Mixed signals??

[lardub]

Ok we belong to another swingers site and checking out the events I came across one looking for couples for house and hotel parties about three times a month. It sounded interesting so I fired off an email leting the promoter know we would be interested.
Long story short recieved an email back stating that they don't allow bi-couples at their parties? Now we have never proclaimed in any profile that we are bisexual, bi-curious yes as we believe that everyone regardless is curious to a certain extent, and we try to be honest, as given the right curcumstance anything is possible. Fine if that is their stance I can except it but on their profile the female is Bisexual. It just burns my ass the double standard that seems to run rampant in the lifestyle.
Guess I'm just confused and don't handle rejection well, lol.
Anyone else have any thoughts or experinces that relate to this I would love to hear about it..

[interested-05]

speaking only for myself,
having been the victim of m/m sexual harassment, which came close to both of us falling off a roof at work, i do not knowingly put myself in a position in which somebody with an interest in male/male activity is likely to be encouraged. But that is only my experience, what others do is up to them.
my point is don't simply assume it is bigotry, many ppl have been put into very uncomfortable situations and you may simply be letting them know how you feel. Nothing wrong with what you feel or what you want, just don't expect others to be open to your interests.
many ppl here are interested in simply tame voyeurism, and most couples have no interest in what they are looking for. Keep your interests in perspective, tell folks what you want and only accept invitations from those who have similar intersts, w/o being offended if they arren't interested in your fantasies

[sweet_tna]

Hmm . . . I'm thinking since the female of the hosting couple is bisexual, their issue is most likely with bi men. It's an unfortunate double standard in the lifestyle, but regardless, it's their party(ies) and they have the right to decide whom to invite/accept.

I understand how frustrating that might be, and it's hard not to take things like that personally. But when it comes right down to it, we all have our preferences, and we have to accept that just as we're not interested in every couple we encounter, they may not be interested in us. And yes, I do realize this is a group you're talking about, where someone in the group may yet be interested. Hopefully, you'll find a group/party where you'll be more welcomed.

Best of luck to ya'll,

=)