My wife is Bi, who would have known!

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
I have a raging fever at the moment, but saw this thread, couldn't help it...bear with me please. I think I've stated my concerns and feelings about the women that are "truly bi"..or are just passively so, or stating it as a added lure...but wont go there.

I just wanted to add, that I've always been "close" all my life, with one or two women...and looking back, lot's of those realtionships had an added element I was too far into denial to see...I had crushes and even cared deeply for some.

One thing I've heard countless women tell me, if they say they are bi-curious...sticks out in my mind, and I felt the same way. I am openly bi...have had several girlfiends, so I have been approached by local women, that just wanted to "talk" to a person that can keep thier anonymity. I'm real good like that, I like the reputation that secrets are safe with me..

So, that thing I was talking about...and soooo often I've heard the same thing...especially if one is having a drink to loosen inhibitions about even talking about it...but not always the case. I found there's a big fear there..that might go along with the curiosity...and sometimes that fear might be deep enough to make certain women never even consider that side of themselves..if they have one.

I knew I was attracted to women, at the end of my short marriage I was sure of it(Miss Sunshine, the marriage ended due to other reasons, but I did leave and ended up with the same woman for a considerable amount of time)...but I had the same fear that I've since heard literally countless times from others. There is this feeling that another woman is supposed to really knows how to turn on another woman, just b/c they are both female. I can agree to a degree...but also know, really, we are all individual, and all the woman I have slept with, might have some similairities...but none of them, have been the same. I've been happy to find that in general, women might be more open about helping to direct me...having great communication...generally, not all, of course. OK..the fear for me and several others might sound really silly, but it was very real for me.

Since I had sex with men only up to a point, and not having any experience with women yet....I was nervous about the one act of "going down" or "eating out" a woman. I was nervous that of course, it would be expected...and didn't know if I could handle it...and didn't know if I could please her....all I knew were my prior experiences...and being a woman...I know that it is often not so cut and dry as to what will be the "turn ons". I was afraid if I started to do it..and then couldn't continue, of disappointing and "feeling stupid"...b/c there is that great expectation, that women just will naturally know all about pleasing another woman, no matter what, like a mind reader.

I just knew I had feelings for other women...but was a little intimdated, instead of taking it one step at a time. I've heard so many women say to me..."I'd like to experiment on another woman, but I just cannot picture or get over the idea of eating her out..." Now I can say there is no pressure, go as far or not as you feel good about. Also I share with them that in my case...I worrried and worried about giving good oral sex or being able to "do it right"...etc...and you know what? It was the MOST natural thing in the world when it happened. I absolutely love love love to eat a woman out as long as she can stand it, or will let me...no joke! I also like to give to men...very much.

OK..this whole post maybe incoherant..and I need to get back in some hot water...hurts to breath...but great thread. Too bad about the doctor...or whatever that was all about...geez...I know the type...it's called projection, I think... But no bad wishes towards anyone!! I just felt bad for those that were "attacked" in actuality. This is a great place...and part of what makes it great is the variety, and ability to be honest with each other.....Warm wishes to all......Sincerely, karmic

[sxmcouple]

Your story sounds so familiar to mine. Can't wait to see how far the Ms. will take it but obviously she's well past the long standing line that it was gross. Watching her make out with another woman while I sat between the two ladies was an amazing thing to witness. Can't wait to see what happens next.

[dr_pepper]

After many discussions with my ex about our both being bi, I know that if I had any say in the matter, I would be a bi woman, who leaned toward women, but would be in a hetro relationship.

I remember a young girl I worked with, who happily went to bed with anyone she liked. Sadly I was too old for her to be interested in. She was a free spirit :O The best kind.

[roosternhen4hen]

My wife is shy about it but a lot of the same things turn her on. Since it seems like you have a little experience with this; could you have a talk with her in hopes to help us achieve this also.

[magnum]

Originally Posted by WildFire

We are both somewhat new to swinging, we have been married almost 16 years, we don't have a lot of experiences yet and so far we have only soft swapped with a few other couples, but in addition to swapping spouses, I always had the fantasy of seeing my beautiful wife locking lips with another beautiful woman and maybe even making love together, what man doesn't dream of that!!!
When ever I brought up that possibility with her, she would say gross, no way, not me, not in a million years, etc... Not any more!!! In the past several weeks she has had some really great experiences with another woman that we met on the dance floor at our local on-premise club. It all started with some dancing, then a little touching, and some playfull kisses and finally full on making out.
She loved it, and she isn't just doing it to please me which is what I originally thought. I asked her what changed her mind? She said she was in a moment and it just felt right. I am so happy for her, and I don't mind either...I even got in on the action with a threeway kiss in the middle of the two of them which was so nice...

I have to say as much as I hoped this would happen someday, I never thought she would really do it. I still can't believe it!!! She said never had feelings for women before we started swinging, and now we can talk openly about it to a degree... She is ready to explore some more at this point. Is this the way most of the other bi-curious, bi-sexual swinging women got started?

Mr. Wildfire

Lucky you...