Need Help: She didn't smell right!

[Texas_lovers69]

OK We are fairly new to the swinging life, but we have been with a couple of couples. The other night we meet this couple and the wife was hot, the husband to so my wife tells me. My problem was the wife had a particular smell down south. What can I say or suggest to maybe help her out. This couple was great and would like to still be with them, just need some help. Not to familiar with girl products any help would be greatly apprciated.

[txduo2000]

Why haven't you asked your wife about "girl products"? Have you discussed this issue with your wife at all?

Being a non-confrontational person myself, my suggestion would be to engage this other couple in a casual get-together, not sexually charged, and have the girls slip off together for some one-on-one girl talk, whereby your wife could casually ask this other woman if she has ever had any "odor issues".

Your wife could phrase it in a way that makes it looks like either she herself or a friend of hers has this issue and is seeking advice on what hygiene practices to try.

The only other option that I see is the direct approach, outright telling this woman that she has an issue that needs to be addressed. At which point, two things could possibly happen: the other woman could be grateful that you pointed this out to her and get to work on improving the situation (unlikely), or she could be embarrassed and offended and choose never to play with you again (more likely).

Situations like these are why I am non-confrontational.

[Texas_lovers69]

I hear you, I wanted to approach my wife but Im afraid that this might ruin our relationship with the other couple. I'll probably take your advice and tell my wife but I wanted some knowledge as well. THank you for answering me....

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by Texas_lovers69

I hear you, I wanted to approach my wife but Im afraid that this might ruin our relationship with the other couple. I'll probably take your advice and tell my wife but I wanted some knowledge as well. THank you for answering me....

How would talking to your wife, alone, ruin the relationship with the other couple? You HAVE to be able to communicate all your thoughts and feelings to your wife in all matters concerning swinging. Hold nothing back. It is you two in it together all the time. The other couples are only tangentally involved.

[okidoll]

Well, we had this situation a couple of times. One thing I noticed helped us was actually talking about threads such as this - such as, "hey, I was reading on the Swinger's Board about a gal with a stinky coochie, and the play partners wanted to know how to tell her. Have you ever had a situation like that? ". Sometimes that opens the issue up for conversation.

Also, I keep a handy dandy basket of feminine hygiene products out in our bathroom and tell everyone they are welcome to use them (the men too), and I have taken to carrying a little bag with me that also has hygiene products and our friends all know they can get in there and get what they need. We found our hot tub can help or suggesting a quick shower and treating like foreplay.

There is a big difference in the sweaty smell anyone would get from dancing and just being human and the nasty, there is something wrong down there smell.

[imsnowman]

Originally Posted by okidoll

There is a big difference in the sweaty smell anyone would get from dancing and just being human and the nasty, there is something wrong down there smell.

When I first read this post this was my first thought. IMVE the only women who've had a strong, offensive odor have had a bacterial or yeast infection. The woman in question may not realize that she has a problem. Maybe a wife-to-wife discussion would help.

[Texas_lovers69]

I wanted to thank everyone for their responses. I will have my wife discuss it with her, maybe she can talk her into letting my wife do it for her or something like that. I really like this couple and I loved swinging with them. Much obliged.

[lovedoctor]

Let us know how things go.

I tend to use humor and I will say to a potential play friend: so now, anything I do or see or smell that you don't like or anything that I don't do that you would like, I expect you to tell me - cuz I will sure as hell be telling you! And then I laugh. That way, if I ever accidentally fart on someone's face, instead of dying right there and then, I might just be able to laugh...

[honeybee77]

LOL! I love this response, I like your sense of humor! :-)

[Free2BFree]

Hi, my approach to the situation would be to have my wife (at your next casual meeting with this couple) start out the conversation by telling the other couple that she would like to ask them a favor. Simply have your wife tell them that she recently experienced a sensitive situation (which her husband brought to her attention) concerning a slight odor and that she started thinking about how mortified she would be during an evening with them (the other couple) and would they please feel free enough to tell her if they noticed any odors or anything else uncomfortable. She could say that she always tries to stay clean and fresh, but sometimes these things happen. She could tell them that she would appreciate honesty and would hope that they could do the same with the other couple. That might help open the doors of sensitive topics.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Texas_lovers69

The other night we meet this couple and the wife was hot, the husband to so my wife tells me. My problem was the wife had a particular smell down south. What can I say or suggest to maybe help her out. This couple was great and would like to still be with them, just need some help.

Well, there IS the question of basic body chemistry to contend with. Since you were close enough to smell her cootch, I'm assuming you were being intimate with them. It's hard to imagine that a woman who was expecting someone to be "down there" wouldn't take a little effort to "freshen up" down there beforehand, although it does happen. It's entirely possible that what you were smelling is as "good as it ever gets"...and that her husband loves her for it.

There are some women that, not matter how "clean" they are, just don't smell/taste good to me. It's not their fault, it's just the way their bodies metabolize proteins, etc. I suspect my natural body odors and taste are as unpleasant to them as theirs are to me.

Personally, it doesn't matter how "hot" a woman looks, good sex starts with good chemistry. Maybe these are people you'd do better off to have as "friends" only?

[marksgirl2]

There is a Buddhist text that addresses the different smells of a clean and natural woman. Some of us just have a very strong scent - mine, for example, is clean, smells like the ocean, and is very strong (it will fill a room when I'm fully aroused). My bf says it is intoxicating and he gets horny from the smell alone. Still it's bothered me... so I've come right out and asked my ob-gyn (the poor woman) to smell my crotch because I thought something might be wrong... she said it was normal, soooo.... maybe this other woman simply has what the Buddhist's call an "elephant" scent - very musky, almost like a rutting deer, and quite overpowering... but perfectly natural.

[JP51]

Originally Posted by okidoll

Well, we had this situation a couple of times. One thing I noticed helped us was actually talking about threads such as this - such as, "hey, I was reading on the Swinger's Board about a gal with a stinky coochie, and the play partners wanted to know how to tell her. Have you ever had a situation like that? ". Sometimes that opens the issue up for conversation.

Also, I keep a handy dandy basket of feminine hygiene products out in our bathroom and tell everyone they are welcome to use them (the men too), and I have taken to carrying a little bag with me that also has hygiene products and our friends all know they can get in there and get what they need. We found our hot tub can help or suggesting a quick shower and treating like foreplay.

There is a big difference in the sweaty smell anyone would get from dancing and just being human and the nasty, there is something wrong down there smell.

Dito

My wife does the same, products are handy, with our special friends., the line "I really hate the taste of hot tub/sea/pool water" would you mind lover?" has never been an issue...taking a shower together is good fore play...and the shower pannel with all the jets...has me dragging the ladies out of the shower...