Is it normal for things to go so well with so few rules?

[CaribbeanCpl]

Originally Posted by WonTheSexLotto

We, too, had a fantastic time before, during and after our first swing (earlier this month). Not a hint of jealousy.

Laugh if you want, but we currently have 19 rules that we easily mutually agreed to. There are a few primary rules involving general behavior (like we play together or not at all, and things proceed at the pace of the slowest person). The rest involve various boundaries (like keeping our play confined to certain areas of the house -- the living room and guest room only, for instance). I won't copy them all here, unless people really want to see them.

I would like to read them. Thanks in advance!!

[Hottunes]

Some very good replies!!! We just had a night with a brand new cpl. It was awesome, we went at a nice slow place and we were all comfortable. All 4 of us agreed on the limits.With a good comfort level has lead us to another get together. Aftee reading the responses, the one "rule" that I did not see is "Condoms are a must".

Just a thought

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by Hottunes

...the one "rule" that I did not see is "Condoms are a must".

Just a thought

Good point. That is such a firm thing that it is almost above rule status.
Rule #1.1- Condumns are a must!

Originally Posted by curiousandinter

"If I may ask, what first made you decide that you wanted to do it? Was it a purely sexual thing or was it something else??? Like taking your current relationship to a new level of trust?? Wanted to enter into a new type of friendship?? Just wondering because I have been considering this for a while, but I am still not sure why I feel like I want to try.
Also, when you first did a full swap, were you all in the same room?"

N would have to give you her perspective but here is mine- Honestly at first, I just wanted to give both of us the opportunity to have sex with other people. Nothing more. N shut me down and I accepted that it would never happen, and didn't bring it up any more. A year later, we talked a little and both of us had changed...don't ask me how or why. N was open to checking things out and I felt different about the whole deal as well. I now wanted more to see N be pleasured than anything else. I also just felt it was like some sort of hurdle that we could get past and defang the sex taboo. Like a typical guy, there was still the "I want to get some strange" feelings, but that wasn't the driver.

We did same room for several reasons- 1) We didn't want our imaginations running wild. 2) We wanted to be able to communicate with each other. 3) We both though it might be really hot to see each other with other people...for us, IT WAS!

Our sex has always been fantastic and sex with eachother is still by far the best. Sex with others is just fun and a great way to make friends (I laughed as I wrote that because it still sounds funny to me...sex to make friends...but we really have met some cool people).

Originally Posted by curiousandinter

"Also, would it be best to find a couple within the lifestyle prior to going to the parties and clubs so that you do not feel so unsure about yourself prior during these events."

I could respond to the first post because it was asking for personal experience. This one though, about going to events, I will have to leave to the more experienced folks on here.

As always, thank you to all!

T of NandT

[NandTfromCA]

By the way...

Originally Posted by Hottunes

...We just had a night with a brand new cpl. It was awesome, we went at a nice slow place and we were all comfortable...

That's fantastic to hear! Congratulations!

[glitter]

Originally Posted by WonTheSexLotto

We, too, had a fantastic time before, during and after our first swing (earlier this month). Not a hint of jealousy.

Laugh if you want, but we currently have 19 rules that we easily mutually agreed to. There are a few primary rules involving general behavior (like we play together or not at all, and things proceed at the pace of the slowest person). The rest involve various boundaries (like keeping our play confined to certain areas of the house -- the living room and guest room only, for instance). I won't copy them all here, unless people really want to see them.

Well I would love to see your rules. We haven't swapped yet but have enjoyed the club alot there is a couple interested but I'm having problems figuring out just how I feel and what limits I will feel ok about. So, if you could share with me I would appreciate it.

[WonTheSexLotto]

We've been away from the computer for a while--we'll post the "19 Rules" soon!

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