Those who are bisexual - what was your first sign?

[realcplub2]

Julie you mean like Bill Engval?

How about a yellow T shirt, with a simple

"two way traffic ahead"

Heres your sign....

[LFM2]

I knew I found females "attractive" and actually fantasized about being with other females when I was around 12. I was still attracted to boys at that age, but girls held a certain curiosity.

[walt1961]

When I went in military met this beautiful mature woman who had been my first in sex in like for ever. She asked me what would you do for me if I brought another girl over for a 3some and told her, what ever she asked me to do. following weekend she invited a close friend of hers that was about 55y/o and said my new classes started and have been orally bi since, have enjoyed every minute of it.

[Rackir]

Originally Posted by CuriousLeo's

Im not sure I am 'bi' but here is my two cents anyway...
I first started to become interested in cocks, and then m/m stuff while enjoying porn during my college days. Never once did I consider liking guys in H.S. And never looked at guys and could even say one was more attractive than another.
But during my single days of watching porn I started to realize I liked seeing cock and cocks cumming etc... I repressed it for years, as all good catholic macho boys should, and after big fights trying to hide the porn and thoughts from my wife, it came out, and I am very glad it did.
The weight was off my shoulders, I found out she thought it was super hot, we had previously talked about swinging, but this certainly added fuel to our fire. So here we are, broke our cherry a week ago, with swinging, and my first time with a man.
Mr. Leo

Congratulations on multiple fronts. Your first experience, finding someone you can honest with, and being honest with yourself! Congrats!

For me, I had suspicions for a long time, but didn’t even think of myself as anything other than straight because it was always women who caught my eye. I didn’t actually realize that I had a real desire to play with other men until my wife and I entered a phase of our lives where we got pretty heavily into drug use (a phase which is now many years past). Say what you will about meth, it does do some really amazing things to a persons sexuality (possible thesis topic there). That’s when the fantasies really started happening. One night while I was alone I decided to see how they translated to reality, met a guy on AOL and invited him back to my place. Yup, completely enjoyed the experience (just oral and hand), and it became a recurring part of my fantasy life.

Since then I've had a few (very few really) chances to play with other guys, and though it still almost entirely women to whom I am attracted, I simply cannot deny the joy I get from playing with another guy, so there it is, I'm definitely Bi (Kinsey would feel so validated).

[TheLorax]

I hung arond with the gay crowd in my hometown when I was younger. Even as I was exploring my sexuality at a young age, I found male erotica interesting, though I was far more interested in heterosexual erotica. Curiously enough, as a child my first sexual exploration experiences when I was 6 and then 8 were with another boy, but that wasn't something I would consider anything other than normal kids seeing what other kids had "down there." Then, shortly before I was 18, I lost my virginity to the woman who would be my first wife. So I knew I wasn't gay, obviously I was straight. We did some swinging and after a few years we split up amicably.

When I was in my early 20s I was hiking along with a group and the guy in front of me had taken his shirt off and I was admiring his back while we were hiking. Then I was telling myself, "wait, he's a guy, I shouldn't be finding that sexy (male or female, a well developed back is sexy to me!). That started a conversation with myself as I was hiking along and by the time we got back to the trailhead I'd figured out that there was another option other than gay or straight. It wasn't for another two years before I had my first sexual experience with another man. It didn't suddenly make me a different person. I enjoyed it and fantasized about it. Since then I've still mostly been sexually involved with women. But my attraction to someone develops partly from who they are, and partly from whether they are interested in me as well. It's only the fact that the dating pool is far larger for opposite sex mixings that I wound up in a triad with two women.

[Karmickiss]

Hi All, great thread,
It's so nice to be visiting the forums again....Anyway, jumping in here hope it's okay..I think this is an interesting thread. I remember since being very very young, and throughout childhood having usually one female "friend", that I was close to...and in some way, "dares" or adventourous "games" or even role playing by making up our own "soap operas" would end up in experimenting. Some of this doing all that we could possibly think of to "do" as two girls...even oral sex...and for the longest time after getting married young, I kind of stuffed those memories down..not thinking too deeply about it.
Then, in later teen years,and also in my first marriage years I too, like someone here said, started having erotic dreams with females...and after a particularly vivid one, that stayed in my mind for weeks, I had a revelation that I was, in fact was bi...and couldn't believe that I didn't identify as that a long time ago!! I have several gay friends, and always did..it just amazes me that it took me until about 19 to really admit this part of me.
Speaking of dreams....when I was very young, and on and off for years I dreamt that I was with a woman, but for whatever reason, I was always a "man" in those dreams...doing things to women....I'd be willing to bet I've probably been a man in maybe most of my past lives(yes I'm one of those..lol, believe in reincarnation)...but perhaps, too..it was a way of staying in "denial" for as long as I did.
Now, and for a long time...I've been much more happy and open since the admission. I love being female, and I love other women...it is totally different for me in some ways..but the same in others. Hoping all have a great day today, kamic

[chiswing69]

I think I always knew but denied it too. I think this is my first post too? LOL

But yea ever since I was like about 5 or 6 I've had a fascination with my body period, I loved being naked yada yada, which ok isn't so bi-esque. But when I was around 8-10 I decided to have a sleep over and dare my friend to show me his penis or just get naked with me, then slowly I started daring to touch each others penis yada yada. It was weird but I ended up stroking his cock and really really enjoyed it. I wanted to ask him if I can put it in my mouth (YEA AND I WAS ONLY AROUND 10) but he basically said no that would be gay (lol as if what we were doing wasn't?) Anyway 2 years later around 12, I did the same thing with another friend of mine after I had moved away, no stroking just weird kid exploration... stuff... lol After that, mind you both friendships got weird, then a third time happened when I was around 14? This was just us asking to see each others junk and nothing happened. Now I do admit if a guy is good looking but I have no interest in men like that, I love women and more importantly I love my wife, but I am very interested, especially lately! in sucking cock or stroking one, helping my wife, possibly having sex with a man even.... yes I'm getting hard as I type this out and I admit I feel weird about it at the same time I've been enjoying a lot of bi sexual porn. My wife loves the idea, when I told her about it all (she's bi) she was so turned on! We were doing the dirty dirty and had her dildo out and I put it in her mouth then put it in mine and when she saw that she just started going nuts....

anywayyyy enough of my rambling on. But that's my whole history on my first signs and current fantasies.... lol the hardest thing is to find a totally bi couple or bi guy that we can trust. Meh better safe and waiting then sorry!

[ViSexual]

When I was about 12 a friend and I were talking about girls, and masturbating together in a tent in his back yard one night.

He asked me if I wanted to do each other and my silence must have indicated yes.

His hand felt really good on me. It was the first hand, other than my own.

But what really surprised me was that his erect penis felt better in my hand than his hand was feeling on my penis.

After a long while of just playing with each other he asked if I would suck it.

I immediately answered, "no way"!

We continued to masturbate each other until we both ejaculated.

I, later, wished I said instead..., "you first".

It was not until I'd graduated and spent seven years in the military and been married several years that I experimented again. Long story, made short, I experienced my first giving oral on a man. It was interesting and I enjoyed it but not nearly as much as I expected. And not nearly as much as I enjoy giving oral to a woman.

I guess my favorite is to have both at once with a man and a woman.

[gsu22]

Wow I got hard reading that...definitely hard to find a bi couple. I've always had a fantasy of finding a bi couple where the wife didn't mind if the guy would play alone when she wasn't home sometimes...

I've found a few but they're all guys just cheating on their wives and I say no thanks(hence a thread I started a few weeks back)

Originally Posted by chiswing69

I think I always knew but denied it too. I think this is my first post too? LOL

But yea ever since I was like about 5 or 6 I've had a fascination with my body period, I loved being naked yada yada, which ok isn't so bi-esque. But when I was around 8-10 I decided to have a sleep over and dare my friend to show me his penis or just get naked with me, then slowly I started daring to touch each others penis yada yada. It was weird but I ended up stroking his cock and really really enjoyed it. I wanted to ask him if I can put it in my mouth (YEA AND I WAS ONLY AROUND 10) but he basically said no that would be gay (lol as if what we were doing wasn't?) Anyway 2 years later around 12, I did the same thing with another friend of mine after I had moved away, no stroking just weird kid exploration... stuff... lol After that, mind you both friendships got weird, then a third time happened when I was around 14? This was just us asking to see each others junk and nothing happened. Now I do admit if a guy is good looking but I have no interest in men like that, I love women and more importantly I love my wife, but I am very interested, especially lately! in sucking cock or stroking one, helping my wife, possibly having sex with a man even.... yes I'm getting hard as I type this out and I admit I feel weird about it at the same time I've been enjoying a lot of bi sexual porn. My wife loves the idea, when I told her about it all (she's bi) she was so turned on! We were doing the dirty dirty and had her dildo out and I put it in her mouth then put it in mine and when she saw that she just started going nuts....

anywayyyy enough of my rambling on. But that's my whole history on my first signs and current fantasies.... lol the hardest thing is to find a totally bi couple or bi guy that we can trust. Meh better safe and waiting then sorry!

[peanut1972]

In hindsight I was young probably around 7 I found my dad's porno mag, I was disgusted! How could he do this to my mom! I couldn't stop looking at either the girl on girl action was amazing. Around the same time I had a female friend who I would play doctor with. I liked her and liked her brother two. The age I say is 12 because I really started to think about sex, as sex, then. I loved men but I had this attraction to women and actresses. I didn't think to much about my sexuality because there were no people I found attractive in high school. I knew what I was, I knew I liked both but no one around me did anything for me.

[raleighncnaked]

Here's a twist - I'm the male in this couple and my bisexuality developed more as a physiological phenomena than as a psychological one. In my teens, I was never able to masturbate to orgasm. I would masturbate, and stick things in my ass to stimulate my prostate (I later learned) but was never able to cum. I had sex with a number of girls and was able to cum that way but, as you can imagine, it was frustrating to have only that one outlet. Then, when I was 19, I allowed a man to seduce me. He fucked me in the ass and I came without even touching my cock. After that, I learned how to masturbate (at first by sticking things in my ass), and also learned that I could enjoy the company of men as well as women. For me it was that first time with a man that made the difference - I was Pavlov's dog and that man was able to ring my bell.

[MsGoneWild]

When i first found myself sexually attracted to a female coworker of BF and I's at an old job.. I knew I was legit bisexual.

[PassionIsIn]

I grew up and went to school in a very GLBT-friendly area, my best friend in school was a gay guy, and there were plenty of same sex couples at my High School. So while I had a very conservative/strict upbringing, I was still exposed to the idea relatively young.

A close girlfriend of mine was quite the party-girl back then, and she talked about her bisexual rendevous with me all the time, which sparked my interest in exploring women myself. I noticed when she talked about it I would get really hot and start noticing how sexy she was and how intriguing I found that naughty side of her.

She came down to visit me after I got married, and one night we all were drinking a bit and being silly. She made a move towards me that night and it ended up being my first sexual experience with a woman...a 3some w/ her and my hubby (I was 19 at the time). After that, I guess you could say I was hooked

That experience led us, very quickly, into the lifestyle to further explore our fantasies and desires. My main conclusion about my own bisexuality was in discovering what beautiful beings women are, their skin, their hair, their eyes...their bodies in general are simply made to be touch, teased, and explored!

[billanderin]

I had fooled around a bit with boys in high school - guys that played sports knew that to hang around the locker room after others had gone home meant you wanted to play. When I went to the Naval academy, I had several boyfriends. I found that a lot of that activity was considered normal and mostly ignored. I also had many sexual relationships with girls and enjoyed both.
My parents were very conservative Catholics and would have been totally shocked if they had known. I didnt tell my wife (also a Catholic girl) until after we married but to my surprise, she was very receptive and was anxious to incorporate it into our swinging. Our son is also bi and we support him totally.
It has worked well for us - brought us closer as a couple.

[dr_pepper]

As I remember, my first sexual encounter was at age 6 with the girl next door, and our checking each other out. And I found that I really was fascinated with girls. It was around age 10 or so that a guy friend, and I were both horny and couldn't find any girls to play with, so we started masturbating together and each other. He nor I thought anything of this, because we really wanted to explore things with girls.

During high school, I had some platonic relationships with girls. Since I was terribly shy I never really got to explore the sexual side. Eventually, I did find a lady who I married and enjoyed that side of life. After a few years, her and I had some problems and during a period of separation, I stayed with a friend from work, who I knew was supposed to be bi, but wasn't really concerned about that. Then, one night I woke up feeling my dick being sucked, and thought, now this is interesting. I looked over and saw my friend busy at work, and his beautiful, hard dick, sticking right out at me. Of course I had to help him and took matters in hand. All of this felt perfectly natural. I wanted to do more for him, but he was afraid of scaring me.

Nothing more has happened with a guy since then, but a later marriage found me with a very sexual woman, who learned that she was bi around age 15, when she was very close to another girl and found that she liked it. In time she learned about my experiences and she loved it and wanted me to do more. Sadly, we were never able to do all that we wanted in a sexual vein, with others, but I learned so much from her.

Now, I have to say that I have no desire to have a relationship with another guy, but I sure love seeing a hard dick. And certainly I am not afraid of one. But, I love women, in so many ways