Questions about having make hairy bodies

[mystic]

Hi, I just had some questions about having a hairy body. My hair basically covers my entire chest, stomach and back. If I didn't shave all around my neck and upper chest, everything would connect to my facial hair. I have it all over my shoulders as well and upper arms too.

I trim it regularly on the smallest number, so it's not very long, and I regularly shampoo/condition it to make it very soft daily. It actually feels quite nice and the one woman I was with didn't make any criticisms about it. She actually ran her hands through many times and was thankful that I didn't shave it because she mentioned that she didn't like stuble. She liked how soft it was.

I am clean shaven (no facial hair) and I will shave down far enough that if I wear a t-shirt, you wouldn't be able to see that I'm a pretty hairy guy. But there is "ring" around my lower neck I guess once my shirt is off. So there is a little darker colour because I trim so close.

With respect to my genitals, I'll trim everywhere as well and I do shave my balls and around my shaft completely while trimming around the penis normally using the same setting as my chest. I think it feels nicer and looks better. It's just cleaner and I know I wouldn't want to suck on any hair down there either.

I don't have any insecurities about my hair. My main position is that if a women doesn't like it, that's tough shit and she can find someone else. I wouldn't drop that on her right away obviously. I'd just say something like, "Well, I'm always like this and it comes from my father. It doesn't really bother me." But if it really became an issue, I'd just send her home.

A women has never told me though that my hair bothered her, but I guess I found out later that many people have commented on it in a negative way.

My main position still stands. I don't want spend a rediculous amount of my money waxing it all the time because I wouldn't really be doing it for me. And to be honest, it would look really weird because while my legs aren't very hairy, the complete picture of body hair wouldn't look very distributed afterwards. And eventually, the women would have to accept sooner or later that I'm a hairy guy. I guess I'd rather she enjoyed it than detested it.

Anyway, I'm curious how many women in terms of a percentage find this a turn off and will treat this a make or break kind of deal? Is my attitude ruining my chances? Are people really that shallow?

I mean, there are very few things a woman could do to turn me off realistically. And they all relate to her personality, not her looks. I guess I think all women are beautiful except for the obvious ones that don't take care of themselves at all and/or are 150 pounds over weight. But even then, there's a psychological problem going on, not just a weight issue. But 99 times out of a 100, I'll decide that I don't like someone if they are negative, co-dependant, manipulative, etc. way more than their looks.

To me, I think that if I'm a great, cool and healthy guy that she finds enjoyable to be around, this shouldn't matter. But I'm curious if this is making my attempts at becoming more socialable, higher status and reducing my social anxiety more difficult. And if something as dumb as this is making it more difficult, than maybe I should just give in but I swear I'll look like a little kid and I wouldn't really like that.

Any thoughts?

[BradAndJanet]

Interesting post. I look forward to the answers, as I am as you are, hirsute...

-B

[intuition897]

This is a good thread!

While I don't prefer a lot of body hair, some is okay (men are just hairier than women...usually). Culturally, I think we're all conditioned to think that having lots of body hair means that a person is unkempt and unclean somehow. That they don't care about their appearance. Would it be a deal breaker for me? I don't know, I've never met you Mystic. It really depends on the individual, I think. I KNOW it would be a deal breaker if the person was extremely hairy (which I'm not partial to, to begin with), and was either embarrassed about his condition or took no interest in his appearance. As you said, you are not ashamed of it (it's just they way you are), and you are well groomed/clean. I think that makes all the difference.

[LikeMinds321]

I have to say I've never seen a really hairy man. But if I ever do, I hope he looks clean and well-groomed. It sounds like you are doing a great job of doing that.

If a man has lots of body hair I think I'd prefer that his hairstyle be very short - or even a shaved-head look. Does that sound strange? Somehow, if he had lots of hair on top I think he could start looking unkept or cavemanish.

Forget about trying to shave the body hair off completely. The prickly feel as it begins to grow out is not at all nice against a woman's body. On the other hand, keeping it trimmed a nice length could be much easier to manage.

LM

[lcjtsd]

Every woman is different in what they like. For me personally, it would be a deal breaker. I just don't like hairy men. Doesn't mean we couldn't be friends, just not lovers. I have friends that think a hairy man is extremely sexy. There are plenty of women out there, you'll find them.

Mrs. LCJTSD

[just1gurl]

LOVE FUR!!!

I like a guys skin to be rough too. Differentiates between them and me. You rough, me smooth and soft! You HAIRY! Me - not! (with a little help from my razor friend!)

Don't get to defensive about it, enjoy your masculinity! It won't be everyone's cup of tea, but nobody is. sides-if you do the conditioning thing, maybe you'll introduce some to something they never had before!

[SADIEBABY5656]

i am fond of a hairy man, though i think that hair away from genitalia is a plus, the rest i enjoy immensely.. and as you are "well groomed", it is like you say, if a gal has a problem, well it is her's and not yours. be who you are and don't worry about the rest. lol, sb

[sexyshelby]

I'm not a fan of overly hairy men. Unfortunately, my boyfriend is rather hairy. I have no problem with this, I just prefer less hair.
He started trimming his chest, which I like a lot!

But I know a lot of other women who find a hairy chest to be extremely sexy. So, be who you are. If someone acutally doesn't want to be with you because of the hair, then you probably don't want to be with them anyway.

~SS

[HappyPeople]

I prefer a hairy man. Body hair makes a man look more masculine to me.

[PrivateDance42]

My advice - based on my personal preferences: Leave the hairy legs alone. Trim the chest hair, but not too much. Shave the pubic hair. Wax your back, shoulders, and upper arms. (Back waxing will hurt!)

And, if your hair is dark and your skin is light, maintain a good suntan. The dark body hair will look much better (and less noticeable) against a tan background.