"Discreet" bi men

gsu22 · 08-31-2009, 11:55 PM

I joined the swinglifestyle site to put up a profile looking for a bi couple and have got several e-mails back from the male part of the couple. Each one has said something to the effect of "my wife said she didn't want to know, just go suck cock if you wanta nd don't tell me the details" or "I'm looking to explore discreetly while she's at work or gone from home".

To me, I just think it sounds very weird to me....First of all, I'm not going to sneak around behind some woman's back to play with her hubby and 2nd of all, I just found it hard to believe the guys wife said "just go play and don't tell me about it, i think it's gross". He's what i like physically in a guy but our private chat gave me the wrong feeling.

Do these sound sketchy to you?

All I want is a bi couple for some hot MMF fun....hoping one eventually works out b/c couples where both are bi are very hard to find lately.

GSU

xxxboxy · 09-01-2009, 12:18 AM

I think that it sounds like they're cheating on their wives.

gsu22 · 09-01-2009, 12:34 AM

Yeah I think so too...the way they've tried to convince me it's no big deal is funny.....and I tell them no a lot

Rackir · 09-01-2009, 01:16 AM

Gotta agree. Even if you allow that they may be telling the truth, is itworth the potential drama if thier not? I get those from time to time as well, guys not looking for my wife and I as a couple, but just trying to meet me as a "suck buddy".

xxxboxy · 09-01-2009, 02:01 AM

Don't compromise your self respect...nobody wins cheating....

realcplub2 · 09-01-2009, 11:59 AM

Keep looking they ae out there..

And yes, you are encountering the repressed cheating males, and despite how many assurances.. dont buy it

walt1961 · 09-03-2009, 08:25 AM

Yes, definatley cheating. I get the same thing here in florida and my spouse and I agree if your wife don't know move on.

Mr.Essex · 09-07-2009, 03:15 AM

"Discreet" bi male swinger, IME, always=porno shop video booth stalkers. I used to live a couple blocks away from a porn shop, and it's all fun and games until you're trying to drunkenly walk home with a lady friend and she sees "Closet Case Guy" blowing "Drunk Married Guy" behind (behind, as in with one guy's ass sticking out) of a bush. They're usually hyper-promiscuous, indiscriminate as to who they're being promiscuous with (eventually living up to all of the negative stereotypes about gay people, like being disease ridden and being visible with their perversions), and the wife will kill him and/or you with a knife when she catches him and/or you in the act, forcing people like me to be character or crime scene witnesses. It isn't fun, not at all.

silentdub · 09-11-2009, 01:32 PM

It's called the 'Down Low'

Men go out and have sex with other men to fulfill their esires then go home to wife and tell themselves that they are not gay.

Personally, I think men can have sex with other men to explore certain desires and still not be gay. That would be a whole other conversation though.

SecretAsianMan · 09-11-2009, 07:38 PM

Well... I know that there are certainly people who don't accept the bisexual male (these people are of either gender) and get a bit uncomfortable at the idea of their male partners being with another guy.

So - some of these guys feel the need to explore that side of their sexuality on the sly.

Sometimes, their partners know that they do this... other times, the guys are just convinced that their partners wouldn't accept it so they've never even brought it up. Other times, the guy is still too ashamed to admit it to themselves openly - so they do it "on the down-low"

((shrug)) ... yes, it can be "sketchy"

Just be careful and play safe

Oleg&Lena · 09-12-2009, 03:15 AM

I agree with Secret_Asian_Man in all.
I was going to put here almost same words.

Quite common situation.
I'm bi, to be more precisely bi-curious, and my wife know it of course. But if I recall myself some years ago, when I did not know about my bisexuality exactly..., it was very difficult - to begin a such conversation with my wife, do not knowing, how she accept it.
We often met men, who say: "I am not bi, but I can fuck you if you wish...". Who are they? Bi? Or not?
There is another category, who name themselves strong hetero. Do they imply that there are not strong hetero men? Whom do they mean?

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08-31-2009, 11:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 248 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	"Discreet" bi men I joined the swinglifestyle site to put up a profile looking for a bi couple and have got several e-mails back from the male part of the couple. Each one has said something to the effect of "my wife said she didn't want to know, just go suck cock if you wanta nd don't tell me the details" or "I'm looking to explore discreetly while she's at work or gone from home". To me, I just think it sounds very weird to me....First of all, I'm not going to sneak around behind some woman's back to play with her hubby and 2nd of all, I just found it hard to believe the guys wife said "just go play and don't tell me about it, i think it's gross". He's what i like physically in a guy but our private chat gave me the wrong feeling. Do these sound sketchy to you? All I want is a bi couple for some hot MMF fun....hoping one eventually works out b/c couples where both are bi are very hard to find lately. GSU
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09-01-2009, 12:18 AM	#2 (permalink)
xxxboxy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 360 Location: Near Seattle Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxxboxy	Re: "Discreet" bi men I think that it sounds like they're cheating on their wives.

09-01-2009, 12:34 AM	#3 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 248 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	Re: "Discreet" bi men Yeah I think so too...the way they've tried to convince me it's no big deal is funny.....and I tell them no a lot
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09-01-2009, 01:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
Rackir Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 239 Location: Gresham, Or. Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:living2XS	Re: "Discreet" bi men Gotta agree. Even if you allow that they may be telling the truth, is itworth the potential drama if thier not? I get those from time to time as well, guys not looking for my wife and I as a couple, but just trying to meet me as a "suck buddy".
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09-01-2009, 02:01 AM	#5 (permalink)
xxxboxy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 360 Location: Near Seattle Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxxboxy	Re: "Discreet" bi men Don't compromise your self respect...nobody wins cheating....

09-01-2009, 11:59 AM	#6 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 806 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl	Re: "Discreet" bi men Keep looking they ae out there.. And yes, you are encountering the repressed cheating males, and despite how many assurances.. dont buy it
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09-03-2009, 08:25 AM	#7 (permalink)
walt1961 Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 13 Location: Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:walt1961	Re: "Discreet" bi men Yes, definatley cheating. I get the same thing here in florida and my spouse and I agree if your wife don't know move on.

09-07-2009, 03:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mr.Essex Shy but brave Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 254 Location: North Dakota, where freezin's the reason! Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:MrEssex	Re: "Discreet" bi men "Discreet" bi male swinger, IME, always=porno shop video booth stalkers. I used to live a couple blocks away from a porn shop, and it's all fun and games until you're trying to drunkenly walk home with a lady friend and she sees "Closet Case Guy" blowing "Drunk Married Guy" behind (behind, as in with one guy's ass sticking out) of a bush. They're usually hyper-promiscuous, indiscriminate as to who they're being promiscuous with (eventually living up to all of the negative stereotypes about gay people, like being disease ridden and being visible with their perversions), and the wife will kill him and/or you with a knife when she catches him and/or you in the act, forcing people like me to be character or crime scene witnesses. It isn't fun, not at all.
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09-11-2009, 01:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
silentdub Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 43 Location: Philly Area Status: Couple	Re: "Discreet" bi men It's called the 'Down Low' Men go out and have sex with other men to fulfill their esires then go home to wife and tell themselves that they are not gay. Personally, I think men can have sex with other men to explore certain desires and still not be gay. That would be a whole other conversation though.

09-11-2009, 07:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
SecretAsianMan Tastes Great Less Filling Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,467 Location: Los Angeles Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Secret_Asian_Man	Re: "Discreet" bi men Well... I know that there are certainly people who don't accept the bisexual male (these people are of either gender) and get a bit uncomfortable at the idea of their male partners being with another guy. So - some of these guys feel the need to explore that side of their sexuality on the sly. Sometimes, their partners know that they do this... other times, the guys are just convinced that their partners wouldn't accept it so they've never even brought it up. Other times, the guy is still too ashamed to admit it to themselves openly - so they do it "on the down-low" ((shrug)) ... yes, it can be "sketchy" Just be careful and play safe
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09-12-2009, 03:15 AM	#11 (permalink)
Oleg&Lena Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 51 Location: Russia, Samara reg. Status: Male half of married couple	Re: "Discreet" bi men I agree with Secret_Asian_Man in all. I was going to put here almost same words. Quite common situation. I'm bi, to be more precisely bi-curious, and my wife know it of course. But if I recall myself some years ago, when I did not know about my bisexuality exactly..., it was very difficult - to begin a such conversation with my wife, do not knowing, how she accept it. We often met men, who say: "I am not bi, but I can fuck you if you wish...". Who are they? Bi? Or not? There is another category, who name themselves strong hetero. Do they imply that there are not strong hetero men? Whom do they mean?
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