Bisexuality and swinging

[gavandd]

Hello All
Been swinging full swap for about 3 months now,I am very interested in getting your responses here.
My wife does not consider herself bi at all,neither do a few other women we have met at the club (including a female friend who comes with us to the parties)
Yet my wife,our friend and many straight women end up having sex with each other. Good example is an fmf i had with my wife and our friend!...they went wild on each other.
Yet as a straight guy i wouldnt kiss another guy lol never mind have sex with him......
Your thoughts\comments?
And yes i have asked my wife and she says it just the heat of the moment.Couldnt care is she was bi or not I just find it interesting from a sexuality point of view.

[spvcouple]

I have heard all kinds of labels applied to people who experience sexual pleasure with someone of their own gender. Bi-comfortable, Situationally-bi, selectively-bi....who really cares as long as everyone had fun?
I questioned this as well, for a while, until we figured out that it really doesn't matter. We aren't going to jump into bed with anyone we haven't already talked to about what we want and like. The bi tendencies can be discussed during the chat.

[slevin]

It seems that there are a lot of women who enjoy being with other women, or are curious about it, but don't want to be considered bi-sexual for whatever reason. I've stopped trying to logically understand things like that and instead just enjoy it

[lovinher]

If a man regularly had sex with another man I think most would consider him bi. I think that is obvious. So why would it be any different with women? As far as labels? In certain situations they are necessary and tell us something about that person that may be pertinent but generally don't mean a thing to me-in most cases.

[LFM2]

Why does it even matter? Believe your wife. If she says she isn't -- she isn't. Let her have her fun. As long as everyone has fun, it's all good.

[gavandd]

Awesome answers ty all........guess i just gotta roll with it lol

[Tia Vampire]

She may say that she is not bi because, she does not make women her focus when out looking for playmates. You guys may go out looking for couples that you are both attracted to. Then in the heat of the moment, if the girls are that sexually excited and it feels good to them to touch each other or even more, then they go with the flow. I also list myself as straight becuase, I'm not sexually attracted to women. There are things I will do with women such as kiss, dance, and touch places with clothes on, but I will not go below the waistline when the clothes come off.

[az469]

as long she enjoys herself so what.

[Chicup]

There is a lot of mental stigma about being 'gay'. My wife has it. She doesn't like to call herself bi, even though she gets turned on by women, has played with women, and would again. Its just not how she likes to think of her self even though its rather obvious.

Men do the same. We have had posts where someone will talk about a guy receiving anal sex from a man but is 'not bi'.

Now if you want to use the definition that bisexual means you will have a long term relationship with either sex to be bi, then ok but thats not a practical definition.

If its true than thats saying the men who stop in washrooms looking for a BJ from another guy on their way home from work are straight too.

[asncpl]

I don't label myself bi because I don't go out and actively seek out female partners. Except for a few experimental college days, I have never been with another woman one on one. But when it comes to couples play nowadays, I certainly don't mind being with the female half, and I usually reciprocate. I can't explain it either but the heat of the moment explanation is as good as any. Like most posters said, the important thing is everyone is having fun.