Bringing up swinging to my husband without sounding like a nympho or he's not enough?

sportync · 03-25-2003, 10:42 AM

Y'all say PERVERT like it's a bad thing! It's really just your perspective. I once heard that there is not a whole lot of difference between kinky and perverted.....kinky is doing it with a feather...perverted is using the whole chicken!! Ok, maybe perverted is too strong a word. But seriously, talk, talk and then talk some more. I have quite a time getting Mrs. Sporty to share fantasies (she also claims not to have any....yea, right!) but getting her to share them is like pulling teeth. I'll tell her mine in a minute, but she claims that she's getting all she could want. Oh, well....different strokes for different folks! Sportync

DragonsLair · 03-25-2003, 12:21 PM

I think sometimes people don't want to share their fantasies because they're afraid they'll be laughed at or worse, considered a freak or a sicko. Especially if the fantasies contain anything painful or strange, like sex with animals. Everyone wants to be accepted and the fear of being rejected is strong.

Best advice is to keep talking and gently trying to get your partner to open up and share the fantasies. But don't push. And realize, your partner might never be comfortable enough to share their fantasies.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

Nymph an' Satyr · 03-25-2003, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by J & K
Now how would you know about F-16's and AWACS? LOL!! I think they go hand-in-hand. They both need eachother. Just like a cpl---hehehehe.

-J

Now that is an excellent point. My metaphor was better than I thought

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03-25-2003, 10:42 AM	#16 (permalink)
sportync Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 232 Location: eastern north carolina	Y'all say PERVERT like it's a bad thing! It's really just your perspective. I once heard that there is not a whole lot of difference between kinky and perverted.....kinky is doing it with a feather...perverted is using the whole chicken!! Ok, maybe perverted is too strong a word. But seriously, talk, talk and then talk some more. I have quite a time getting Mrs. Sporty to share fantasies (she also claims not to have any....yea, right!) but getting her to share them is like pulling teeth. I'll tell her mine in a minute, but she claims that she's getting all she could want. Oh, well....different strokes for different folks! Sportync __________________ this ain't no dress rehearsal

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03-25-2003, 12:21 PM	#17 (permalink)
DragonsLair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 1,020 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Married Couple	I think sometimes people don't want to share their fantasies because they're afraid they'll be laughed at or worse, considered a freak or a sicko. Especially if the fantasies contain anything painful or strange, like sex with animals. Everyone wants to be accepted and the fear of being rejected is strong. Best advice is to keep talking and gently trying to get your partner to open up and share the fantasies. But don't push. And realize, your partner might never be comfortable enough to share their fantasies. DragonsLair He is T. I am A.