the bi thing

[confunktion]

This is a great topic. I've had many a discussion with straight, gay, and bi friends on this, and it's always interesting to get different views on the subject.

We are believers in the Kinsey scale; if you don't know, you betta axe somebody! Seriously, I won't bore you with the theory, but essentially the belief is that there are varying degrees of sexual orientation. The Kinsey scale goes from 0 to 6, with 0 being exclusively hetero and 6 being exclusively gay. Bi hits at 3 on the scale. Mrs. Funk and I have learned that we are not at the same number on the scale, and neither of us is a 0...

It's a combination of different psychological issues and features...it's not cut-and-dried at all. I love trying to figure out where people land on the scale. That's the Psych minor influence...

I would think that only a guy who is totally FUBAR in the head would just up and grab another man like that. I don't think that is a trademark of bi males. I think bi men in this lifestyle are more likely to be respectful of straight men and just go with the flow. If the two guys want to try a little something and all are in agreement, sure. If one of the guys is not into that at, then show that man a little respect (just a little bit...hey baby, when you get home...)

Anyway, I prattle on too much. Look up the Kinsey scale on the Internet and see if you agree.

Mr. Funk, all Psyched out...

[xxoticangel]

The Kinsey scale isn't detailed enough for most people. I like to use a 0-100 scale with 0 being exclusively straight and 100 being exclusively gay. 50 would be bi sexual capable of emotional AND sexual relationship with either sex. My wife puts herself at 25, enjoys sex with both genders but cannot have an emotional relationship with a female. I put myself at 10, I have had bi encounters in the context of swinging with my wife and would do so again but would never consider a strictly guy/guy encounter and really don't find men sexually attractive.

[confunktion]

"Most" people? If it's not detailed enough for you, that's totally cool, but most people? Have you done/seen surveys?

I kid, I kid. Please don't take offense.

I understand your ratings. Translated, you would be a 1 and your wife would be a 2. Emotional feelings are a factor in calculating a Kinsey rating, but it is overshadowed in weight by predominantly sexual thoughts, feelings, and reactions. There is a difference between emotional and sexual feelings, and the Kinsey scale utilizes that difference, methinks.

Hey man, whatever works, roll with it. We may all take different paths, but we end up crossing the same finish line...

[darling]

I think it's very chic for women to be bi now, or at least appear to be for their men. I tried it and just wasn't into it. I love to caress another woman and dirty dance. I love the feel of a woman's breast and kiss, but am just not into the oral thing. And a woman giving me oral makes me uncomfortable. But it seems I'm one of the few, because other swingers always assume every woman is also bi.

[20ishCouple]

Well to me..Ms. 20ish, bi-curious would be the thoughts of sexual encounters with the same sex, then leading to trying it out. I think that there are too many different levels of being bi. Some people only do the same sex thing while swinging, or while involved with their partner. Some can do the MM or FF thing without the opposite sex involved. Some people only do it every once in a while. So it's really hard to form an opinion on what is Truely bi.

Mr. 20ish is Bi-Curious....and he wants to try it out, he likes the thought, and to tell you the truth, IMO I think he'd like it after trying it. But I don't see him doing a MM. He says he couldn't do that, that I would have to be involved. But if he actually enjoyed doing it and did it more than 2 times, I'd call him BI, even if he only did the bi thing during a MFM.

Just my 2 cents worth anyhow.

[gsu22]

With me, if i were using the 0-100 scale like angel, I'd rate myself maybe a 15 or 20. I do have the desire to try some bi activities during a MFM but I'm not looking for a MM encounter nor do I find men sexually attractive. For some reason, one time after receiving oral from a woman, I gained the desire to give oral to another guy strictly to see what its like......the feel of being in control, the feel of it in my mouth, the feel of his wife watching,etc...maybe a little JO fun too.....

Never have I been interested in anal, kissing or feeling ......and never have i just wanted to be with a guy alone......so I see the different levels of the whole bi thing

[mf69_98]

I had always wondered if I was bi, as I would get excited reading letters to Penthouse where the guys played together as much as the 2 women or couple sex. I never acted upon these feelings for a number of years until I made a trip to a nude beach (turned out to be the gay section) and a guy gave me a handjob. I enjoyed it a lor, but that was it for many years. When we decided to start swinging, my wife asked me what my reaction would be if a guy touched me & I finally fessed up to her that I thought I was bi. She was surprised, but since she had several gay & lesbian friends, I figured she'd handle it better than some. She did & in fact picked a bi guy to join us for a 3some for our first swinging experience. She started kissing the guy & told me to "go for it", meaning suck the guy, which I did. As soon as his cock was in my mouth, I knew for sure I was bi - I loved it & really enjoyed him sucking me. My wife has found that it is extremely exciting for her to watch me with another guy, as much as it is for me to watch her with someone else (male or female).

[Aphrodite]

Originally Posted by cpl4playmass

Would you date and have a relationship with someone of the same sex?

'cause everything else is just playing

My girl dated women for awhile and found she was not interested in them that much and much prefers men. She does like the sexual part of being with women, so she considers herself Socially Bi. Meaning if it's there she'll play but doesn't pursue.

I have to disagree, because to me, bisexual is just that...BI-"SEXUAL"!When you get into actually having a relationship, you've crossed over to being lesbian or homosexual{gay} whatever your gender may be..Sexuality is one thing...a relationship/falling in love with someone of the same sex is another completely different thing!

I can tell right off the bat if a woman is just playing the bi role for her husband or just to experiment.There's a big difference when a woman truly loves sex with another female.It's so much better when a woman is truly bisexual. facelick

[Denver2some]

Since you just said "bi" and didn't draw a distinction between bi-curious and bisexual, we responded "Just thinking about."

To us, if you're thinking sexually about others of the same sex but not acting on it ... you would still qualify as bi-curious. Thinking about it seems to perfectly fit with the word "curious." And for us, if you have acted on that curiousity more than once ... you're headed toward the bisexual category. (As in, you liked a bisexual experience enough to want to repeat it.)

Since each couple seems to have their own criteria of the terms, when the topic comes up we just ask for clarification. And as Miss Piggy says, it's in many ways a self-label. It doesn't matter what *we* think it means ... you can call yourself whatever feels right to you.