Run, Unicorn, Run!
Posted 07-04-2008 at 08:46 PM by K&JIntimates
I’ve been thinking recently. If I had known how difficult it is to find an F for a FFM once you are married I’d have done this thing while I was single.
When I was single I seriously considered seeking out encounters with couples. My reasoning went something like this, lots of fun with men and women, no commitment, and minimal emotional investment. Perfect situation for a young woman who wanted to explore her sexuality without feeling tied down. Well, as with most things, things happened and this just never came to pass. At the time I didn’t think twice about it, after all how hard could it be to find a third once you were in a relationship? *Here is where I pause for a derisive snort*
Upon embarking on this venture into swinging (and subsequent pause) the coveted FFM was what I really wanted to try. Well, as I’m sure anyone reading this can tell you…it isn’t that easy to find.
This has started me thinking. We all know the reasons why that other F is so hard to find, thus not worth getting into. Where to concentrate the search is more what I’m thinking of. Here are my thoughts.
1.) The vanilla friend. (Risky but possible.)
2.) LS clubs on ladies night. Lots of competition but not entirely unheard of.
3.) House party. Never been to one but I hear its possible to play with the Fem half of a couple sin hubby.
4.) Developing a really close relationship with another couple and ‘trading’ nights for a FFM.
5.) Completely lucking out while out for the night with the random female stranger.
6.) Online. Boy I’m not even getting into the issues with that one!
When I think of the all the pros and cons that go along with unicorn hunting I have to ask myself if it’s really worth it. Is the fantasy all that it’s cracked up to be? I dunno, I’ll weight in on it as soon as I’ve finished my rainbow lasso and caught myself one.
When I was single I seriously considered seeking out encounters with couples. My reasoning went something like this, lots of fun with men and women, no commitment, and minimal emotional investment. Perfect situation for a young woman who wanted to explore her sexuality without feeling tied down. Well, as with most things, things happened and this just never came to pass. At the time I didn’t think twice about it, after all how hard could it be to find a third once you were in a relationship? *Here is where I pause for a derisive snort*
Upon embarking on this venture into swinging (and subsequent pause) the coveted FFM was what I really wanted to try. Well, as I’m sure anyone reading this can tell you…it isn’t that easy to find.
This has started me thinking. We all know the reasons why that other F is so hard to find, thus not worth getting into. Where to concentrate the search is more what I’m thinking of. Here are my thoughts.
1.) The vanilla friend. (Risky but possible.)
2.) LS clubs on ladies night. Lots of competition but not entirely unheard of.
3.) House party. Never been to one but I hear its possible to play with the Fem half of a couple sin hubby.
4.) Developing a really close relationship with another couple and ‘trading’ nights for a FFM.
5.) Completely lucking out while out for the night with the random female stranger.
6.) Online. Boy I’m not even getting into the issues with that one!
When I think of the all the pros and cons that go along with unicorn hunting I have to ask myself if it’s really worth it. Is the fantasy all that it’s cracked up to be? I dunno, I’ll weight in on it as soon as I’ve finished my rainbow lasso and caught myself one.
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 |  I don't speak from experience, but I think it's kind of like deer hunting (four legged deer). Before opening day of the season, ya have to kick 'em outta yer way to get where you're goin' and then they're in a different county when your gun is loaded. We haven't been hunting unicorns and we've been approached by two. Nothing has happened yet and the possibility remains open... |
Posted 07-05-2008 at 01:37 PM by socolais  |
| | I've often wondered why more couples who are mostly intereted in threesomes don't; (4.) Developing a really close relationship with another couple and ‘trading’ nights for a FFM.) And, this could be a very good way to have MMF as well. |
| Posted 07-10-2008 at 02:47 AM by ViSexual |
| | Sounds like you and yours are going through the same thing my wife and I went through. The swing thing was her idea and I had my inability to separate sex and emotions. We ended up turning to polyamory. You might ask K how he would feel about you being with his best guy friend? When I thought about it like that, I found a very diminished jealousy factor. I also liked the idea there would be trust and friendship and not just random stranger sex. Just some thoughts. G |
| Posted 07-15-2008 at 07:20 AM by TheDeal |
| |  We've talked a lot with other close couples about trading nights - and it just never worked out. In our experience it was because both of the guys were afraid that if they weren't the first something might happen and they wouldn't get their chance. The house party thing did work out pretty good for us though. |
| Posted 07-18-2008 at 04:19 PM by Dagney |
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