new partner is not comfortable with me telling my husband the details of our playtime

[jedi6942]

I'd never try to tell you how to live your life. However, if MY wife ever choses another man's feelings over mine, she might as well stay there. I will never play second in importance to my wife. Plain and simple. I am her husband. Others are "friends."

Likewise, I will never permit another woman any position that disrespects my soulmate.

Talk about a deal breaker!

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by jedi6942

I'd never try to tell you how to live your life. However, if MY wife ever choses another man's feelings over mine, she might as well stay there. I will never play second in importance to my wife. Plain and simple. I am her husband. Others are "friends."

Likewise, I will never permit another woman any position that disrespects my soulmate.

Talk about a deal breaker!

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[blondie77]

I agree with the above posts.....your husband comes first. It's that simple. He has a need that isn't being met...he's asked you to share the details and you've denied him. He's let you know that he's not comfortable with your keeping intimate details from him, yet you stand by your lover. You need to ask yourself one question: If this was your husband in the situation, if he was the one having sex with another woman and refused to share the details with you because the other woman wasn't comfortable with it, how would you feel? You are putting this other man before your marriage. This other mans feelings might be valid, and of course you need to respect him, but in asking you to keep something from your husband, this man is NOT respecting you, your husband or your marriage. Don't be selfish...this is your husbands fantasy too, why are you leaving him out of it?

[Mistral Wind]

I agree with your husband. You really have 2 choices

1 Give up the other man or
2 Tell all to your husband. Husband gave permission so you should respond in kind.

I feel swinging requires total honesty and a lone swing with this guy is almost crossing the boundaries and the other man is trying to move this into a private relationship and exclude your husband. A bad feeling is coming out?

My gut instinct is to drop him what he is asking starts to sound like control not free happy sex with another partner which is what hubby sanctioned.

That is my advice for what it is worth

Mistral x