Husband doesn't agree with my boundaries

[jcbicouple]

We are full swap, but are always still together when we do (touching, or close enough to touch...it's still very much an "us" thing), but we only started having intercourse about 2 - 3 years ago. Before that it was always just soft with no intercourse involved. We didn't introduce that until we were both comfortable with it and had talked about it a lot. Even then, it was a slow process, trying, having mixed feelings, sorting through those, and going from there. There are still times that we don't want the other to have intercourse, for what ever reason and we find that very ok, and acceptable for us. What the other one wants is very important, and if for any reason they aren't feeling real secure or whatever, well...that's all that matters. We can still have fun, just doing what everyone is enjoying and not doing what doesn't feel right right then.
Just do like everyone on this board says over and over: Move at the slowest persons speed, and respect one anothers feelings. Truthfully, We had an awful lot of fun not having intercourse, and there are still sometimes where it doesn't happen just because it doesn't get that far. We were in a bed with two other couples a few weeks ago (Oh ya! That was fun!!) with every intention of just having fun and doing what felt right...we all had oral, but wound up having intercourse all at the same time with all of our own SOs.