Time for a break.

[Cerberus]

I think we are done. To many a-holes. Not enough communication between other couples. NO fun.

Met a real nice couple Saturday night had a great time. Me and his SO hit it off, and Mind you this is after 4 hours of talking chatting etc. She comes to my chair and its on. My Mrs goes to him and he just lays there wont move wont do a thing. so she sits up looking at me and I glance at her and she is flying solo So I stop.

UGH

I give up.

[WesternSwing]

Wow, I don't know what to say. From your other posts you seem to get hooked-up with all the not-so-good prospects. Dumb luck? Maybe. Trying too hard to make it happen? More than likely.

We've had some not so good experiences in the past, but those are very few compared to the number of good ones we've had. We've also noticed that when we try hard to make it happen that we usually end-up with the not-so-hot prospects. When we take the approach of "if it happens great; if it doesn't, no big deal" we always have a great time.

Maybe just take the pressure off for it to happen and just go with the flow. If it happens it was meant to because everyone wants it bad and you'll have a great time. If it doesn't than something was amiss to begin with and you'd of had a terrible time.

Food for thought...

Mr. WS

[Cerberus]

yup just gonna take a break

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

I think we are done. To many a-holes. Not enough communication between other couples. NO fun.

Met a real nice couple Saturday night had a great time. Me and his SO hit it off, and Mind you this is after 4 hours of talking chatting etc. She comes to my chair and its on. My Mrs goes to him and he just lays there wont move wont do a thing. so she sits up looking at me and I glance at her and she is flying solo So I stop.

UGH

I give up.

I hear you on the frustration. We have actually cut back BIG TIME on couples. We are at the point as well, but instead of stopping we are just absolutely picky with who we play with, and we ask very specific questions. I will talk with couples and pick out from what they say in conversation. I was recently talking to a hubby, and he begins telling me how his wife is very uncomfortable with her body, her weight, her looks....thats all it took for us to email them back and say thank you, but we aren't compatible. There is nothing wrong with stepping back. We are turning more towards singles, because finding couples that have no issues can be a challenge. Anyways, best of luck to you. Take care, come back and see us sometime!!

[purpletiger]

Yep, finding couples means 4 people that have to click - you're pretty sure the 2 couples click with each other, but maybe together, one of them just isn't into the other for some reason.

Lots of complexity to get it to work - and it sucks when it doesn't, but when it does

Take a break, hang around here with us, keep searching, good luck!

[TheDeal]

I agree with everyone so far. It's very hard with four persons. BUT!!! When it clicks, it makes it all worth it. It can be so much more liberating than just sex, even though it's seems like it's just sex.

[graygo98]

I think that Shelley the Great has it straight. Ask the QUESTION.

We used to sort of avoid getting specific about what we wanted or expected to happen or asking for the same information from others. You know... just "let it happen." The result sometimes was as described in the OP.

Now early on we have that frank discussion. Cuts way down on the frustration quotient.

[socolais]

This combined with some of your other posts leads me to suspect you're playing with other newbie couples. I think you're playing on the fringe of swinging and expecting mainstream behavior. A fisherman goes where the fish are............