Tummy Tuck

[cologypsy]

I'd be interested to hear from anyone who has had a tummy tuck on what your experience was getting back to playing with others.

For instance, how long did you wait after the surgery before you played? Was the scar still very red; did you wait till it faded some; or did you use the neutral scar tape for a few months just for aesthetic reasons? What were others reactions in general to the scar? Thanks!

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by cologypsy

I'd be interested to hear from anyone who has had a tummy tuck on what your experience was getting back to playing with others.

For instance, how long did you wait after the surgery before you played? Was the scar still very red; did you wait till it faded some; or did you use the neutral scar tape for a few months just for aesthetic reasons? What were others reactions in general to the scar? Thanks!

Hi cologypsy,

I had a bodylift. I had exactly the same questions you have about getting back to swinging after the surgery & scars. I searched for a thread I started about this. This was almost a year ago: New scars and swinging
I think you'll like the answers here!

As an update to that, it's been 17 months since that big surgery for me (15 months for my husband). The lines are very faded now. We no longer think to tell people about them before anything happens. But, for months following the surgery we both had, we briefed playmates before we got naked (our scars were more extensive than a tummy tuck).

People told us after the fact that they were glad we told them, because if we hadn't, they would have noticed, wondered what the heck that was, why we had twin scars, and would have been distracted. The way we handled it, the scars didn't bother anybody at all. One woman told me afterward, while we were all laying around together talking, that she would have been "taken aback" if we hadn't told. She told me of having been with another couple before, and the wife had a tummy tuck scar (from the way she described it). She asked her questions about it, the woman got tight-lipped and wouldn't say what it was. Then, she went on to ask me tons of questions, as she was considering the surgery for herself. I have LOVED the results and haven't regretted it for a minute.

Just 4 months ago, I had to have surgery to remove a very large ovarian tumor (19 cm long), as well as my ovaries and fallopian tubes. The doctor was going to cut my abdomen all up with an inverted T to get the tumor out, but I fought it and got it knocked down to a bikini cut. So, on the same line as my faded bodylift scar, I've got a fresh red line that's probably about the length of your tummy tuck scar. *sigh*

The few people we've played with since my recent recovery know about my surgery and the reason for it. They're great people, and I have no reservations with them at all. However, I'm not inclined right now to prance around totally nude in front of complete strangers, like in a club. (I'm just not ready for that.) There are easy ways to conceal a scar like this with lingerie, allowing you to look very sexy, able to have sex with the lingerie on, and stay within your comfort zone. If you play with strangers around, this is a great solution. Things like crotchless panties or a garter belt can cover it up just right. The best part about doing something like this is that you can put your scar completely out of your mind, relax, and focus on the things you want to focus on.

Best wishes to you, and happy healing.

[Tybee Swing]

cologypsy,

If you like the idea of wearing super-sexy lingerie to cover your scar that you can leave on during play, here's a sample of what you can wear:

http://www.fredericks.com/search.asp?keyword=crotchless

I actually own a couple of these. The crotch is tied together with little satin ribbons tied in bows. How enticing for the man who gets to untie your bows! It can actually be sexier than nudity.

[cologypsy]

Thank you for the great feedback Tybee Swing! It really helps to have someones perspective who has been in the same situation, and I'm hoping that my experience is similar!

[Tybee Swing]

You're welcome, cologypsy. Best wishes!

[sexcupid]

Although I really have nothing insightful to add here, this is a great thread. I would love to get some work done in the next few years and wondered about this very thing.

Maria

[WildMiCouple]

We met a couple at Hedo III that we've since become good friends with. While at Hedo, she always wore her bikini bottoms. We just thought she was shy. Later, back home, she let us know she had had a tummy tuck and wore her bottoms as she was pretty self conscous about it. Then this past fall, she had a tattoo of vines and flowers across her tummy covering the scar. Not your usual way to cover it up, but she's happy with it

Brett

[daisy girl]

bodies are imperfect...that's just the way it is. many have scars and such. but...hopefully, we find a way to love ourselves-scars and all.

[Tia Vampire]

I had a tummy tuck 9 years ago. Way before we thought about swinging. So don't know how good my advice would be. I would wait until the reddness and the swelling has gone down before playing again. Be careful, you will gain the weight back. I have a tummy on me again, but nothing like it was after having four children. Thank God. You will also learn to live with the scar. It's the uneven semitry that i have not gotten over after all these years.