Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men?

08-22-2008, 08:30 AM

Well, here's the story. My hubby and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about 2 years now. It all started because of some bi-sexual curiosity's that I finally admitted to myself and my hubby that I had. And I guess I should have been clued in because of sneaking peaks at playboy magazines and getting totally aroused by them as a teen, as well as fantasies that I had about other women when I was alone, but I was just in serious denial. Anyhow, it all came to surface, and after discussing it immensly, we decided to get into swinging with other couples so we could both have fun (just in case the bi-thing wasn't for me) and to experiment with that curiosity of mine. Anyhow, long story short, after having several bi-experiences, I still don't really enjoy the actual thing as much as I enjoy the fantasy of it. I still much more prefer men, so I don't really know if that would classify me as bi or not. But anyways, to my question. This is for the straight guys out there. Since I personally would consider myself to be mostly straight, but still curious, I was wondering if you straight guys had those kinds of fantasies as well? Is your curiosity peaked and are you aroused by the thought of performing oral on another guy, or even having sex with another guy? If so, would you actually do it if the opportunity was there? Or do some of you men have a serious case of "denial" like I had? Just curiously trying to get a sneak peak into the curiosities of the straight guys minds. I have received answers from my hubby, but wondered what the general consensus on this was....

Thanks in advance for your replies!!!

spvcouple · 08-22-2008, 06:20 PM

Wow, I get to be the first one to answer. Yee Haw!!

I think that a good percentage of guys think about it from time to time. They will never admit it though. Our childhood was geared toward not being a sissy.
I have harbored thoughts and fantasies along these lines. I am afraid, though, of the let down if I don't have fun. Some fantasies are better left to stimulate the biggest sex organ....the mind.

realcplub2 · 08-26-2008, 10:42 AM

The Late Great , Sam Kinison used to tell a joke, about how all guys have a gay fantasy, and he sat down and went thru his fantasies because he wanted it OUT

As far as the posted question..

I would say it boils down to a few factors..

Time
Opportunity
and
Discretion

Not sure if the fantasy aspect plays as much as if the chance occured and they could

**BiloxiCouple** · 08-26-2008, 12:25 PM

If I was to reply honestly, I would have to be unregistered.

cocpl2007 · 08-26-2008, 01:14 PM

SecretAsianMan · 08-26-2008, 04:38 PM

It'll be different from guy to guy - just like with women... some guys are into it and others aren't at all interested and some feel so strongly about it that they almost feel threatened by the suggestion.

Sadly, western society hasn't grown as "accepting" to male-on-male (as compared to the rather open acceptance of female-on-female) sexual activities in popular culture...

For me... I'm rather indifferent to it at this point. I'm not "bothered" by seeing men with other men - and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me. But it's not something I would really pursue at this point.

**good times** · 08-26-2008, 05:03 PM

No, never have.

**fun4Ds** · 08-26-2008, 05:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

It'll be different from guy to guy - just like with women... some guys are into it and others aren't at all interested and some feel so strongly about it that they almost feel threatened by the suggestion.

Sadly, western society hasn't grown as "accepting" to male-on-male (as compared to the rather open acceptance of female-on-female) sexual activities in popular culture...

For me... I'm rather indifferent to it at this point. I'm not "bothered" by seeing men with other men - and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me. But it's not something I would really pursue at this point.

The grey area doesn't work here.

Do you fantasize ? OR.... Not ?

Thats what she wants to know !

**fun4Ds** · 08-26-2008, 05:07 PM

For me, the answer is NO !

SecretAsianMan · 08-26-2008, 05:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

The grey area doesn't work here.

Do you fantasize ? OR.... Not ?

Thats what she wants to know !

No, I've ever fantasized about being with another guy... I've only thought about the theoretical possibility of something occuring in the context of swinging with a couple.

**fun4Ds** · 08-26-2008, 05:47 PM

[quote=SecretAsianMan;343824]

Quote:

and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me.

So you would let him do it with out ever thinking about it ?

How can that be ?

SecretAsianMan · 08-26-2008, 07:35 PM

[quote=fun4Ds;343860]

Quote:

Originally Posted by SecretAsianMan

So you would let him do it with out ever thinking about it ?

How can that be ?

I've thought about it, in regards to interacting with a couple - in case the guy happened to be bisexual and wouldn't think I'd wig out if they were up-front about his preferences & we decided to play anyway. But I have not fantasized about having any sort of one-on-one play with another male.

I guess maybe I mis-read the original question

**fun4Ds** · 08-26-2008, 08:08 PM

I see then what your saying...... Just messin with ya

steversk · 08-26-2008, 09:03 PM

I have had fantasies about sex with other men. I had a dream once about my wife and I on a charter sailboat with another couple (the captain and crew) and after a few days of close quarter we started with some soft swapping, then progressed and finally us guys gave each other oral. I have often thought it would be fun to give another guys a blow job, and would not have a problem receiving one. I also enjoy anal, so another fantasy is to have a guy fuck me while his wife gives me a blow job. I have had my wife do this to me with a dildo and it feels great. To me it would just be sex. However, the thought of kissing another guy kind of grosses me out. Same with my wife. We have watched some bi porn together and the sex part is OK, but when the guys kiss we both don't like it. That does seem a little funny, that I could suck a guys cock but be grossed out at the thought of kissing him. Any other guys interest in bi play feel the same about kissing other guys?

imi2me · 08-26-2008, 10:04 PM

Well, the older I get the more sexually liberal I have become. I consider myself a real man, however, I do fantasize about a man, and have acted on those fantasies. Not ofter, and the circumstances had to be just right, an being a top or a bottom hasn't mattered. Bottom line is: If it feels good, why should you deny yourself, or your partner(s)? Does that make me gay? I think not. A sissy? I can probably kick your ass!

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08-22-2008, 08:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
Unregistered Posts: n/a	Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? Well, here's the story. My hubby and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about 2 years now. It all started because of some bi-sexual curiosity's that I finally admitted to myself and my hubby that I had. And I guess I should have been clued in because of sneaking peaks at playboy magazines and getting totally aroused by them as a teen, as well as fantasies that I had about other women when I was alone, but I was just in serious denial. Anyhow, it all came to surface, and after discussing it immensly, we decided to get into swinging with other couples so we could both have fun (just in case the bi-thing wasn't for me) and to experiment with that curiosity of mine. Anyhow, long story short, after having several bi-experiences, I still don't really enjoy the actual thing as much as I enjoy the fantasy of it. I still much more prefer men, so I don't really know if that would classify me as bi or not. But anyways, to my question. This is for the straight guys out there. Since I personally would consider myself to be mostly straight, but still curious, I was wondering if you straight guys had those kinds of fantasies as well? Is your curiosity peaked and are you aroused by the thought of performing oral on another guy, or even having sex with another guy? If so, would you actually do it if the opportunity was there? Or do some of you men have a serious case of "denial" like I had? Just curiously trying to get a sneak peak into the curiosities of the straight guys minds. I have received answers from my hubby, but wondered what the general consensus on this was.... Thanks in advance for your replies!!!

08-22-2008, 06:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
spvcouple Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 43 Location: Arizona Status: couple SLS Name:spvcouple	Re: Is this the norm with guys? Wow, I get to be the first one to answer. Yee Haw!! I think that a good percentage of guys think about it from time to time. They will never admit it though. Our childhood was geared toward not being a sissy. I have harbored thoughts and fantasies along these lines. I am afraid, though, of the let down if I don't have fun. Some fantasies are better left to stimulate the biggest sex organ....the mind.

08-26-2008, 10:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 352 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple SLS Name:putnamcocpl Blog Entries: 17	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? The Late Great , Sam Kinison used to tell a joke, about how all guys have a gay fantasy, and he sat down and went thru his fantasies because he wanted it OUT As far as the posted question.. I would say it boils down to a few factors.. Time Opportunity and Discretion Not sure if the fantasy aspect plays as much as if the chance occured and they could

08-26-2008, 12:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,763 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? If I was to reply honestly, I would have to be unregistered. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

08-26-2008, 01:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
cocpl2007 Here to play Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 289 Location: Colorado Status: Couple SLS Name:cocpl2007	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? No!

08-26-2008, 04:38 PM	#6 (permalink)
SecretAsianMan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 478 Location: Los Angeles Status: Single Male SLS Name:Secret_Asian_Man	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? It'll be different from guy to guy - just like with women... some guys are into it and others aren't at all interested and some feel so strongly about it that they almost feel threatened by the suggestion. Sadly, western society hasn't grown as "accepting" to male-on-male (as compared to the rather open acceptance of female-on-female) sexual activities in popular culture... For me... I'm rather indifferent to it at this point. I'm not "bothered" by seeing men with other men - and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me. But it's not something I would really pursue at this point. __________________ I used to be indecisive... now I'm not so sure.

08-26-2008, 05:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,420 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? No, never have. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

08-26-2008, 05:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,961 Location: Indiana. Status: couple SLS Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 15	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? For me, the answer is NO ! __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

08-26-2008, 08:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,961 Location: Indiana. Status: couple SLS Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 15	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? I see then what your saying...... Just messin with ya __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

08-26-2008, 09:03 PM	#14 (permalink)
steversk Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Lancaster Status: Couple	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? I have had fantasies about sex with other men. I had a dream once about my wife and I on a charter sailboat with another couple (the captain and crew) and after a few days of close quarter we started with some soft swapping, then progressed and finally us guys gave each other oral. I have often thought it would be fun to give another guys a blow job, and would not have a problem receiving one. I also enjoy anal, so another fantasy is to have a guy fuck me while his wife gives me a blow job. I have had my wife do this to me with a dildo and it feels great. To me it would just be sex. However, the thought of kissing another guy kind of grosses me out. Same with my wife. We have watched some bi porn together and the sex part is OK, but when the guys kiss we both don't like it. That does seem a little funny, that I could suck a guys cock but be grossed out at the thought of kissing him. Any other guys interest in bi play feel the same about kissing other guys?

08-26-2008, 10:04 PM	#15 (permalink)
imi2me Registered User Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1 Location: San Diego Status: M. Male	Re: Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men? Well, the older I get the more sexually liberal I have become. I consider myself a real man, however, I do fantasize about a man, and have acted on those fantasies. Not ofter, and the circumstances had to be just right, an being a top or a bottom hasn't mattered. Bottom line is: If it feels good, why should you deny yourself, or your partner(s)? Does that make me gay? I think not. A sissy? I can probably kick your ass!

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