Chicken S**T or learning curve?
Posted 01-31-2008 at 12:42 PM by prettylady
My first blog, please be nice.
Dog and I have been intrested in the lifestyle for about a year and a half.
Dog is right into it. He would love to sit back and watch me with another man, share me with another man, have me go out alone with another man, be with another woman, the list goes on.....and on and on. You get the picture.
I am....a chicken S**T. We have one couple we play with and I have no trouble with any part of our play. They are wonderfully understanding of my gitters.
I want to be able to be excited about all parts of the lifestyle, but I get nervous and the shakes, at one point I want to just run away.
I don't put on a show when I am nervous, well I did put on a little show once, not really proud of that. I normaly just get quiet.
How do you break through that wall? Is it a matter of just do it once and there you go. Let Dog make out with someone and deal, I mean whats the worse that can happen? I am rearly ever left without admirers when we are at the club.
It is not that I want to get everything and Dog can't do anything. I wont go out on my own because I am not ready for Dog to do it. Not sure I ever will be. I wont agree to an out right threesome MMF because I am not ready to explore a FFM, a little play like that when we are with another couple is one thing, but an out right 3some I still need time to wrap my head around.
I love the idea of the lifestyle, being here, and reading your stories.
I get really hot at some of the suggestions Dog makes, then get shaky nervous when the oppotunity arises.
Some one tell me! am I chicken S**T or is this a learning curve
Your friend,
Prettylady
Dog and I have been intrested in the lifestyle for about a year and a half.
Dog is right into it. He would love to sit back and watch me with another man, share me with another man, have me go out alone with another man, be with another woman, the list goes on.....and on and on. You get the picture.
I am....a chicken S**T. We have one couple we play with and I have no trouble with any part of our play. They are wonderfully understanding of my gitters.
I want to be able to be excited about all parts of the lifestyle, but I get nervous and the shakes, at one point I want to just run away.
I don't put on a show when I am nervous, well I did put on a little show once, not really proud of that. I normaly just get quiet.
How do you break through that wall? Is it a matter of just do it once and there you go. Let Dog make out with someone and deal, I mean whats the worse that can happen? I am rearly ever left without admirers when we are at the club.
It is not that I want to get everything and Dog can't do anything. I wont go out on my own because I am not ready for Dog to do it. Not sure I ever will be. I wont agree to an out right threesome MMF because I am not ready to explore a FFM, a little play like that when we are with another couple is one thing, but an out right 3some I still need time to wrap my head around.
I love the idea of the lifestyle, being here, and reading your stories.
I get really hot at some of the suggestions Dog makes, then get shaky nervous when the oppotunity arises.
Some one tell me! am I chicken S**T or is this a learning curve
Your friend,
Prettylady
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 |  Inner ThoughtsWhy are you nervous? Something - probably within yourself - is making you fearful. Figure that out and I think you'll feel better. Sounds like you're putting yourself under great pressure to make Dog happy, but maybe you should figure out what your fear is based on and try to set aside pleasing Dog for the moment...it may be clouding your ability to look at yourself clearly. Write some thoughts down on paper without thinking about what you're going to write and see what comes out of your mind. You could be amazed. LM |
Posted 01-31-2008 at 12:57 PM by LikeMinds321  |
| |  I think one of the magical things about swinging (especially as beginners) is the excitement of the vulnerability. Just how far into that realm of lasciviousness do we allow ourselves to enjoy the adventure of the exploration and consumption? Not only how far do we go,,, but how quickly we happen to get there. It's all personal preference - our character and personality defines our comfortable approach and our pace. Sometimes we may compare ourselves with fellow travelers on the journey - we appear to be behind some and ahead of many others. Each experience changes us just a little bit and prepares us for the next adventure. Some folks choose to slowly savor each opportunity and others choose to gulp with gusto. Life is a one way trip, enjoy the excitement along path you've chosen.... |
| Posted 01-31-2008 at 03:14 PM by socolais |
| |  You're not a chicken shit...so don't let the pace that you want to explore be determined by anyone but yourself. Your's and Dog's relationship is still relatively new..you two still have a lot to explore with each other, so don't worry about how fast you explore things with others. Relax, enjoy the ride  Swinging is no different than other things in life...it's all a learning experience...you'll learn things about yourself that you never knew and you'll learn that somethings about yourself were correct all along. Teresa |
| Posted 01-31-2008 at 04:56 PM by TNT |
| | The simple fact is most people are not psychologically 'wired' for Swinging. It's neither a good thing or a bad thing. Perhaps that situation describes you. |
| Posted 01-31-2008 at 07:39 PM by Edison Carter |
| |  It took my Pet and I over a year from when we first started exploring swinging to do anything. We've been visiting clubs and socials for probably a year and a half and just last week was the first time that we were in a situation where we actually played with another couple. And despite my being the one with experience I think I was more worried than he was about how I might feel when we got into a new situation. I was actually worried I wouldn't be able to handle seeing him with someone else. Even now, I don't know if/when I will be ready to do a full swap. I feel like as much a newbie as he is. There's nothing wrong with taking things at a pace you are comfortable with. |
| Posted 01-31-2008 at 08:30 PM by JustAskJulie |
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