Are Most Male Swingers Bi-sexuall?

[carrysmith]

HELLO MY NAME IS (CARRY SMITH) IVE BEEN GOING WITH MY HUSBAND TO A GREAT/UPSCALE SWINGERS CLUB AND WE'VE DONE 8 FULL SWAPS WITH OTHER COUPLES, BUT TO OUR SURPRIZE DURING THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT, THE MALE IN THE OTHER COUPLE WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND,( MY HUBBY IS 100% STRIGHT),& THERE WIVES ARE TOTTALY COOL WITH HER HUSBAND BEING BISEXUAL & ENCOURAGE HIM TO HAVE SEX WITH MEN, WE;VE NOTICED THAT THIS IS VERY COMMON AMONG THE SWINGING COUPLES IN SOUTHFLORIDA, MY QOUESTION IS, IS THIS NORMAL AMONG SWINING COUPLES EVERYWERE?...AND I HAVE ANOTHER QOUESTION AS WELL, WE;VE NOTICED THAT AMONG SWINGERS HERE IN SOUTHFLROIDA ITS NEVER, ENOUGH SEX!, AT THE CLUB THEY WILL HAVE SEX WITH 5,8,10 POEPLE/COUPLES ITS 5AM AND THERE STILL SEARCHING FOR MORE SEX,IVE COME TO THE CONCLUSTION THAT IS ITHER MOTIVIATED BY SEXDRUGS OR MENTALL ISSUES OR BOTH, IS THE NORMAL WITH SWINGERS EVERYWERE TOO?? WHAT DO U GUYS THINK ON BOTH THESE ISSUES? I WOULD REALLY APPRICIATE YOUR FEEDBACK & EXPERINCE ON THIS...THANK U VERY MCUH( CARRY)

[WeDive]

Although there are some, it would be a stretch to say the "most" male swingers are bi-sexual. Mr. WeDive is not.

Umm.....a lot of swingers do enjoy sex just for the pure enjoyment of it....not fueled by drugs or mental illness.

[TheLorax]

Please turn off the all-caps key, it makes your postings much easier to read and is one of the guidelines for the board.

As a bisexual male, my estimation is that about half of the men I've known who were swingers were completely and totally straight. No interest in any male contact at all. Of the other half, maybe four in five didn't mind some contact with another man to varying degrees from didn't mind casual touching to being ok with another man doing things to them but didn't want to reciprocate. The other one fifth of the remainder was bisexual from the point of enjoying male-male sex to "could have emotional relationships with another man."

That's my unscientific sampling as a keen social observer.

As far as the unsatiated sex goes, I suspect that's sampling bias. This means that the types of people who go to swingers clubs or get togethers where sex is allowed are more likely the types of people who like to have sex often with several partners in a night. Some might call these folks hard-core swingers (pun intended), but again, my experience has been that most swingers I've known over the years who considered themselves part of the "Lifestyle" (as opposed to couples who dip their, errr, toes into the water and do it for a little while then stop) have a few regular partners they swing with, are open to meeting new couples, but might only have sex with another couple from a few times a month to a couple times a year.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking "your" type of swinging is superior. That's an ugly way of looking down on other folks..

[Chicup]

No, its not normal for our area at all and most people seem to be one couple for the night types.

[The Fuse]

Yes, please do not write in all capital letters. It is considered yelling.

Mr. Fuse has never had a man come on to him in a swinging situation. This surprises me because we've had enough experiences that I expected it to happen at some point.

We have never been to an on-premise event (except house parties). It is much easier to seek many partners in one night in the on-premise situation, so I'd expect a higher percentage of people at those events to be doing that.

We know a few people who enjoy having sex with multiple people for hours on end or in several sessions during a house party. But most of our friends prefer either one other couple or maybe a few in a night. Personally I am happiest with one, because I enjoy focusing.

[BamaRide]

We have only had one time when there was an expressed interest in male on male action... this one time really shocked me as it was clearly the gentleman of the 'other' couple that had designs on me... me ... straight as a string! I simple stated that I was flattered and beyond that not the least bit intersted.

So when I saw the topic asking if 'MOST' male swingers were bi it was a suprise because it seems more rare than common from where I sit.

BamaRide

[SecretAsianMan]

In my experience... nope, it's been closer to a 80% / 20% split for straight / bisexual (or even bicurious) males in the lifestyle.

It really will vary depending on your location & the particular groups that you run in.

[carrysmith]

ive also noticed the type of swinging or so called swingers that we have here in southflorida are like no other ive met upnorth,we perffer the swingers outside southflorida personally,,,,id say out of 10 couples we have met at our club,8 of them the male is bisexuall & usually ends making a pass at my husband & to our surprize when he declines all of a sudden that couple isnt interested in us anymore(sad isnt it)...and also is heavy drinking/drugs the norm with swingers allover or is just a southflorida thing?...the club we go to & the private house parties we've attended heavy drinking/drugs is pretty muchthe norm, 2 hours into the party, they are sluring,getting aggressive or jumping aruond like idiots due to all the coke theyve done..agin i dont if its just a southflorida thing here or what?...ill be honest the word swing or swingers doesnt even apply to southflorida belive me......

[Chicup]

And here I was thinking how much more attractive and fun the South florida swingers seem to be.

Ah well grass is always greener

[VegasLee]

In 30+ years I can only remember finding a club like you are talking about maybe six times. That is not the normal at all.

Not sure what club you are talking about and I know a few of them in Florida but I know that the owners of the ones I know would not allow that type of nonsense to be going on with the drugs. Most "real" clubs will kick out anyone that even thinks about using drugs in their club.

Sounds to me like you have found a bi-sexual underground club and not one of the main stream swingers clubs. If that is not your scene as you have stated I have to wonder why you keep going back?

Since you have stated that you have gone to other clubs up north and they are not like that you have the answer to your questions.

Good sense says don't go where you are not comfortable or you end up in trouble.

[dumbasarock10]

I think alot of that has to do with the person individually. Some guys may seem more approachable than others. I, myself have been hit on a time or 2, but not at the swingers clubs; just vanilla clubs. Go figure. And although I'm not bi, I will admit I am curious. I just haven't done anything yet. But my point is; because maybe I'm a bit curious, those who are may pick up on that and decide I'm worth talking to. Others may not be. That's my perspective.

As for the all-night-sex issue? I haven't seen any sex drugs and wouldn't entertain any myself. Nor would my partner. Only guess I could offer is they're just really horny. Nothing wrong with that. But I'd just suggest trying a different club if that one bothers you. Best of luck, have fun.

[hamlet]

Up until recently, I would have brushed this question aside, as we'd almost never run into bisexual males in the lifestyle. We've been to clubs all over the United States and a bunch in Europe as well, and the only time we've ever seen bisexual activity was an MMF threesome we observed in Vienna. Even then, we didn't believe it until we took a more focused look at exactly whose organs were lodged in exactly which orifices.

Lately, however, my wife has become more open to the idea of meeting single men--we've played with single men at parties, for sure, but rarely done private MMFs. I've been on Adultfriendfinder a lot, trying to weed out the many volunteers so that she can choose from a short list. And I've been downright astonished at how hard it seems to be to find straight males. Don't get me wrong: we think bisexual males are cool--after all, my wife's as bisexual as they come, and that's entirely cool--but me, I'm completely straight and, for the sake of keeping our health risks down, we'd rather stick to straight guys. After 11 years in the lifestyle, I never would have dreamed they'd be the apparent minority of single men. But, based on the wholly unscientific sample derived from my search, I'm beginning to wonder. Maybe it's just starting to feel more safe for men to reveal their bisexuality (and, if so, bravo!) or maybe there have always been this many men who are bi and out about it, and I've just had my head in the sand about it. Whatever the case, it feels to me as if it's on the rise.

[TheLorax]

Originally Posted by hamlet

Whatever the case, it feels to me as if it's on the rise.

We recruit, you know. Once you've tried bi, you'll never go back!

Bwaaahhahaaaahhaaahaaa!

[SecretAsianMan]

I'm not familiar with the South Florida region... is that a very gay-/bi-friendly region? (i.e., San Francisco... West Hollywood)

If so... that could explain the prevalence & skew that you're experiencing.

[BamaRide]

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

I'm not familiar with the South Florida region... is that a very gay-/bi-friendly region? (i.e., San Francisco... West Hollywood)

If so... that could explain the prevalence & skew that you're experiencing.

Key West.... male chastity belt recommended!

BamaRide