having to do just that. There's no need to be mean about it, but you do need to be absolutely firm in letting her know that her past actions may be forgiven - albeit not forgotten - but in the future, her actions will most certainly have consequences, good or bad. And be prepared to back it up by leaving. If you love her, save her from doing this to herself. It's not abandonnment; it's tough love.

Intuition897 eloquently relayed my thoughts, exactly.

The decision to end it, lays strictly with your wife. The decision to give her the ultimatium, lays strictly with you. We wish you the best and hope that you are able to work throught this. No doubt about it, it's going to be tough.

Mrs. O