We enjoy the intimate company of other open minded swingers who like to get naked & play.
We enjoy the sexual freedom that this lifestyle affords us; making close friends without any boundaries or limitations on race ; age or body size is very refreshing and erotic!
To be open & honest with our sexuallity with other sexually liberated couples & singles is a huge turn on and to see my lady enjoying herself with other men at an orgy was incredible and me enjoying their wives was fantastic!
We are hooked on group sex !
Thank you to all those we have enjoyed in the past and to those we haven't played with yet ; ; ; Many great orgasms await you !
K&S

As you know, Mrs. CXXC and I live in Savannah. This is a great place to live and even better place to visit for a long weekend or a vacation. The sights, the history, the activities and even the people are in many ways better than Disney. Anyone who has seen the movies, “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil” or “Forest Gump” knows where they want to go immediately upon entering town! Find the “Bird Girl” statue. Locate the bench Forrest sat upon. The fact that both items are no longer there should not be a deterrent. The “Bird girl” was moved to a Museum due to people trying to steel her and every one of the replicas they put in her place. The bench was never meant to be there but was placed in that spot for the movie. By the way, Madison Square is not a two way street. Take the trolley tour and you will learn all you wanted and more!

There are so many cultural and social events held in Savannah. Each week, as if by design, the city holds such events and the streets are filled with travelers from all parts of the world. The Lucas Theatre (Renovated by Johnny Mercer himself) houses independent films throughout the day. The SCAD (Savannah College of Art and Design) Theatre performs almost nightly with plays, music, movies and more. On any given day or night there will be bands in the parks. Broughton Street is Savannah’s answer to Rodeo Drive. Within a three block walk, you can find all your shopping dreams realized. River Street is lined with Bars, Music halls, restaurants, souvenir shops, Confectionaries and, yes, even ghosts! I strongly suggest that you take the ghost tour while here. The Weed House was even featured on the TV show, Ghost Hunters. Pretty cool!

Georgia boasts the largest number of barrier islands on the east coast. Savannah is virtually surrounded by islands. However, the 20 minute drive to Tybee Island will be worth the trip! On Tybee you have nearly all that same activities and events that are offered in Savannah. However, Tybee also offers Pirate Fest. This is a Celebration of all things Pirate! Break out your costumes mates and lasses! Shiver your timbers and AArrrrgggggghhh!!!!! This is a party to experience. Or you can simply lounge upon the beach with a cold beer in your hand. Take in the scantly clad bodies that parade before you. Visit the shops, pubs, eateries, museums, or simply take a tour of Tybee. There is something for everyone!

Do I sound like a travel agent yet? In truth, I am really trying to fill my house with as many guests as possible. You see, as this is such a FANTASTIC vacation spot, our families and Vanilla friends have already started to call and plan THEIR OWN VACATIONS in our home! My only defense against being over run by in-laws, out-laws and genetically connected folk is to book the place with OTHER PEOPLE first!

I have been away from this board for a few weeks due to having Vanilla friends and family members in my home that entire time. Do I love my friends and family? Why yes I do! Do we welcome them with open arms and a pineapple upon the door step? Most certainly. However, as we are in the lifestyle, it makes it VERY difficult to enjoy the bodies of our kindred fellows when we have VANILLA’S in the house!

When the house is filled with family or friends, we feel obligated to spend as much time with them as possible. Spending an evening at someone else’s home would be quite difficult to explain.

Mrs. CXXC: “Sorry Sis. We have plans to see some friends tonight. Dinner is in the fridge!”

Sis: “Why not invite them over?”

Mrs. CXXC: “(Stutter, stammer, thinking quickly….) We want to go to a bar to hear a local band!

Sis: “Oh! That sounds like fun! Why don’t brother-in-law and I join you? The kids will be fine alone!”

Mrs. CXXC: “HONEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

You see? It always ends up with me having to figure out a GOOD reason why they don’t want to join us! We cant really just blurt out, “We are going to their house to have wanton sex till neither of us can breath or move!” So I end up being inventive with my explanations. Now remember, I do everything in my power not to lie to anyone. It is so much easier to remember the truth.

Me: “Sorry Sis! I guess Mrs. CXXC didn’t tell you about the couple we are going out with. We think they are swingers and want to set the record straight with them about US. You know. We want to make sure they understand where Mrs. CXXC and I stand on that issue! If you were to join us, they may even hit on you two! (Whispering) Wait, you don’t want that to happen do you? You’re not swingers are you???”

Sis: “(Stammer, Stumble, gape, stutter…..)NO! What kind of perverts do you think we are?”

Me: “I take it you don’t want to go then?”

Sis: “No thank you! You two have a good time with your swinger friends! HONEY!!!! We are staying in tonight!”

See? I never lied! I didn’t even twist the truth. However, I am too often pushed to the limits on my reasons when VISIT after VISIT, family or friends must have a reason why we are not going to be staying in or going out with THEM! The more they visit, the fewer available reasons I have.

So, At this time, I am trying my best to fill our calendar with LS friends to keep the number of repeat family and Vanilla visits to a minimum. After all, who would not want a week long vacation where you basically only pay for the gas to get there. Room and board are always provided. This is, after all, Family and Friends! I could go broke on just feeding some of them! Never mind the fact that we end up eating with them. After dinner, their idea of having fun on their vacation is sitting in front of the TV. So, what do we end up doing? A week of this and I gain an easy 5 pounds.

Having lifestyle friends visit is cheaper and more fun. Sure you often cook for them. However, they are generally there for just the weekend. When they are finished eating, they want to expend some of that newly obtained energy. PLUS!!!! Think of how in shape you get during the summer! They visit, you have sex, you lose weight, get toned and before you know it, you look like a fitness instructor! If they stay longer than a weekend, you can be sure they want to go out and dance, see the sights or visit the local swingers club. How can you lose?

So here I sit, another summer before me with the fear that the CXXC house will become the next great vanilla Vacation spot.

We have taken the plunge and we will host our first house party in three weeks time! I hope that we've learned both from the house party we've attended several times over the past year, AND of course the copious advice of others in the forums here.

We had an invite list of around 20 couples, knowing they wouldn't all be able to make it. So far we've had 13 couples accept, so even if a few bail at the last minute everyone should have lots of... hmmm.... choice.

We've invited people we know personally (some VERY personally!) and hope that since we seem to get along with each couple, they should get along with each other. Although we know some couples from the house party where one plays and the other stays upstairs and talks, we've agreed not to include those couples in our party, because the others will be too busy for gentle chit chat, and they might get very lonely and bored.

We are lucky to live a few minutes drive from a really good nude beach, so we're starting the day with a beach party. Anyone who can make it will be able to find us at the beach, and later in the day we'll head back to our place for bbq and....

The greatest thing about the Lifestyle- well, aside from the really awesome sex- is that we've made some really good friends, and we're looking forward to spending some time with them. What fun!!

Wow, I really need to make more effort to blog...

Not much has happend except I did get laided off yesterday from a part time job, which stincks. I had a fun play date last weekend, we took some good photos. Out of respect to my friends "married" I do not post photos that shows faces. Other wise I would have some great photos of me and her husband cumming on her face, we/they like to have me and him cum all over her face and mouth. :)

I hope this blog finds who ever reads it well...

Mrs. CXXC and I had a fantastic weekend past.
Friday morning celebrated the end of a two week visit from a family member. The entire day was then spent in more hedonistic pursuits ending in an evening at our favorite music hall to enjoy a truly wonderful band! I must say, after being starved for each others company, we took every advantage of being together.
Saturday, Mrs. CXXC enjoyed a lunch date with some Vanilla friends and a wonderful time at the spa. The highlight of the weekend, however, was the Lifestyle club event we had been planning on attending for the last month. As plans go, we made only one. We intended upon going to the club. As for anything else, we make certain to go with little or no expectations. We had contacted a few people on Swing Lifestyle who were listed as attendees. We had hopes to see a couple that we have wanted to get to know better. No matter what we considered doing, we knew that we would create no expectations for the evening.
The club has a nice big pool and large deck upon which people were sunning and relaxing in various stages of dress (or undress). Conversations and laughter could be heard from every part of the pool and deck. It took Mrs. CXXC and me 5 minutes to check in, walk to the pool, disrobe and enter the pool! Ahhhhh! Nudity! With drinks in hand, we moved from group to group, couple to couple to engage in conversation and introduction.
One particular couple had caught our eyes. Let us call them the gypsies.
She comes from Russia. Her long black hair and dark brown eyes matched her olive complexion and building tan. She shares many physical attributes with Mrs. CXXC: Her full breasts are accented with large round nipples. She boasts a perfectly rounded bottom that sways gently from side to side as she walks. Her legs are muscular and toned. Her full lips are soft and wet as if constantly expecting some form of sensual activity. Her laugh is infectious. Her accent is not thick but quite evident in her conversations. She possesses a sparkling and vivid personality. She oozes sexuality with every motion. When she and Mrs. CXXC stand together chatting, they look like sisters in form and personality. (Ok, Mrs. CXXC is a blonde, but you get my point!)
Her gypsy companion (Husband) sports a firm and toned body. His demeanor is confident and casual. He offers a humorous and sexually charged personality. Mrs. CXXC was instantly captivated by his personality. His self effacing humor and openness pulled her in deeper. He shared his story of their beginnings with us. They married a little over a year ago. For their honeymoon, they purchased an R-V and took the year traveling across the USA and back. They would work when the funds ran low and move on when they had enough saved. They shared their nomadic adventure with many Lifestyle couples along the way. After a year, they returned to SC and laid down roots once more. Flash forward to our meeting.
This was their first visit to the club and had not received a tour as the owners were waiting for the 15 other new couples to arrive for one larger orientation. We took the initiative and offered to show them around the club. They eagerly accepted the invitation. It was obvious that she found both Mrs. CXXC and me to her liking as she made that statement quite clearly. He too felt a mutual attraction with Mrs. CXXC. Our RARE 4 way connection was confirmed. The four of us dried, dressed and went into the club.
We walked form room to room showing them the facilities and differences of each room. One particular room boasted a booth with 4 glory holes. Before Mr. Gypsy and I could bat an eye, the ladies were in the booth, reaching through the holes pulling us toward them. Were it not for the giggles and laughter, we would not have known who was performing the oral service upon us! Several individuals walked through the room on the way to other parts of the club. In hind sight, we should have enlisted a few passers-by for a little oral gratification by our ladies. It was just as well we did not as the ladies wanted to see more of the club and exited the booth leaving Mr. Gypsy and I at full attention without the happy ending.
We showed them the remaining rooms and ended the tour in a room with three beds divided by curtains. The beds were fully visible as the curtains were also pulled back. Both ladies decided to turn the bed into a trampoline. They began removing each others clothing while jumping upon the bed, giving anyone walking by a nice visual of bouncing breasts! Needless to say, more than one individual walked by and stated, “Hey! Look! The Man Show!!!” The ladies were laughing and carrying on like school girls. That is until desire got the better of them.
Both Mrs. CXXC and our Russian beauty collapsed upon the bed together intertwined in a lovers embrace. No longer were they laughing and giggling. Their activities produced the more passionate sounds of moans and squeals. The sights and sounds were exciting and erotic. Seeing ones wife being pleased by another woman has always generated a rather lust filled response from me. This situation clearly had the same affect upon Mr. Gypsy. Being gentlemen, we let the ladies please one another completely and fully.
After a time, both ladies were fully aroused and wanted to be filled. Mr. Gypsy and I were pulled upon them to begin our passionate dances. To say that the room was filled with cries and moans of erotic pleasure would be akin to Noah saying that it looked like rain. My little Russian was virtually screaming! Mrs. CXXC was louder than I could recall. It was apparent that both he and I were hitting the right spots with the right tempos. As the ladies lay upon their backs, side by side, they attempted to kiss, stroke and caress one another. Both women would cry out as they absently stroked each others pleasure spots. As Mr. Gypsy and I worked our lovers into frenzies, we did not notice the crowd that was forming behind us.
For nearly 40 minutes, the four of us engaged in a furious activity of pleasing and being pleased. As the room could not cool us down quick enough, the activity ended in a sweaty pile of four heavily breathing and fully sated individuals, laughing at their won enjoyment. As Mr. Gypsy and I sat back upon our heels we heard one of the men in the mass of observers loudly state, “MAN! You guys give GREAT orientations!”
Over heated, breathing hard and needing to re-coup, we four decided to dress and make our way back to the pool. As we walked through the common room I counted 15 couples sitting before the owner of the club receiving the last bit of information for their orientation. As we walked through we were rewarded by several comments, nods and “thumbs-up” from this audience. I guess we really put on a show!
The evening was not over for either of us by any stretch of the imagination. Needless to say, at night, at a swingers club, around a pool can be a VERY active place. The pool, 25 feet in diameter, was circled by writhing bodies in various stages of sexual congress. Nearly every square foot of the decking had someone pleasing or being pleased. With all that activity going on, it was impossible for us not to become excited again.
The ladies decided to have some more girl/girl fun while Mr. Gypsy and I caressed and fingered where appropriate. After the ladies pleased each other to happy endings, it was Mr. Gypsy’s and my turn to please them orally as they lay back upon the decking. As we were in the water, it made the activity quite easy and comfy for all. BOOM! Two more earth shattering orgasms later, it was the men’s turn.
All I can say about receiving a BJ from my Russian beauty is that it was AMAZING! Mrs. CXXC and Mr. Gypsy were less than a foot away as he and I sat upon the deck with our legs in the water. I don’t think 5 minutes passed before both he and I erupted at virtually the same time. WOW! What an evening!
Unfortunately, our evening had to draw to a close as we needed to rise early the next morning and the 2 hour drive would take quite a bite out of our evening. We exchanged numbers and e-mail addresses, hugged and kissed goodbye and made plans for the near future.
The people we had been looking forward to seeing did not make it that night. We were sad that we missed them but thankful for the opportunity to meet and play with such a dynamic couple. We saw several couples there that we truly enjoyed being around but could not devote too much time to, as we were entertaining our Gypsies. The great part about seeing people that you really enjoy being with is that you make plans for another day.
Each time we have been to this club we have walked away with a completely different experience. Not one of them has been bad. They have been different in that the people we played with or the group we hung out with made the experience so unique. As we only go to this club an average of twice a year, we feel like it is the first time, every time. It keeps us feeling like Newbies!
Our Gypsy friends will be joining us for the 4th of July weekend. We have made plans to take in the fun and activities of River Street, the fireworks and to celebrate Independence Day with a BANG! I can just hear our neighbors now! “Ooooo! Ahhhhh! Ohhhhh! Applause!”

Suddenly, over the past few weeks, we've had more activities than we actually prefer. I'm sure we've not been this active outside of a poly relationship or weeklong vacation with playmates.

Mr. Fuse and I had sort of settled on an approach of casting many lines, because we found over time that most of the time the hooks came back empty. We'd also started taking the attitude that when we get a chance to play that we're excited about, we should take it. There had been too many times when a chance we didn't take turned out to be the only one with those people. I'm also talking about simply going out and meeting people, not necessarily playing -- though we've been doing plenty of that.

But statistics say that sooner or later a whole bunch of coins will come up heads (ha ha ha), and that's what's happening. It's almost too much. Our temperament is a bit more deliberate and we like to let each experience settle a bit, sort of like letting a wine's finish develop for a while before taking the next sip.

I'm sure this will settle down very soon and we'll be looking back on this time fondly during our next "drought".

This past weekend the wife and I went to a very nice house party. At parties we'll split up if need be, finding people we like. I met this really nice (and hot!) woman and we talked for awhile, just general life stuff. As the conversation moved into more of the play at hand, I came to find out her and her husband are VERY new to the lifestyle. After talking a bit more, learned that they are probably not even at the level of soft-swap, and many never even go there. I was so bummed, she was so hot (model level hot) and felt we meshed pretty well on a personal level. Oh well, we hung out for awhile and later I found some a partner to play with. Hopefully I didn't let my disappointment show.

If you happened to see my other two "Anticipation" blog entries, you might remember that we still had a date with couple #2 last Saturday night. Well, the date was all that we were hoping and more, especially for Mr. Fuse. In case you don't know from my other posts, Mr. Fuse is usually the one who doesn't make connections easily. In the case of this couple, his connection with her was pretty immediate. She is something of a "perfect storm" playmate. Actually, their personalities are somewhat like ours: she is very interactive and welcoming. He is friendly and anxious for things to go well, but seems worried that things will go wrong. He is somewhat reserved and it takes more of an effort to reach a rapport with him. But he is thoughtful and concerned. Once he showed me some of the things he'd created (being deliberately vague here), I was even more convinced.

Anyway, his wife is absolutely beautiful in a blonde surfer-skater-turned-model sort of way, with a thin, gracefully curvy body and smallish breasts that point up (lucky her). She obviously likes Mr. Fuse and had that look in her eyes like she could hardly wait. They had been flirting via text the whole week. That's a new one on us, since he's (again) usually kind of in the background while I handle all that stuff. Good for him. I really enjoy the idea that he is growing and expanding his playbook. He was buzzing with anticipation. I was also looking forward to playing, because I like Mr. Playmate and was hoping things would work out. He has a masculine face and a very firm, muscular body. They both swim now, and he is former champion sprinter in the armed forces where they hail from.

This couple had told us about their one other real experience with another couple. They were feeling mildly positive about it, but they had also felt it was a bit abrupt for them. Mr. Playmate had had problems because he felt overloaded, and felt the woman had gone straight for his privates and expected him to be instantly ready, and also found it difficult to concentrate on what he was doing while his wife was playing right there. We had suggested they might like separate rooms. They did like this idea and seemed fine with it, which is another big plus for me. I was really hoping he would have a good experience, because it would make me feel good to show him he could have a great time and not worry.

Anyway, our friends seemed to be feeling a little more comfortable and immediately after dinner (at their house), Mr. Fuse and she were already starting to kiss. This is another role reversal for us, because usually it is left up to me to get things started. Mr. Playmate just looked at me, still not quite ready to make a move. I had been sitting on a stool with my legs sort of intertwined with his, so I slowly got up and leaned in. We had a nice, slow buildup while he seemed to be assessing his own comfort level. I liked it, because again it is gratifying to be a part of someone figuring out their ability to have a good time, like the proverbial caterpillar peeking out of his cocoon. I've been with guys where we both have the please-god-we-must-fuck-right-now-or-I'll-explode sort of first experience too, and the variety is so delicious.

So Mr. Playmate and I went into their bedroom, and Mr. Fuse and his wife disappeared upstairs. They seemed to go straight to being very comfortable doing things a lot of swingers aren't comfortable with, and just sort of knowing things a lot of people take time to figure out or stress over. For one thing, he took to separate rooms immediately. It seemed to just work for him. Also, after we played, we all kind of naturally went to check on our spouses without making a big deal of it. No worrying what the others will think... just a natural impulse to have a few minutes with your loved one to talk freely and grin at each other.

They also, most surprisingly, were happy with the idea of "sleep-swapping". Our sexual tastes were really lining up, which is part of why sleep-swapping is appealing. Mr. Fuse and I had discussed it before our date. In the past I've been more into that than he has, but with this woman he of course wanted to. Both couples had sex again in the middle of the night and then again in the morning. I love that and it is so great to find others who do too. Even though I don't have quite the connection with Mr. Playmate that I might like, at least not yet, these things are big big plusses. And our play was really good. I was insanely wet the first time. In the middle of the night I had a little trouble (still enjoyed it though) but by the morning that was not a factor at all. He had a nice Father's Day morning fuck... laid there happy and looked up at me while I rocked my G-spot onto him. {grin}

In the morning they made breakfast. What great hosts. I could see that they were itching to be alone together, which is completely natural and expected. They seemed like they wanted to talk and make sure everything was still cool. We left and are talking about getting together again, though travel will make us wait a little while. I'll tell you what, though, I was so drowsy driving home that I probably shouldn't have been on the road. I didn't nod off or anything, but still. We both napped yesterday and had that "swinging hangover". Mr. Fuse is completely spoiled now. We'll see whether he gives anyone else a fair chance :-).

Well, this entry is already too long, so I'll stop. Thanks for reading if you've gotten this far!

I most recently posted my introduction, and mentioned I'm a service member doing a bit in Iraq. It was less than 24 hours and several of you responded with kind encouragement and support. I would simply like to express my gratitude for such kind, and quick acceptance. To those of you who were so warm and welcoming: Thank You.

Despite your (or my) political views, no doubt the greatest sacrifices are those of the American Service Members; particularly those who are active participants in the "Lifestyle". If you are unfamiliar, it's called General Order Number 1. The basics of it is; no nookie. Now let's not be so naive as to think that it doesn't happen, but the consequences for being caught are not worth it. And on the occasions where schedules permit us to spend "time" with a friend, we all have roommates. Every so often the stars align, schedules coincide, and we can get together for brief, quiet moments that lack all sort of ambiance, and variety. Trust me though, I get it. It's what is necessary, and if we were allowed to run amuck with eachother like the real world then so much authority would be undermined. It's just FRUSTRATING. There are other fascists of The Order, such as no drugs or alcohol, but that just goes without saying. It's just sad that those of us mature enough to put aside petty feelings in the interest of a little stress relief have to go without in order to play fair with everyone else - and not get laid. And of course there is always the alternative of Rosy and her sisters. But I refer you back to the aforementioned roommates (awkward) and other issues of non-privacy. Nothing puts ME in the mood more than a smelly toilet seat *sad sigh* 4 more months my friends, I'll be back before I know it.:violin:http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...s/4-nopity.gif

Well....we've at best been lackadasical swingers for the better part of the past year and recently have decided to take an undetermined hiatus from swing activities.

Part of it was precipitated on my part by a conversation we were having one night.

In the last few years I have made no secret of the fact that I would like to have a 3/4/more-some with J and other guys involved.

So the whole point of bringing it up was to try to see if/when we could set up at the very least a MFM at some point in the not too distant future.

And he pipes back with a response along the lines of 'I'm not sure I'll ever be comfortable with doing that.' Holy shiz, you could have knocked me over with a feather.

We've had a few FMF and he's had a couple of alone playtimes with SFs which really streched my comfort levels (and even piqued my discomfort lol) and have really been working on the process of not making him feel so restricted when we go to events (that is some of his terminology).

So when he said that, I figured that we are obviously not on the same page (I think goals isn't the right word to use) as far as trying to work together so that we are maximizing each other's experiences in the LS.

Perhaps it was my inner toddler deciding to throw a tantrum...but damn it, not fair! :lol: Add this to the fact that finding a partner that is at least on par with Jeff (as far as stamina and size...but particuarly the stamina) has been disappointing and the fact that in that same timeframe that LS activities have been more stress inducing than enjoyable.

I mean, honestly, I love the socializing and meeting new people...but my expectations as far as the sex is concerned is so low at this point as to be damn near non-existant. I know there are some decent play partners out there, I keep hearing about them...but have yet to find one.

The level of frustration had pretty much gotten to the point of 'why bother?'

So between my grad classes and all the work I'm dealing with there and Jeff having some upheaval at work and changing positions within his company...it seems that the LS is going to be on the backburner for a bit til RL settles down a bit. :(

Our schedule just really sucks!

Ted's home this weekend and both of us are in the playing mood...but, wouldn't you know it...NOTHING is going on this weekend.

I've checked every group we're members of that hold regular house parties and nothing...next weekend is packed full of parties, which does us no damn good as he won't be home next weekend. I even contacted our regular play buddy and he's out of the damn country so no luck there.

I wish there was a club close by but unfortunately the closest is two hours away and with Ted just having driven 12 hours to get home, I really don't want him to have to drive that far this weekend.

The only thing I've found going on this weekend that is even remotely close is a M&G and even it's about 1.5 hours away.

So...what to do? Well, we could get on Swing Lifestyle and possibly find someone who wanted to meet this weekend...pull out the black book and go down the list and see who's available and wants to play...or, just stay home and fuck each other like rabbits all weekend (which definitely isn't a bad option at all).

It just really gets to me that it always seems like all the good parties are always on the weekends he's not home.

Oh well, if staying at home and playing only with each other is as good as it gets, we've got it pretty friggin good. After all, the man did say he wanted to give the request I made last time he was home a try :D

T.

So we had two very good dates on Saturday and on Monday. One has already had some fallout though... if we're being optimists we call these "growing pains" or "learning experiences".

Saturday was great... turns out it was greater for me than for Mr. Fuse. It was one of those times when there is an imbalance between how well the guy and I get on, and how well Mr. Fuse and the lady get on. We've had those imbalances in both directions, as I'm sure most couples can attest happens pretty frequently. He liked her and was attracted, but not a slam dunk, though he didn't tell me that until the next day. (I really wish he would tell me things like that while there is still a chance to do something about them.) The date went well though, and ended with a great sweaty romp at his apartment. She is extremely sexual and seemed to enjoy herself a lot. I certainly did too, as the guy and I were very compatible and had been IMing all week, so the anticipation was high. He and I really hit it off and were finishing each other's sentences. I love when I have a vibe like that with someone, though I worried a little bit that she might be jealous.

Mr. and Ms. Playmate are new to swinging as a couple, though he has experience as a single man and she had had a few threesomes in her past. They are not married and haven't known each other that long, but they are really working together as a couple/team with respect and consideration. He is sort of helping her into the lifestyle, though she is very enthusiastic. She just didn't feel comfortable venturing in as a single woman.

As it turns out, she has simply connected better with others than with my husband during their first few experiences, one of which was us. It's another one of those cases where we hear later that the woman wanted him to be more aggressive. This is a sore point with me, because I cannot count the number of times Mr. Fuse and I have had that conversation. So of course he and I had the same conversation again on Sunday night after I got the feedback. I tell him he should try and be a little more assertive...not change who he is, but just push his comfort zone a little. I told him honestly that if I'd been the other lady Saturday night, I would have thought he didn't want to be with me, by the way he was acting. Mr. Fuse gets defensive as usual and says "So you're just right and I'm just wrong". I ask, well, how many times do you need the exact same feedback from woman after woman before you concede the point? How many couples have been one-offs because you didn't show enough desire? I just think he could do a little more... squeeze her arm, play with her hair, kiss her hand... then when he gets comfortable at a new level, push it just a little more... until he is acting a little bit more like the other men, the ones who show a woman that they want her.

As an aside, I'll observe that seventeen years ago when we first got together, I couldn't have conceived of a situation where one of my biggest problems with him would be that he is not sexually aggressive enough with other women! Of all the things to happen in life... truth is stranger than fiction, indeed.

Meanwhile, Mr. Playmate and I have developed quite a rapport, which leaves us in a strange and unresolved place with each other. He also has another girlfriend he plays with, so there is at least a small chance we could still hang out. Everything is above board with the two girlfriends, or it will be soon. He seems to not want to deceive anyone. We may meet the other girlfriend at a meet & greet soon. It feels strange, like we're presenting Mr. Fuse with another candidate and saying, "How about this one? Will this work?" (Wrinkles nose) We'll see what happens.

Honestly, I would advise this guy to not see me anymore, because he seems more into me than will be good for him. I already told him he's navigating very tricky waters, swinging with multiple partners and without a real primary, which leaves the door open to soooo many problems for him and for him and his girlfriends together. He has not been plain with me about his feelings, but they are clearly there. It is hard to give up such a good connection but we probably should. It will be worse for him than for me if it progresses.

And on to Monday's date. Very different than Saturday's date and delightful in its own way. The couple we met are an adorable, classy international pair who have almost no experience with couples, and a few soft experiences with single women. They've been together since she was in high school. The woman is absolutely gorgeous, a sexy nubile blonde with a cute laugh. Her husband is more low-key and pretty good-looking, though not as beautiful as she is.

At first when we met I thought he was kind of a jerk. It was just a few things that he said, but I knew they were nervous so I resolved to give it a chance and not jump to judgment. Besides, I could see Mr. Fuse and the lady were hitting it off and I didn't want to have another situation where I nix a couple whose female half he likes, without giving it some time to develop. (This is what typically happens... like most women I'm more picky than he is.) I did warm up to the guy and started to develop a little bit of a back and forth, though it was an effort. His experience with their previous couple was not as good as hers was. He talked about it a bit and it sounded like he was just overloaded and not prepared. It gave me some insight as to how to make any play a good experience for him.

We did go back to their house, but their son came home, contrary to the plans he had made earlier. So we did some soft play while the son was in another part of the house. I felt weird about that, but I figure it is up to the parents' judgment.

Mr. Fuse has completely flipped over this woman. Seems like they are a great match. Even better, she likes his gentle, borderline passive style. (Now it will be even more difficult to get him to take action with the 90% of women who want to be pursued, including some he has really wanted to be with.) I liked playing with her husband, and think there is potential. We are planning to see them this coming weekend. We are anticipating still...

Talking to Spoo and another old face around here that has bee popping up again about the concept of taking a break and then returning to swinging has brought forward some realizations for us.

We took a break, not even a long one, just about 6 months last year while I was sick. Prior the break we have worked up this momentum. It had taken a while but we were finally getting to a point where we felt totally comfortable at one club and comfortable enough going to new places that we could not feel totally new or out of place. It had taken about a year of going fairly regularly to the same club before we really felt like it was "our" place. We'd worked our way up through soft-swap and had some good times with couples and had an almost full-swap with one couple, that just didn't quite work. Had met a few other couples where things went really well and in general, things were looking really good.

6 Months! That's all it took to completely kill our momentum. We realized last night as we sat at the same club (for probably the 3rd time since our return) that we'd lost our momentum and in turn it feels like we've lost our mojo... but we haven't.

I realized as I sat there and the crowd looked like a bunch of strangers and we felt out of place and like we didn't fit in and no one was talking to us. That it's not a newbie thing when that happens, nor is it even a "clique" thing. We just weren't integrated. We didn't know people, but the regulars all knew each other, so of course it's easy for them to talk to each other and treat each other like old friends - because they ARE old friends... even if they've only known each other for a few weeks. They've seen each other enough times to know their names and feel more comfortable. We did have several of those same couples come over and introduce themselves to us, which was nice. We were feeling out of our element a bit so not really like we could just go up and talk to strangers.

The odd thing is that since we've returned to things we have a new "home" a little closer to "home" where we realized if a new couple walks in we look a lot like these other couples - the couples who know each other, and just about everyone around them. Because at our "home" club we do know just about all the regulars now (even if we can't remember their names). And yes we do make a bigger effort there to get around and talk to people, because it's easier. In between meeting the occasional new (to us) couple we can stop and talk to couples that we've already met and feel a little more comfortable with. We move around a lot at our "home" club. Last time we moved around so much that we lost our seats and had to crawl under another couple to get to our cooler when we wanted something out of it. Oh well. We had fun that way.

I guess the point of this whole rant is twofold...

1. Swinging is NOT like riding a bike. You can't just pick it up and go again after not doing it for years (or even months), you have to relearn a few things. I think that's partially because the lifestyle (and the people in it) change so much and so fast. Just noticing the completely change in demographic (it seemed) at the club we were at this weekend in just a years time. It made it feel like a different club rather than the same old club we'd grown comfortable at.

That said, swinging is a lot like LEARNING to ride a bike. It's a little slow at first but once you get some momentum going it's alot easier to keep your balance. We are working on getting our momentum back so then we can learn to turn again. Right now we are just riding straight ahead for fear of falling over, again.

2. For newbies, when you go to a club remember it's not that no one wants to talk to you, or that they are clickish. The regulars do know each other and it's always easier to stay in your comfort zone. For them, that's talking to the people they know. But, most of the time, they will be more than happy to talk to you as well. So make the effort. Seek out the people who seem to know everyone and introduce them. Let them know you are knew and chances are they will introduce you around (as did folks for us last night).

In the end, we left early last night, because we realized we were totally out of our comfort zone. Being there last night was more akin to the first few times we ever went there than any of the times since then. SO much had changed it wasn't like the same ole club we've gone to probably 20 times in the last 3 years... but rather like going to another club for the very first time. There were some faces that seemed vaguely familiar, like maybe we'd seen them somewhere before... but that was about it.

This part of the state seems so uptight about swinging for single men. Being in the central panhandle bible belt, there must be a lot of repressed sexual feelings but haven't been able to tap into them . any ideas ?