Personal Hygiene

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PERSONAL HYGIENE


This advice on personal hygiene is aimed at beginners and people who are considering trying this lifestyle and is a fairly detailed list of things to consider. For a lot of people who are into this lifestyle personal hygiene is a very big factor and is not something that should ever be over looked, in fact GOOD personal hygiene will not only boost your own confidence, but will also attract other people towards you and keep them coming back, by all means if you find this very long post useful please add your comments.



HAIR – Your hair should have been recently cut or styled (and should be washed and conditioned before every meet) and have a clean and none greasy appearance.

Gel, Wax, Mouse, Sprays – Heavy use of such hair products should be avoided, firstly they can leave the hair looking and feeling greasy, wet, and sticky, which isn’t good if people are running their hands through your hair, and secondly because after ten minutes “rolling around” in bed your hair will probably look like something out of a science fiction movie anyway lol. Safety, is another vital aspect to think about when using these products, let’s say for example that someone touches your hair that’s covered in hair sprays and gels “and then touches their eyes” or even genital area, that alone could cause a serious reaction, and yes in some extreme cases people can be heavily allergic to such products, another good question is if they are flammable, and if your hair is going to set alight if you brush past a candle or naked flame.

Hair Dye – Can be very affective, and can improve appearance, for example covering grey can make you look years younger, or just re-dying your hair and covering roots, but remember hair dye is powerful stuff so always read the instructions well, and my advice would be to always dye your hair (5 to 7) days in advance, which will allow some time for excess dye to be washed out during bathing. REMEMBER if you have just dyed your hair then for sometime after this can rub off onto bed sheets, cloths and pillows, which obviously people wouldn’t appreciate, so by all means dye your hair in advance and give enough time for any excess dye to be washed out.

Overall – The ideal would be to have clean, recently cut hair that is shampooed / conditioned before every meet, and smells fresh and is healthy to the touch, this will not only help boost your own confidence, but will heighten other peoples opinions of you, because believe me greasy, unclean, and smelly hair is NOT a way to impress and wont get you invited back, so make sure your hair is thoroughly clean before every meet.



EYEBROWS – This for some people is an area that can often be over looked or just totally ignored (men often been the worst offenders) and sometimes eye brows can grow vastly out of control and become very long, thick and bushy, however this can be a big mistake because overgrown and untended for eyes brows can be a turn off for some people, and also because some studies have shown that people with stronger and thicker eyes brows tend to look more aggressive “or rougher” than those with lightly trimmed eyes brows, and that might not be the best imagine to be casting. Many women already care for their eyebrows on a regular basis, but for anyone who doesn’t I’d suggest doing a little study in caring for them, and maybe some light trimming if needed.


EAR HAIR / WAX – Excessive ear hair / ear wax can also be a turn off to some people, and can also be distracting if noticed, my advice would be to trim away any unwanted hair, and to make sure the outer ear is thoroughly washed with soap and water, and that your ears have no major wax build ups. Example – Have you ever licked or sucked the top part of someone’s ear and it’s actually felt a little greasy or waxy, this can be avoided simply by washing the outer ear well enough with warm water and soap, and by removing any large wax build ups.


NOSE HAIR – This again can be an overlooked area that many people forget, but also one that could potentially put people off or serve as a distraction, ideally you should trim away any “visible” nose hairs before meeting, witch can be done delicately with a pair of small grooming scissors, or with a special nose grooming device. REMEMBER if people are on top of you, underneath you, laid next to you, then basically there in a prime position to stare right up your nose, and if that’s covered in nose hair and snot then it probably wont impress, so by all means cut away some hair and give your nose a good clean and blow, making sure to get rid of any bogies, snot and hair.

TEETH – Oral hygiene is perhaps one of the biggest and most vital areas that people will judge you on, because “no offence” but if your teeth are yellow, smelly, milky, covered in stains and tarter, and you have bad breath, then basically that will be a very big turn off for a LOT of people, and if you want to be involved in this lifestyle and would like to play with and experience other people then I’d suggest keeping your mouth, tongue and teeth as clean as possible, and should take extra care before meets and give your teeth, tongue and mouth a really good clean with a toothbrush and toothpaste, making sure that your teeth and mouth are clean and fresh.

Remember (a lot) of things will affect your breath, such as eating garlic, fish, pickled products, smoking, or even drinking alcohol and coffee, so there are MANY things that can make your breath smell, and on most occasions kissing someone who’s been eating, drinking or smoking isn’t that pleasant. My advice is obviously to make sure your teeth and mouth are cleaned very well before meeting, and if you require further cleaning then take along a bottle of “none antiseptic” mouthwash or some chewing gum, either of these can be used before playing. (Top Mouth Wash Tip) – Buy a bottle of none antiseptic mouthwash and just before playing let everyone involved have a mouthful of the same mouthwash, that way when it comes to playing everyone’s mouths smells and tastes the same, HOWEVER after using the mouthwash make sure to spit it out and give your mouth a good rinse with cold water or else the smell and taste of mouthwash stays to strong for kissing comfort, and can also affect oral sex with a menthol like affect.




I can not stress this enough because yes some people’s opinions of oral hygiene differ greatly, some people brush there teeth two times a day, others brush them maybe two times a week, but honestly if you want to make clean, fun, and long lasting friends from this lifestyle then I’d suggest you make your teeth and oral hygiene as clean as possible “before every meet” and would even consider using mouthwash before playing, especially if you have smoked, drunk or eaten since brushing your teeth. IF your teeth are in a bad state, or if you fancy taking things a step further then by all means go to a dentist and ask for a “scrape and polish” which will have a dramatic affect, or alternatively you could try some of the teeth whitening kits that are available from most pharmacies and super markets. Good oral hygiene will win you a lot of points with potential play mates, so make sure you are clean, fresh, and shining before every meet.


BEARDS – Having a beard in some respects is perfectly fine and acceptable, as long as you do understand certain aspects, firstly having a large overgrown and untended for beard can look messy at times, can get wet or even carry food particles and will put some people off “as not everyone likes beards” so my advice if you have a bread is to make sure its trimmed nicely, looks presentable and well groomed. If you are unsure how to do this correctly then by all means go to a local hair stylist as a lot of them will also have a shaving service, or will be able to direct you to somewhere with a shaving service.

STUBBLE – Men who do not have full beards will often get stubble and forget to shave for a few days “well lads” maybe it gives you a bit of a rough look, maybe it doesn’t look that bad, and is only a bit of stubble, but my honest advice is to shave that stubble off before every meet, simply because having stubble can not only lower peoples overall view of your hygiene “look he hasn’t even bothered to shave, bet he hasn’t even washed either” and so on…. But more to the point please remember that stubble can be like “SANDPAPER” and if you’re rubbing up against people, and maybe even giving oral sex then basically it could feel like your rubbing sandpaper between someone’s legs, so my honest advice would be to remove the stubble and have smooth skin.


BACK HAIR – Back hair is another big turn off for some people and is an easy area to overlook, miss or ignore, in fact we have all seen men walking down the street with huge clumps of thick back hair coming out the top of their shirt, and some men seriously have a problem with thick, dark back hair, and often leave it to go wild. This obviously is a big mistake simply because unsightly and untended for hair can put people off you quickly, my advice would be to “shave” your back, or ask your partner to shave your back, and if neither of these are an option then go to a waxing salon and ask for advice.



UNDER ARM HAIR – Most women keep their underarms (and legs) shaved anyway, but occasionally some prefer the natural look. Well regardless to say the shaved approach is often the most accepted and desired for women, in fact some people would be put off by women with hairy armpits. Men on the other hand generally don’t shave their armpits, but would say a light trimming (if you have very heavy under arm hair) would not hurt, as again overgrown or sweaty under arms will put some people off.

UPPER ARM HAIR – Some men don’t just have hair on their backs, chests and under their arms, but will also have hair at the top of their arms, such as their shoulders, and around the bicep muscle, these hairs at the top of the arms can sometime look messy and give an uncared for impression, which again will help put people off, my advice would be to shave away these hairs before playing, and again if you are unsure then by all means ask for advice at a waxing salon.


HANDS / FINGER NAILS – Hands are probably one of the most vital areas of your entire body, not only because we use them to touch and please people, but also because we use them to touch EVERYTHING ELSE and they can often be the dirtiest parts of our body that often touch and pick up germs. For example we touch the toilet seat, touch the light switch, touch the banister on the stairs, touch ashtrays and bins, touch our shoes, noses, private areas (and so on) in fact just about anything we touch in this world, we touch with our hands, and then obviously your wanting to slide those fingers up another girl, or maybe have them licked or sucked by your partner during sex. My honest advice is to ALWAYS make sure your hands are very clean, and if possible wash them with anti bacterial hand wash before playing; this will help eradicate any germs.

Nails - Finger nails are another area that is fairly easy to over look “especially if your in a rush” but be warned that NO ONE will thank you for coming near them with dirty, broken, sharp or smelly finger nails, and if your planning to shove those fingers inside a girl (such as fingering) then you could easily cut or hurt the girl if your nails are to long or sharp, and if they are dirty then you could be passing on germs or infection. My advice would be to cut or groom your nails before each meeting, and make sure to do this before you have a bath or shower (not after) this will help make sure your nails are clean.


PUBIC HAIR – This again is another huge factor in how people will view you, and again is something that people’s opinions differ on greatly, for example some people don’t mind a little trimmed and groomed pubic hair, others would prefer none at all, while others adopt a more natural and overgrown approach, so yes peoples opinions in this do differ greatly, but in my experience a least (natural / overgrown / uncared for) pubic hair DOES NOT WORK in this lifestyle and certainly does not help. Overgrown pubic areas on (men or women) can cause numerous problems during sex, for example they can get caught in the teeth or mouth during oral sex, or can even become tangled around the penis or condom which can cause pain or discomfort, and basically if your going to be playing with someone then is nice to be able to see what your playing with.

Please understand that during this lifestyle, and while playing around with others, its fair to say that between your legs will be looked at and touched a lot, so do you really want someone seeing an untidy, overgrown and un-groomed mess of pubic hair? My advice is that “a little pubic is better than a lot” and that a good trim and shave in this area will not only make you feel cleaner, and raise peoples opinions of you, but will also make certain sexual aspects easier and more comfortable. Men often over look this area and have seen men pull out their genitals that are covered in thick bushy pubic hair, and their penis and ball sack are covered in hairs, well would you like that shoved in your mouth, or would you prefer a clean, shaved and groomed area? In my eyes little hair is better.


BUM HAIR – This again falls into the unsightly hair category because some people can have very hairy bums, this can sometimes be excessive, in which case I’d recommend either shaving or asking for advice at a waxing salon.

Bum-Hole Hair – This is another area that can cause problems and men and women alike can grow fairly thick hairs directly around the bum-hole area, which are hairs you might not notice or even care about, but the chances are someone will care about those hairs if they are licking that area, or having anal sex or play with you. Say for example you are a male and you nicely trim and shave your pubic hair “well done it will help” but you have forgotten your bum / ball sack area, so one thing leads to another, you lay down, and some nice girl decides to suck on your penis, but inches below her face is a tangled mess of ball and bum hair that’s been totally forgotten about (not nice) so by all means remove any excess hair on your bum, or around your bum-hole area, and would actually recommend giving your bum-hole a good wash with warm water.


FEET / TOE NAILS – Obviously feet and toe nails can be a sweaty, sometimes smelly part of the body, and it’s also easy for nails to break, chip, become sharp, or pick up dirt, and in some cases smell rather cheesy or bad. By all means you can have the best bodily hygiene in every other aspect, but if your feet are smelly and your toes are dirty and sharp like razors then chances are people won’t be impressed, my advice would be to cut your toe nails and make sure to thoroughly wash your feet before any meet.


BATH / SHOWER TIME – Make sure you have a (really good) bath or shower before each meeting, and PLEASE don’t shower the day before, or countless hours before you meet someone and think that’s ok, because its not, instead shower a few hours before you meet so you’re as fresh as possible. This again boils down to a difference of views because one person will be freshly showered, will be clean, fresh and smelling nice, where the next person will say “Hey, I showered yesterday morning, it will be fine lets play” or in other words I have been working for the best part of two days and now want you to play around with me (not nice) so please make sure to have a shower shortly before you meet people, that way you will be in peak condition and will not have had chance to sweat much or become dirty.

I recommend making this bath or shower good and taking a little extra time than usual, use a little extra shower gel and make sure to cover yourself well, give your feet a good clean (remember cut your nails before having a shower or bath) but give your feet a good clean and wash, shampoo and rinse your hair, then use conditioner, and take the time to make sure your body is thoroughly clean, that your ears are free of wax, that your feet don’t smell, that under your arms have been cleaned well to remove any sweat or old deodorant, and that your genital area and bum are very clean and smell free. Make sure to have a very good shower or bath, don’t just jump in and out in 30 seconds but take the time to have a full and proper wash, and make sure to follow some of the advice above such as trimming away unsightly hair, brushing teeth well, trimming pubic hair ect.



Other Hygiene Tips:


PERFUME / AFTERSHAVE – Obviously after bathing and grooming yourself adding some nice aftershave or perfume can be nice, HOWEVER as silly as this sounds please AVOID putting it on your face, neck or chest because people often lick or kiss these areas, and having a mouthful of aftershave or perfume is not nice. Some women will sometimes spray there chest area in deodorant or perfume after bathing, where some men may even spray around there genitals, obviously both are mistakes because these are places that are sucked and licked. Overall don’t use to much perfume or aftershave as your not trying to gas anyone, and avoid using it on the neck, and chest areas especially, instead you could try using a bit on your knees and elbows, both of which are places that aren’t often licked or kissed during play.


DEODORANT – This obviously comes in various forms, liquid roll on, spray, hard roll on, and in my opinion (if your not allergic to them) then a nice deodorant should be used before meeting (especially under the arms) which is what they are designed for, as remember during play / social evenings it can get rather hot, and people can get warm, and even nervous, which will cause excessive sweating, or even body odor (BO) and a good deodorant will help combat this, but again do not spray or apply to places that could be kissed or licked, as licking deodorant is not nice. You could even consider taking a can of deodorant with you to meetings, so you could quickly use some if needed.


CLOTHS – My advice on cloths is rather limited simply because I’m not about to start telling you what to wear lol (that’s your choice) but my biggest peace of advice would be to wear something that your comfortable in and that’s socially acceptable and casual, but also to PLEASE wear fresh clothing and DO NOT have a full bath or shower only to put old sweaty cloths back on, if your going to take the time to bath, groom and pamper yourself then please do not spoil the affect by putting old smelly cloths back on.


MOUTHWASH – Mouthwash can be extremely useful, and as described above if you have eaten, drank, or smoked using mouthwash can be very beneficial, also you could consider “everyone involved” using the mouthwash before playing, which should put everyone’s breath on a fairly even standing. You can also use mouthwash after sex, or even after certain sexual acts like oral sex or licking of the bum and this will clean out your mouth and kill off a lot of the germs HOWEVER (I can NOT recommend) the use of antibacterial mouthwashes. Some people claim that using antibacterial mouthwash will kill off any germs and bacteria after sex, however it also kills all of your friendly bacteria that are supposed to fight infection, in which case you could actually be leaving yourself with no defense. Remember antibacterial mouthwash will also kill off your friendly bacteria and that manes the smallest amount of infection or germs could spread rapidly in the mouth, on which note I’d not recommend using antibacterial mouthwash.

Would also recommend swilling the mouth out well with cold water after using mouthwash because often the taste and almost menthol like feel of mouthwash can be to strong while kissing or playing, and especially for oral sex, but by all means use to nice normal mouthwash, and then rinse away any strong tastes or smells with cold water. Mouthwash can be a really useful tool no matter if you’re at home or traveling, in fact you can even buy pocket sized travel versions now that are perfect for social / play dates, and obviously mouthwash is something that everyone can use, and will not only freshen breath, but will impress others and help keep your mouth clean.


WASHING THE VAGINA – I have been with a few girls in my life that have been perfectly clean people, have had clean houses, clean cloths, nice cars and jobs, and have been nice and hygienic people, but have noticed that “sometimes” no matter how clean the person “some girls” seem a little scared to wash their vagina properly, or at least don’t bother to wash their genitals properly, maybe they spray a bit of water at it from the shower or rub lightly over the top (but that’s about it) and sometimes girls just rubbing lightly over the top for 10 seconds isn’t enough to remove any smells or liquids, especially that are just inside the lips. For example a girl can be spotless, she can be totally groomed from head to toe, and everything on the outside is perfect, but as soon as you part her vagina lips it’s a different story, because she has only lightly rubbed or sprinkled water on the outside. My advice would be to make sure your vagina is properly cleaned (don’t just briefly rub the surface for a few seconds) but instead take the time to clean that area properly, and try lightly cleaning the lips / just inside the lips with warm water washing away any trapped or old smells.

WASHING THE PENIS – Obviously make sure to wash your penis very well before meeting people as this often can be a hot “or sometimes smelly area” so make sure to be fully washed before any meeting. Most men are perfectly capable of washing their own penis lol, but one area that is often over looked is the ball sack area, and a lot of people concentrate on washing the penis / pubic hair region, so make sure to clean your ball sack area properly as well, and this will add to the overall freshness when washed.


SPOTS – Spots can obviously be awkward, painful, and usually have bad timing, and yes some people are affected by them more than others, however “my advice” for a play situation would be to firmly pop any spots beforehand, then have your full bath or shower, then treat the spots after. HOWEVER if you are “badly affected by spots” then I’d suggest seeking medical advice before taking any action. I know that medically you are suppose to leave spots and not pop them, because popping spots can in extreme cases lead to scaring of the face, however for occasional or mild spots I’d suggest popping, cleaning, and treating them before playing, because in my eyes at least looking at a small blemish of red skin, is better than looking at a big white headed spot that gives a greasy impression, so would suggest popping and treating spots accordingly.

Spot Products – There are countless anti spot products on the market from creams, washes, pads, wipes and whatever else, these products obviously have varied results but are designed to help, so yes if you have regular problems with spots and greasy skin then I’d suggest trying out a few of these products and finding out what work best for you, as remember they might not kill off every spot, or even stop spots happening all together, but they should leave your skin feeling a lot less greasy and dirty, so if nothing else they will freshen your skin properly. For a play situation I’d recommend popping any spots, having a full bah or shower and making sure to thoroughly wash with an anti spot face wash, rinsing your face well, drying out properly then maybe add a touch of aftershave / perfume to that area (just a tiny bit) which will help the spot dry up and stay disinfected, and that in my eyes is better than people staring a your big white spot all night lol.


PARTY / TRAVEL BAG - Some people will create their own party or travel bag to take along when they meet people or go to club events, and within that bag will obviously be numerous items they could need, not only from a safety point of view such as padlocks for lockers, medication, and so on, but also for personal hygiene point of view with things like mouthwash, towels, spare underwear, breath mints, condoms, nice aftershave or perfume ect. I’d not recommend this bag been to large, but something small to medium sized with a padlock clasp on the zip would be ideal, that would be easy to carry and could be secured a little more needed.




DO’S AND DON’T’S


DO: Check your HAIR, get it styled or cut if possible, and fully washed and conditioned
DO: Check your EYEBROWS make sure they are not to overgrown
DO: Check your EARS make sure they are clean and visibly hair / wax free
DO: Check your NOSE, trim away visible hairs, and remove any bogies
DO: Check your TEETH give your teeth / tongue a very good brush and clean
DO: Check your BEARD, (if applicable) and make sure it’s trimmed and presentable
DO: Check your STUBBLE, (if applicable) and shave to have smooth skin
DO: Check your BACK and remove any overgrown or large unsightly hairs
DO: Check your UNDER ARMS make sure they smell nice and aren’t to overgrown
DO: Check your UPPER ARMS such as shoulders and remove any unwanted hairs
DO: Check your HANDS / FINGER NAILS, and make sure they are clean, fresh and cut
DO: Check your PUBIC HAIR and make sure it’s well trimmed, shaved and groomed
DO: Check your BUM HAIR and make sure this is trimmed or shaved if possible
DO: Check your BUM HOLE and clean with warm water and a cloth if you like
DO: Check your FEET / TOE NAILS make sure they are clean, fresh and cut
DO: Check yourself from TOP to BOTTOM and have a full SHOWER / BATH
DO: Check your CLOTHS and make sure to wear clean, freshly washed cloths
DO: Check your BODY ODOR and use some nice DEODORANT to help
DO: Check your SCENT and maybe use some nice PERFUME or AFTERSHAVE
DO: Check your BAG have you got some mouthwash, breath mints, deodorant ECT.
DO: Have a shower a “few hours” before meeting someone, be in top condition
DO: Use mouthwash before play especially if you have been eating, drinking, smoking
DO: (If your teeth are in a bad way) Go to the dentist and get them cleaned
DO: Wash your genitals properly making sure to clean them thoroughly
DO: Check your face for spots they can appear quickly
DO: Use mouthwash after playing to freshen and protect mouths
DO: BE CLEAN, FRESH AND GROOMED BEFORE EVERY MEET




DON’T: Go to work all day then expect to come home and play without showering, and do not think showering the “day before” is expectable, instead shower or bath just before you meet people and be in peak condition.

DON’T: Put old smelly cloths back on after your shower or bath, that would be pointless

DON’T: If possible, eat things that would badly affect your breath, heavy garlic, strong coffee, spicy foods, and if you do then “make sure” to use mouthwash before playing.

DON’T: Spray areas that are going to be kissed, licked or sucked with deodorant, aftershave or perfume.

DON’T: Smoke / Drink unless you plan to thoroughly use mouthwash before playing.

DON’T: Use excessive amounts of wet, sticky, damp or flammable hair products, in fact if you want my honest opinion I’d not use “flammable hair products” AT ALL.

DON’T: Let your personal hygiene slip, make sure your clean, fresh and spotless before every meet, and that will encourage people to pay with you again.


OVERALL – There is a LOT to remember regarding our personal hygiene, and sure at times (it may seem a little extreme) but rest assured having good, clean and fresh personal hygiene is a VITAL PART of this lifestyle, and if you want to have nice and enjoyable experiences, and maybe even longer lasting friendship then I’d strongly suggest making your personal hygiene a priority before each meeting, that alone should boost your own confidence, will attract people towards you, and hopefully will keep those people coming back for more. Trust me, because bad breath, unwashed bodies, cheesy smells, sweaty groins, body odor, yellowing stained teeth, and things like that will send some people running a mile, and will bring your hopes and efforts towards this lifestyle crashing down around you within a single night, BUT on the other hand having good, clean and fresh personal hygiene doesn’t take long (an hour in the bathroom) and it doesn’t cost much (soap, shampoo, razor, toothbrush, ect) hardly the worlds most expensive items, so basically there is little time involved, and little expense.

PLEASE UNDERSTAND that a lot of people put an awful lot of effort into this lifestyle and making it work and happen, and even you yourself will face the same challenges, and the list below is just a few examples of these challenges:


YOU – Maybe spend hours, days, weeks, months or even years speaking with you partner about this subject before your ready to try.

YOU – Take pictures of yourself for online adverts
YOU – Join up to online websites and set up accounts
YOU – Then upload your pictures and write an advert
YOU – Sometimes end up paying membership fees
YOU – Then begin searching for people to chat with
YOU – Finally meet someone who seems decent
YOU – Then chat for a while online and see if you are compatible
YOU – Then have to arrange a convenient time to meet
YOU – Then have to book travel, hotels, even days off work, or baby sitters if needed
YOU – Then have to use your time, money and energy meeting these people


In other words this is NOT A QUICK PROCESS and it can actually take MONTHS to meet someone decent, and you can spend hours of time emailing and setting up accounts, and can spend countless pounds on memberships fees, travel, hotels, cloths, clubs, events, and the many other associated costs, and YES this can take lots of time, lots of energy, and lots of effort, and YES it only needs ONE NIGHT OF BAD HYGIENE and all of that effort could come crashing down, seeing play mates run a mile or lose interest in you quickly. Do you really want to spend MONTHS of your life searching for someone only to scare them away because you couldn’t be bothered to shower before meeting? In my eyes that would be like winning a race but not holding up the cup at the end.

Honestly you could meet someone online today and they could be great, amazing and exactly what your looking for (congratulations) but for all you know it could be a month or two before you all have time to meet, so sure it could take TWO MONTHS to meet that person, but only ONE HOUR to scare them away with bad hygiene, on the other hand if you lock yourself in a bathroom for two hours, if you fully wash your hair, cut your nails, trim your pubic hair, check your nose, mouth, ears genitals, and make sure everything is washed thoroughly and groomed, and that your teeth are as clean and white as possible, then chances are people will have nothing to complain about and will be more likely to enjoy the experience and meet you again if you liked.

The Worst Offenders: The things that people forget the most seem to be, un-trimmed pubic hair, a lot of people will fully shower / bath and will be fairly clean, but then you look down to see a tangled mess of pubic hair that obviously hasn’t been trimmed in months (this for a lot of people isn’t attractive) have seen pictures of men playing before and there pubic hair is so overgrown you can hardly even see the penis, that is not appealing and pubic hair often gets in the way, trim or shave it all down.

Going to work ALL DAY and then expecting to meet up and play is another big offender, as been honest (no matter what job you have) I personally wouldn’t want you to be sweating, working and walking around in the same cloths all day, then expect to pull out your unwashed, clammy and stale genitals and shove them towards me, and wish people would understand that having a shower (the day before, or 10 hours earlier before work) is not appealing, not pleasant, and is a little insulting, or in other words you can be bothered to shower for work, can be bothered to shower for a night out with your friends, but you CANT be bothered to shower to sleep with two or three other people? I’m sorry but NO it is NOT FINE and you may think your unwashed, stale and mildly sweaty body is perfectly fine “you showered 10 hours ago before work, what’s the big deal” well how’s about I work for 10 hours then come to you and expect oral sex with no wash? Have some common decency and “always” have a shower before you meet people.

Teeth are also one of the biggest offenders and some people have very relaxed oral hygiene, but trust me for this lifestyle your oral hygiene needs to be anything but relaxed so PLEASE make sure you brush your teeth and tongue extremely well, people DO NOT want to kiss your yellowing teeth covered in tarter and germs, or bad breath, so make sure your teeth and mouth are thoroughly cleaned before every meet you have, and would take mouthwash along whenever possible.

Cloths are another big offender and people will have a shower / bath and will clean and groom themselves only to put old, musty and used cloths back on, this is a mistake makes sure to use fresh, clean cloths that smell nice. IN FACT over this last few years I have found that buying a (really nice) fabric conditioner (I have been using the Black Diamond One in the black bottle) then it really does have an impact on how your cloths smell, and have had comments of how nice I smell, so yes WEAR FRESH CLOTHS.



MY FINAL ADVICE – My final advice about this subject would be (no matter how good / bad your personal hygiene is) I’d recommend you make it the BEST POSSIBLE before every meet you have, make sure to check yourself from TIP TO TOE and check everything from your hair downwards, check your hair, then your ears, eyebrows, nose, mouth, shoulders, and so on, until your happy that each thing from (top to bottom) has been checked, cleaned, groomed and is fresh as possible. Remember it could take a MONTH to meet someone, but only ONE HOUR to scare them away with bad hygiene, when in reality it would only take ONE HOUR locked in a bathroom and you would be perfectly spotless and clean, my advice to anyone, especially those who are lazy or relaxed with there hygiene is to PUT IN THE EFFORT have a (super clean) and make sure your as clean as possible before every meet.

This is a subject that is worth putting effort into and in the grand scheme of things a few hours getting ready is a small sacrifice to pay, especially when it’s taken you two months to meet the people your meeting (so yes put in the extra effort) this is not a subject where you should think “oh f**k it that will do” you need to be thinking “that’s the best possible” and take the time to properly clip your nails, trim your pubic hair, scrub your teeth, wash thoroughly and so on. This is not a subject to skip or avoid because if you do then you could easily send your new found play mates running to the hills, and straight into the arms of people who can be bothered about personal hygiene. Hope this long rant has given you some ideas about personal hygiene or helped you understand what’s involved, as it can be a little more complicated than just having a quick shower, but trust me if your wanting to go to someone’s house and f**k them and you turn up smelly, unwashed and stale, then in most cases DON’T expect to be invited back.

My last and final thought is simply to REMEMBER that a lot of people DON’T EVEN KNOW that they smell bad. Some people have NO IDEA AT ALL that their breath or body odor stinks (because they cant smell it, they don’t know) so MAKE SURE YOU are not one of those people, make sure YOU are spotless before every meet and that will win you points and good graces with the people you meet, remember an hour in a shower is better than watching two months of effort come crashing down, so yes put in the effort.


Regards x x