Are Most Male Swingers Bi-sexuall?

[carrysmith]

we persoanlly dont like to meet or associate with bisexuall men, tho we have 10 full gay make freinds that are super cool, in our experinces/opion, we have bad experinces with bisex men, the ones we've known are way to much drama/problems/confustion, they have ither gotten in arguments with us or with there wives at a club/party...as to what have seen high drama fallows bisex men at least the ones we've known...

[SwingCpl2]

I tend to agree with the orginal poster.

The first time we swung, I had NO idea who was sucking my dick ( with a woman sitting on my face ). A guy sucked my dick without my knowledge, so does that make me bi? When a woman is riding my face and I'm getting the best head of my life, am I going to care if its a m/f who is doing the sucking? Never even entered my mind at the time!

My experience at the Chicago area clubs is alot almost ALL single guys wanting to be with a couple are open to m/m contact during a 3some. The same goes for Aff and other swing sites.

Just as an experiment on aff, I put up two profiles, one as a bi couple and the other as a straight couple looking for a male to join us. Pretty much the same group of single guys replied. Many stating, my profile says "straight" but I would want to suck your dick. In there response to the other profile, they were completely straight!

My guess is 80-90% of single guys looking for couples are bi to some degree.

With couples, I was suprised how many guys are bi. When we meet other couples, we do tell them that we are OK with m/m contact, but do not expect me to recripcate. We have been with about 30 couples, alot of "straight" men wanted to feel or suck my dick once I told them I was open to it. My guess is only about 10% admit being bi when asked, but behind closed doors with an couple who is accepting of the other guy being bi and it jumps up past 50%.

I always felt I was 100% straight until I started swinging. I still am very passively bi, but It certainly doesn't bother me if a guy wants to feel my dick and size me up before I give his wife the ride of her life... If he wants to suck his wifes juices off my dick when I'm done, more power to him.

[nxgn1]

Originally Posted by Rackir

According to some studies, the overwhelming majority of all men (and women) are at least to some degree bisexual. So from that point of view it would follow that most swingers are also bi.

However the portion of those that have ever, or will ever, engage in bisexual conduct is a MUCH smaller number. And of those the majority (it seems) are those who have tried it in the past, but have no intention on ever trying it again, making the active bisexual population even smaller still.

So even if the swinger community has a higher than average rate of male bisexuality (which wouldn't surprise me), I think it's probably far short of "most", and casual non-scientific observation seems to back that view (though I suspect there are allot out there who simply wont admit it for fear of ostracism). Certainly not enough by my count anyways! Just think, if everyone were bi, than everyone’s chances of hooking up on any given night would automatically double !

I tend to agree with most of this stuff. I have had a few bisexual experiences before and all though they where a turn. It really was not my thing. For me I find that if things happen in a 3 some and your not paranoid about being overly close to another man and just letting general things happen and I'm really not talking about giving another man head. It can be fantastic. When married to my ex wife we swung fairly often.

We had one friend my wife enjoyed because of his rather thick cock.. She loved nothing more than me licking her clit and all her pussy while he was fucking her. For this you better not be to gun shy. Also probably the best orgasm I had every had we where both inside her at the same time. We could literally feel each other all three of us came at the same time filling my then wife with and extreme amount of come that ran down all her legs. She loved it.

[sahajacpl]

Most swinger males bi? No way. Sounds like sampling bias. It appears the original poster went to a "couples club" primarily for gay men.

[GerdOEvert]

Well, my psychiatrist says we are all bi, it is just a matter of degree.
My opinion is that bi women have easier acceptance than bi men.

When we were at a club and there was any bi action, it was always in
a closed room and private. Often an aggressive bi guy would want to
meet some place else for a MMF later.

I am bi. We had some adventures, but I prefer women. But the best BJ
I ever got was from a guy. He really knew what he was doing, and completely
drained me.

I love bi women. Sometimes at a club, a bi guy has a real urge and need, but
since it is not accepted widely, that is fulfilled in a private room, at least in my experience.

Our Club had a bi night, and that was Thursdays.

Otto & Eileen

[viajero]

Originally Posted by SwingCpl2

I tend to agree with the orginal poster.

The first time we swung, I had NO idea who was sucking my dick ( with a woman sitting on my face ). A guy sucked my dick without my knowledge, so does that make me bi? When a woman is riding my face and I'm getting the best head of my life, am I going to care if its a m/f who is doing the sucking? Never even entered my mind at the time!

My experience at the Chicago area clubs is alot almost ALL single guys wanting to be with a couple are open to m/m contact during a 3some. The same goes for Aff and other swing sites.

Just as an experiment on aff, I put up two profiles, one as a bi couple and the other as a straight couple looking for a male to join us. Pretty much the same group of single guys replied. Many stating, my profile says "straight" but I would want to suck your dick. In there response to the other profile, they were completely straight!

My guess is 80-90% of single guys looking for couples are bi to some degree.

With couples, I was suprised how many guys are bi. When we meet other couples, we do tell them that we are OK with m/m contact, but do not expect me to recripcate. We have been with about 30 couples, alot of "straight" men wanted to feel or suck my dick once I told them I was open to it. My guess is only about 10% admit being bi when asked, but behind closed doors with an couple who is accepting of the other guy being bi and it jumps up past 50%.

I always felt I was 100% straight until I started swinging. I still am very passively bi, but It certainly doesn't bother me if a guy wants to feel my dick and size me up before I give his wife the ride of her life... If he wants to suck his wifes juices off my dick when I'm done, more power to him.

It seems to make sense that a lot of single male swingers would be secretly bi. If you were single shouldn't you be spending your time looking for a new girlfriend first rather than chasing couples? I understand a straight guy needing a break from the dating scene and jumping at the chance to swing but I expect his preference would be a bisexual female couple. If a guy is perpetually single and only swings you have to wonder don't you?

There are clearly many gay and bi men in South Florida but I feel that has more to do with the open sexual culture than anything else. As people become more open sexually they are more likely to act on their curiosities. Also I think Latin men have a less prudish attitude towards sex than most Americans. There is the attitude that any hole will do.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by viajero

It seems to make sense that a lot of single male swingers would be secretly bi. If you were single shouldn't you be spending your time looking for a new girlfriend first rather than chasing couples?

I think I would agree with that statement but I'm sure you can't just make a blanket statement like that to be completely fair.

As far as the original question of 'are most male swingers by-sexual?' I am not homophobic but I have absolutely no desire or curiosity to know how anything would feel with another man. In a MFM situation or even MFMF there can be a lot of accidental or misguided groping but it better be accidental or misguided. Would I be able to tell the difference if it was a woman or man, maybe not but I don't care to find out.

In a MFM scenario, it's all about my wife and we (me and the other guy) are there to make her experience the best it can be. Keep your attention on her please!

I have no problem with others that are bi-sexual as they respect my boundaries. If your wife had boundaries and another guy or woman overstepped them I'm sure you would be pissed. It's the same with me. Be respectful or be with someone else. That's it.

[Mr.Essex]

No, most single male swingers in Americaaren't actively bisexual. To be honest, I've met my share of single male swingers who would... "go the extra mile" to have access to a woman (America), but I've never met a bisexual, "I'll take what I can get.", male swinger. Europe, OTOH, is full of heteroflexible men. And given the location of the OP, I'd assume that they've found themselves surrounded by people with "international" experience.

[Lalocaweta]

I can really only answer for my part of the world (Central Texas). My husband IS bisexual and we have pretty much given up on finding other couples via the traditional swingers clubs/sites where the male is open about his bisexuality.
For some reason, it is considered perfectly acceptable for the women to be bisexual, but there remains a stigma on male bisexuality. I really don't understand it. And as my husband says - if your eyes are closed - you can't tell who is sucking your dick and it still feels great.......(Hopefully)

[FitCpl30s]

Originally Posted by Lalocaweta

I can really only answer for my part of the world (Central Texas). My husband IS bisexual and we have pretty much given up on finding other couples via the traditional swingers clubs/sites where the male is open about his bisexuality.
For some reason, it is considered perfectly acceptable for the women to be bisexual, but there remains a stigma on male bisexuality. I really don't understand it. And as my husband says - if your eyes are closed - you can't tell who is sucking your dick and it still feels great.......(Hopefully)

That is so true.

[SIR_DRAGONFIRE5]

I would say it's found on ocassion in couples, but not frequently. If it's not what you're looking for, say to them, I'm sorry We're looking for Straight couples for swinging. The couples where the guy is bi, should say so up front from the beginning!

[lovegeneration]

I think women in such couples are bisexual!

[Miss Behaven]

I am Bi and my husband has recently said that he's curious. We haven't went down that road yet, it's been just talk. I'm on the fence about it, but am willing to let him explore his interest in it. That being said, I don't know if he'll ever get over the psychological mountain and actually try it. He wants me to 69 him while getting fucked from behind, so he can lick my clit. I'm game for that=)