Just what does bi curious mean to most woman?

[BiloxiCouple]

I've already said my piece on this.

Now with a little more.

Bi-friendly

Bi-neutral

Bi-party

Bi-oneway

[SizzleinNC]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

Excellently explained.. My lovely wife has a afinity to being defined by one roll or another.. She is best selfdescribed as Bi Comfortable, meaning she as Ms Fuse explained would prefer there to be some "wiggle" room, although, for the most part its her that initiates any contact. This having been said, it isnt something she feels she has had enough experience with to say that she is, but doesnt rule it out..

The very fact that everyone has a different way of defining it, makes it a bone of contenion for us.

We totally agree with you!! To us it seems like a cum on to initiate what the husband wishes. We list myself as bi but the bi comfortable labels best defines me. I love to kiss and caress woman but do not necessarily want to do oral on her. BUT there are woman I do want to do oral on once we start kissing. I always enjoy anyone man or woman to do oral on me!

What am I??

[unusualsuspects]

We love to say bi-comfortable mainly because true curiosity is honestly figured out pretty quickly.

In our case, while we don't feel specifically attracted towards anything same-sex, we are attracted towards what is hot. And what is hot can be very situationally and personally dependent.

When we hear about someone being curious we get curious and ask what they mean. Once we tell them our stance it they usually want to borrow it, and that makes for good conversational foreplay.

[hotjazz]

This is the thread that was on my mind. Glad I read it--was very imformative. We are now emptynesters, MrsHJ is feeling better, and we're talking about getting back into the "swing" of things.
We've been with only 3 or 4 couples one of which became exclusive partners for 2 years until we hung it up until now. However, we won't go back with them because the other gal didn't seem too interested in participating. Nontheless, when she did(participate) in the beginning she initiated her bi desires toward my wife. Mostly it was titty sucking and moderate fingering. The Mrs. took it in stride as it being the first time. The other time was with another couple and the gal went down on the Mrs. There have been a few other instances when MrsHJ has played with a guys cock when he was entering his partner's pussy.As of late when we were watching a porn and a bi or lez scene played the Mrs. seemed to squirm a little more than usual(could I have imagined it?). As Julie wrote my wife is a "receiver" not a giver. I'd like to know her feelings on this subject and I know you'll say to discuss it. We have great communication but I'm afraid to broach the subject in fear of embarassing her which I know will happen. Quite honestly, I'd like to see her take it a step further.
BTW- she never balked when I wrote "bi-curious" on her Swing Lifestyle profile.
Thanks in advance for any insight you may offer. Mr Hot Jazz

[kellimc]

We all know what it really means. It means the bi-curious female is selfish and likes to have her pussy licked by another woman but won't return the favor.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by kellimc

We all know what it really means. It means the bi-curious female is selfish and likes to have her pussy licked by another woman but won't return the favor.

Well now that might be true for some "bi curious" women, but not for me. If I don't want to give, I don't want to receive either, and it says so right in our profile. I don't think it's fair to characterize all "bi-curious" women as selfish.

There's been a lot of discussion on this Board about why women continue to list themselves as bi-curious, when there's no curiosity left. The reasons are too many to spell out in one post. Some are well-meaning, some are not.

[Jamie&Kieth]

OOPS! Guess I am the naive one here being in a shell of close friends. Though I can laugh about it. Really I can count on one hand the number of times I have been with a woman one on one in the last 25 years.

I enjoy a woman but it really flips my switch when I know Keith is (or friends are ) is watching. When we are all together yes I become sexually involved with a woman, but I do not have a girl friend(s) on the side. Nor do I have sex with a woman with out Keith or another male around. Oh, yes I enjoy eating pussy & anal licking, fondling tits and tongue kissing ... especially "sloppy seconds".

Oh well silly me!

Jamie

[frisky-n-fun]

I have never classified myself as bi curious. I decided I wanted to try sex with a specific woman and that night I did, and now I am absolutely bi - no curiousity there. I have had encounters with woman who call themselves bi curious, and while they are fun to flirt with and participate in nipple action I have never tried to take one any further because they always seemed unsure abt doing so. In my experience most bi curious women enjoy getting physical with other women but just are not sure abt taking the dive, to expect more than that without them telling you they will take it further is just setting yourself up for failure. I say enjoy casual play with them if you dig them, then let your SO reap the benefits.

[LilyPuss]

All I know is that if a woman we meet is "bi-curious" AND shy, she is not for us. I am truly prefer a man, though I love the feel and touch of women, just as I love to touch and feel women. But, if you are a woman and want to play with us, you better have at least some inkling as to what you are doing.

If women aren't your thing, say so. Don't tease.

BTW, I am not attracted to all women, just as I am not attracted to all men.

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

The very fact that everyone has a different way of defining it, makes it a bone of contenion for us.

I think the fact this is a bone of contention with you is more a reflection of what you guys want. Almost everything in Swinging (to my experiences at least) is subjective.

a couple that wants a "same room swap" may not allow kissing, or want to couple off completely (him with Mrs Phoenix, me with his wife), where others that are into "same room swap" will want an all in pile on, with much swapping backwards and forwards. a couple that lists they are into "slight BDSM" may mean anything from a bit of soft spanking to full whips, chains, leather restraints etc. this doesn't raise the same sort of contention as the "bi curious" statement, possibly because these aspects are not used anywhere near as much in screening potential play partners.

there are many differences that may weigh in on people listing as bi curious. Mrs Phoenix has considered it, even though she is completely bi (her first sexual experience was with a woman), because people read "bi sexual" and misinterprit that as "sure thing for girl on girl play". women trying to find their feet when it comes to playing with other women, or couples seeking a unicorn often see Mrs "bi-sexual" part on her profile as "she will fuck any woman she encounters".

bi curious would at least make the potential play partners weigh up the possibility there won't be girl on girl action for whatever reason (mrs phoenix wants cock that night, or she just isn't attracted to the other woman).

[Trace Ekies]

Initially Mrs. Ekies was curious...she hadn't tried it yet but wanted to. Then she tried and enjoyed it, becoming what we believed to be bi- and then she realized that she enjoys the touch, taste and smell of a woman but prefers the touch, taste and smell of a man making her what we believe to be bi-friendly.

A woman is a nice starting course and makes her hot but an 8 inch penis as big around as a coke can will make her tremble and groan in ways she can't accurately describe. Add one for her mouth and one for her ass and she'll forget her name.

She's seen a women or two in the lifestyle that she said she found so attractive that she may have to set up something on the side. But 8 out of 10 times it's men that she makes that comment about. Fortunately for me she likes multiple men.

Trace

[YZF]

Originally Posted by Trace Ekies

She's seen a women or two in the lifestyle that she said she found so attractive that she may have to set up something on the side. But 8 out of 10 times it's men that she makes that comment about. Fortunately for me she likes multiple men.

Trace

Mrs. YZF got into the lifestyle liking the fact that in our circle there were alot of bi and bi-curious women available. It has changed a bit of late because she has been doing multiple men anally.

[bi_slinky4u]

I love to kiss and caress woman but do not necessarily want to do oral on her. BUT there are woman I do want to do oral on once we start kissing. I always enjoy anyone man or woman to do oral on me!

What am I??

You are exactly what you said... a woman who enjoys the sensual part of being with someone. Whether that person is a man or a woman is up to you.

I call myself "bi", but this is because I enjoy giving and receiving when it comes to an encounter with another woman. I have no doubts that I enjoy it the act itself.

This does not mean, however, that I want to go down on or attack every woman that I meet. Like with an attraction to a man, some I want to have sex with, some I just want to talk to, flirt or kiss. It depends on the situation, the person, my level of attraction to them, and my mood.

[Speed & Trixie]

When I find out a woman is "bi-curious," it means (to me) that this woman most likely will not want to play with me. I'm bi, but I don't have to play with a woman every time (that would make me a lesbian, right? LOL).

If I'm attracted to Ms. Curious, I'd tell her so, but also make it clear that I don't push other people's boundries. So she would have to make all the first moves, whereas with a woman listed "bi" I would feel more comfortable taking the lead (if chemistry is right).

With the first couple we've played with, the wife told me she was bi-curious at our "meet and talk," and I told her I'm bi without any further elaboration. We had a couple of full-swaps, MF/MF, and eventually we broke our FF cherries. (She was truly "curious" in that she'd never been with a woman before. And since she said she enjoyed it, I'll have to ask her if she's still "curious." )

Basically, if I'm looking specifically to play with a woman I'll let that be known early on. Otherwise, FF play is more of a bonus when it comes to couples. I would never have a threesome with a straight woman. I think it would be too limiting.

Trixie