Can we have a MFM Softswing?

[curiousk&s]

Hi Everyone! Mrs Curious and I are new to the "community". =) We've been having a blast reading the postings and thought we'd finally say hello and post a question to the board. We've been married for 14 years and have had 2 soft-swinging experiences, both the same couple; included pretty much everything except intercourse with the other couple as Mrs C didn't feel ready to go this far. We both agree that a MFM experience could be a blast, just completely focused on Mrs C. But here's the dilemma: Mrs C is not ready for intercourse with another man. She feels that bringing another man into the bed with us would be super-fun but not fair for the third-party male, if she did not allow him to finish via sexual intercourse. She would finish him off, but not that way. I think that most men would be satisfied with this. We'd love to hear your thoughts on this and, just in general, any advice about bringing a third party into our relationship. Thanks! CuriousK&S.

[Mike and Jan]

Why not talk to the couple you've had the two soft swing experiences with? See if that wife will loan you guys her husband. Now, you may have to reciprocate at some later date, but it sure would make your threesome more relaxing to already know the guy.

[meandher2go]

We have had a couple of MFM's and the first 2 or 3 were NOT with penetration as she wasn't ready for it. she had a better time each time and now loves any swinging.

Any guy in his right mind would be VERY happy to join in on that kinda scene.

on our first FMF she wasn't sure she wanted me to penetrate which i was fine with so we didnt. then she realized how fun and sexy it is to see your loved one having a great time. now she encourages it..

keep talking and make sure to follow the rules to a "T". then the rules might get a little looser cause she will trust you more and know how she is gonna feel in those situations.

[BradAndJanet]

The last time J and I had an MFM, the guy satisfied himself with her sucking and jerking him off. Although she was willing, he didn't ask or attempt to have intercourse with her. We all left satisfied and happy, which is the bottom line.

Putting myself in the shoes of the 'other guy', I'd be happy with your scenario myself. I think that as long as you're up front with people, it will be fine.

-B

[jon&roberta]

I'd be happy to do a MFM under those rules since I've experienced 2 MFM's like that in the past. I would orally take the wife and the play with her breasts while the husband had intercourse with her.

My reward was a breathtaking blow job after he finished with her.

[Sunswept]

Originally Posted by curiousk&s

...... She feels that bringing another man into the bed with us would be super-fun but not fair for the third-party male, if she did not allow him to finish via sexual intercourse. She would finish him off, but not that way. I think that most men would be satisfied with this. We'd love to hear your thoughts on this and, just in general, any advice about bringing a third party into our relationship. Thanks! CuriousK&S.

LOL! I think you are right! I would have no problem with this. So my advise is that the fair thing to do is make sure you discuss this with the other party up front, and let him decide!

You both are being very thoughtful to consider what is fair for the third party. That gets you mucho points in my book, and that along with the fact you both feel a MFM would be super-fun would be way more important to me as a third party than the no PIV with the wife rule you set! There is so much more to sexual pleasure than PIV!

Good luck!

[parcarcaliente]

Hi there, I have to agree with Mike and Jan:

Originally Posted by Mike and Jan

Why not talk to the couple you've had the two soft swing experiences with? See if that wife will loan you guys her husband. Now, you may have to reciprocate at some later date, but it sure would make your threesome more relaxing to already know the guy.

and if you find a decent guy to hang out with, and if you set the rules with no penetration involved, I'm sure he will be happy to do it with you both.

Best luck, would like to know how goes with you after your experience, take care

[HornyCouple]

Out first MFM was this way. we were up front about it and the guy knew the rules. She would finish him off with a blow job. He had no complaints...

[De and Ci]

Yeah, You want to make damn sure he knows the rules up front. With us the whole point of an mfm is the opportunity for her to screw another guy and for me to experience a sexually insatiable woman, heck if she's going to suck another guy's cock-she might as well just boink him as well-just our opinion. But diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks-thats what its all about.
Also, if she doesen't mind anal, you could suggest to the guy that he finish by fucking her in the ass-there are many guys who wouldn't mind doing that

[HornyCouple]

for us this bj only was the first time meeting. however since it was our first time to do anything with another she wanted to go slow. but now there is no looking back and everything is pretty much game now.

[Lustman]

Without intercourse? Of course. Any decent guy would just be happy to please the lady without expecting a return

[curiousagain]

When I first heard of soft swinging with a SM I thought that would be difficult. But the seed was planted in my mind and I have thought about it quite a bit. I would still receive pleasure and would still be helping the female experience a MFM of some type and getting a very erotic experience. So, what's not to like? So after some thought what at first sounded a "little odd" has made a great deal of sense to me.

I had a very very good couple mentor me so to speak when I began the lifestyle and have always tried to do the same with anybody trying the lifestyle. The soft swing with a SM would fall under that heading if they were just wanting to ease into it so to speak.

[letsplay33]

Male point of view here; If she is not ready for intercourse with another male I am sure that the other male would not mind if he was told up front and as long as she did finish him off. Tell him that she is taking it slow and that intercourse is out for now. There is plenty of other things to do. I enjoy a nice bj so I would never mind.

[Tat2]

As a single male I have to say that it wouldn't bother me at all. I think you will find that most single male swingers would feel the same. In any MFM it should always be the lady that decides how far things are to go and of course with the husbands approval.

[SanDiegoM4cpl]

another single m point of view if you dont mind.....


i as a single m would love it. i have been with a few couples that it was just oral or a hand job for me. i had no problems with it. it doesnt need to be discussed up fron because any male that doesnt understand you are in charge does not need to be naked with you, however, it would help being discussed earlier so that he doesnt persist or try to slip it in while youre aroused and not expecting it.

rule 1 you are in charge
rule 2 there are millions of single guys that are good looking that would love the opurtunity to massage your wife, maybe give her oral or particaipate in any way to make a memorable event possible.
rule 3 see rule1

kyle