Husband's Insecurity
Posted 10-19-2008 at 08:17 AM by donscat
I am married to a beautiful and sexy woman. She used to swing with her first husband, but things went downhill, and she is now out of the lifestyle. I have never swung, but I would love to watch her have sex with another man. She has agreed to do it for me, and has made it clear that it is only sex with others, but it is making love with me. She said the difference is like night and day. I fully believe her. She is multiorgasmic, and will continually cum as long as the man lasts. Now for my insecurity: I am just an average guy, and I'm sure, an average lover. What if the guy she is with is superior to me? What if he last much longer than I do, and makes her cum much more than I can? I am afraid I will subsequently feel that I will never satisfy her as well as he did. Please give me your thoughts on this!
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 |  These sorts of thoughts are common. You are far from alone in thinking them. I can't speak to how you will feel. I can speak in the abstract about the concerns you have. You have nothing to worry about. When you married your wonderful wife, did she marry you because you have king kong dick and can make her have the world's greatest orgasms? Did she marry you because you're the best there's ever been in bed? Did she marry you because when you're done with her she is completely sexually exhausted, fulfilled, and the bed sheets are in tatters? If anybody marries for only these reasons, their marriage is doomed because it's not a marriage of the hearts, souls, minds. It's marriage of a few happy hormones. Now, take a man who does all those things with your wife. Add in that he's amazingly handsome, intelligent, a fantastic career and an all around nice guy. Guess what? Even if he fucked your wife for three hours straight and she had 20 intense orgasms, she's coming home with you. You can satisfy your wife in ways that no other man can. You can love her like no other. You can fulfill her dreams in so many, incredible ways that an evening with Mr. Awesome could never do, and pales in comparison against. It's very important to understand that while sex is a part of marriage, and an important one at that, it's only ___one___ part of marriage. Nobody could ever replace my wife in my heart, nor me in hers. |
Posted 10-19-2008 at 12:20 PM by bbarnsworth  |
| | Thought about couple couple Relax enjoy her enjoyment giving you enjoyment later you can make love with her All he will have done is turned her on for you to take her further Its ultimately about state of mind so don't go there until you are both ready with clear and well understood rules then enjoy the experience |
| Posted 10-20-2008 at 07:51 AM by maggoo |
| | If your marriage is based in trust and faith in each other, then sex is just an extention of that. Recently, when my wife and I joined the lifestyle, I was a bit worried about the same things along with the fact that my wife is 20 yrs younger than me. We talked about it (A LOT), and when we were both comfortable with our commitment we made the move. At our first party, my wife was the only one to make any connections. I watched, and had a good time. The sex afterwards was fantastic! Talk things out with your wife, and find out if this is really what you both want. |
| Posted 10-28-2008 at 03:49 PM by olderyder |
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