Worried about wife being alone with strange men

[madbrook123]

It really turn me on seeing my wife kissing with other guys in the club.

Later when my wife request to a hotel room with a guy but i am worried for her with a stranger.I told her i want to be there but she said she feels uneasy with me around.

i am worried what if the guy might turn roungh on her or gang rape her.

anyone has this problem ? what should i do?


need help..... sorry my english is not very good........hope you guys understand what i trying to say.

[sexyshelby]

If you are uncomfortable with her being alone with another man, then simply tell her.
In swinging, if one is uncomfortable then you need to back things up and talk it over.

Tell your wife about your concerns for HER safety. Personally, as a woman, I wouldn't want to left alone with a stranger. I would want the security of having my partner there in case things dont go as planned.

Bottom line: talk to your wife.

~SS

[SanDiego]

Personally I would never be cool with my wife and another guy doing anything while I am not there. <EG>

To each their own though....

[janaandjames]

Personally I would never be cool with my wife and another guy doing anything while I am not there.

Thats our rule too,
but at clubs you do at times get separated .. and in that scenario its ok for either of us to touch or kiss etc., but not to have sex.

jj

[mitzi54]

My wife or I never go off alone with a stranger. One of our rules. You get us both or nothing at all. I am her protector, and for the reasons you listed she would never want to go alone.

[SanDiego]

Originally Posted by mitzi54

My wife or I never go off alone with a stranger. One of our rules. You get us both or nothing at all. I am her protector, and for the reasons you listed she would never want to go alone.

[NCcoupl4fun]

just a suggestion...if you dont feel she is safe with "stangers" then dont let it be with strangers...
for my husband and i, we only play with couples we know...of course this takes a while but well worth it in the end. we feel more comfortable when the time comes and feel we are safe if we happen to go to separate rooms.

[WesternSwing]

I also would also never be comfortable with my wife and a stranger alone. Although she has played alone it has always been with someone we know well.

Why does your wife really want to be alone with him? I would bet she doesn't want to hurt your feelings if she seems to be having to good a time. So you two need to talk about this in depth.

Lastly, if it doesn't work for one of you, it doesn't work for both of you. Meaning if it makes you uncomfortable then your wife shouldn't do it (and visa-versa). Doing so will just cause trouble in the relationship. Swinging is an activity that should be exciting for both of you, not just exciting for one and a source of anxiety for the other.

Mr. WS

[Merric]

have to agree though my wife doesn't swing that if she did I would have to be there. No if ands or buts about it.

[Amanda69]

Funny when I was single and not in the lifestyle I would pick up men and go off with them if the mood struck. Before I realized my high sex drive could also be used in a relationship Never had a problem or an issue with safety.

When we play we play at house parties so usually we know some of the attendees and as you are in a house there are others around to help if something went wrong. Many in our group play separate (we don't).

Can't see going off to a hotel with someone though that I didn't know without my partner.

Why not go to an on premise club or private party then if she wants to go off and play with a stranger she can but more safely.

[mickey&minnie]

Glad I read this one!!! My hubby and I are discussing entering this lifestyle and have discussed various topics including if we were to be in the same room while the other is playing, good point to bring up tonight, I was worried about feelings getting hurt if one was enjoying it alot. Never thought about the safety issue. New Rule for us...never alone. It was more him not wanting to be in same room with me and another man, but now I wwant him there! I was to be included if he is with another female, more fun for me LOL. I love this place, great for newbies to get advice. I think you should be in the room if you are not with a couple you have known for a long time and trust.
Minnie of mickey&minnie

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by mickey&minnie

Glad I read this one!!! My hubby and I are discussing entering this lifestyle and have discussed various topics including if we were to be in the same room while the other is playing, good point to bring up tonight, I was worried about feelings getting hurt if one was enjoying it alot. Never thought about the safety issue. New Rule for us...never alone. It was more him not wanting to be in same room with me and another man, but now I wwant him there! I was to be included if he is with another female, more fun for me LOL. I love this place, great for newbies to get advice. I think you should be in the room if you are not with a couple you have known for a long time and trust.
Minnie of mickey&minnie

Part of the 'joy' of swinging is knowing your wife/husband is having a good time. I think a mistake a lot of couples make is going seperate for the first time. The imagination can make it FAR worse than the reality. We made that mistake and for a week or two it really bothered me. Now its ok either way, but overall I think the worst thing a couple can do for their first full swap is seperate rooms.

[mickey&minnie]

Well we discussed it last night and we will be in the same room, for safety issues and also for the imagination issue LOL. I think it would be worse if we were separate at this point since we are brand new. Hubby agrees and we will just enjoy eachother enjoying others.
Minnie