Just what does bi curious mean to most woman?

[SizzleinNC]

We have been with a few bi curious woman couples and every one of them would kiss, feel my wife up, let her feel up the bi curious one, even let my wife eat her but not return the favor.

Then we have met the Bi curious lady who will do anything.

Why do they call themselves bi curious?

This really has us baffled

[IvoryTowers]

Bi curious usually means that a woman is interested in being with a woman but hasn't had the experience (so she doesn't really know if the reality will be as exciting as the fantasy or how comfortable she'll be).

As such, the range of experiences you've had don't seem unusual and I think you should stop seeking after an exact set of behaviors that a woman who is "bi curious" will always do. Instead, talk to your partners who label themselves as bi curious and ask what they are interested in. If this is important to your wife, ask upfront and before a meeting. If it's a nice option, it can be something that can be explored in the moment.

[BiloxiCouple]

It means whatever to the person trying to define the term or benefit from the results of their interpretation.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

It means whatever to the person trying to define the term or benefit from the results of their interpretation.

Yep. *nodding*

[NCfuncouple98]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

It means whatever to the person trying to define the term or benefit from the results of their interpretation.

Absolutely. There have been many debates on this board as to what bi-curious really means, and whether or not there should be other terms that more appropriately "label" that person.

I think you have to discuss that up front, so that you are all clear as to what the expectations are.

[LOL_OMG]

If you take the words as they are Bi-Curious means what it sounds like. If a Bi-female reads more into it than there is then that falls on them. If the MRs. wants to get more into this cool, if not i will reply to any comments, after asking her of course 0_0.
Mr. Omg

[NotSorry]

It can also mean something like "we're slightly interested in that but it's not essential to us enjoying the experience".
Swing Lifestyle, tragically, does not have a "slightly interested in bi activity" designation, so the best thing to do in that case is hedge.

mr notsorry

[rickmccool]

You can only be bi curious once.

[CXXC]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

It means whatever to the person trying to define the term or benefit from the results of their interpretation.

This fact DRIVES ME NUTS! However, it is also completely true. Yet, commonsence would tell us, "You can only be bi curious once. " If you dont like it, you are not. If you do, you are! Simple.

Another reason people list themselves as bi-curious is a marketing ploy. Dishonest? Yes. But, it has almost become a requirement these days for women to be Bi. At least that is my understanding of the complaints I have read.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by SizzleinNC

We have been with a few bi curious woman couples and every one of them would kiss, feel my wife up, let her feel up the bi curious one, even let my wife eat her but not return the favor.

Swappernet used to have a label choice of "Passive Bi", which was defined as basically what you experienced.

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

It means whatever to the person trying to define the term or benefit from the results of their interpretation.

Originally Posted by CXXC

This fact DRIVES ME NUTS! However, it is also completely true. Yet, commonsence would tell us, "You can only be bi curious once. " If you dont like it, you are not. If you do, you are! Simple.

Another reason people list themselves as bi-curious is a marketing ploy. Dishonest? Yes. But, it has almost become a requirement these days for women to be Bi. At least that is my understanding of the complaints I have read.

To me, it means nothing more than someone has an interest in exploring their bi-sexuality, but has not done so yet. I'd agree that with some that people can't just be bi-curious forever.

That being said, I listed myself as bi-curious for a long time, because I wasn't seeking a bi-sexual experience, I was just open to it, and I'd not been in a situation in which I could rule out bisexuality. So, that accounted for a couple years using that label - I couldn't rule it out because I WAS still curious and with no experience yet to make that decision. I wasn't going to just try the bi-thing out with just anyone in order to make profiles easier to consider.

I tried out enough girl-girl "socially bi" activities and figured out that while it was nice enough, it's just not what holds my interest. I'm not bi. I'm no longer curious. Hence, it's now set at straight.

No marketing ploy on my part.

And just my .02. Obviously, YMMV.

[JustAskJulie]

To me BI-CURIOUS means that they haven't decided yet if they are really bi (attracted to women). Quite often what you described would be the norm for them... they are bi-receptive but not comfortable being on the giving end (and not sure if they will become so).

[NewMath]

What I think:

Bi-Curious: Interested in trying
Bi-Sexual: Has munched the muff

[Tia Vampire]

Well for myself, bi curious means that you are willing to try some same gender sex, but not all acts. Like for myself, i'm willing to do everything except go down on a woman. I feel that going all the way makes you either gay or bi-sexual. I think you can go all the way once to find out what you may be into.

[The Fuse]

"Bi-curious" on a profile means the woman might be open to some level of girl-girl play. To find out more, you have to ask.

"Bi-curious" in conversation ought to mean there is still some mystery to the woman as to how bisexual she is. As others have pointed out, once you've had some experiences, you should know better how bisexual you are.

I know perfectly well what my level of bi-ness is; but I am still "bi-curious" on our profile after three years because I feel it is code for "there is some room for play, perhaps, but I am not truly into women". There is just no better label available. Our profile explains, for people who bother to read. In person I explain when the subject comes up.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

"Bi-curious" on a profile means the woman might be open to some level of girl-girl play. To find out more, you have to ask.

"Bi-curious" in conversation ought to mean there is still some mystery to the woman as to how bisexual she is. As others have pointed out, once you've had some experiences, you should know better how bisexual you are.

I know perfectly well what my level of bi-ness is; but I am still "bi-curious" on our profile after three years because I feel it is code for "there is some room for play, perhaps, but I am not truly into women". There is just no better label available. Our profile explains, for people who bother to read. In person I explain when the subject comes up.

Excellently explained.. My lovely wife has a afinity to being defined by one roll or another.. She is best selfdescribed as Bi Comfortable, meaning she as Ms Fuse explained would prefer there to be some "wiggle" room, although, for the most part its her that initiates any contact. This having been said, it isnt something she feels she has had enough experience with to say that she is, but doesnt rule it out..

The very fact that everyone has a different way of defining it, makes it a bone of contenion for us.