Bi-curious...Is this normal?

[Additude]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

No not at all, I have a bisexual wife and a girlfriend


And You ???

Good for you .....but ummm, why do you have a problem with me and apparently what I said, which BTW your offensive responce to me and of course my defensive responce back has diminished the content of this thread.

I thought what I had to say to be of use and hopefully could be of consideration by the OP.

I actually happen to know someone recently who also feels the way I suggested and I thought that knowledge may be of help. But apparently it did not by your standards.

Sorry my responce didn't fit your "outline", but if you didn't agree with my responce, then it would have been fine for you to just move on and let it go or private message me.

There was no need on your part to dissent publically and make it personal.

Who needs this kind of pissing contest?

Have your last word. I will not be following this thread any longer and I apologize to the OP for this off subject topic.

[robel12550]

Hi Heather,

Forgive me if this is repetitious, but let's face it, you're a woman. (Yes, this is the male member of the account writing. And now that the vast majority of females have pulled their nooses out, maybe I can explain.)

My wife is probably the most "moodiest" person I've run into. She's hot about something, then she's cold about it. And I'm not just talking "sex"! Almost everything is dependent upon the mood she's in at the time.

Hey, I'm the same way! There are times I really want to do a specific thing. And there are times when if you surrounded it with twenty extremely attractive, intelligent (I like them bright), naked women (OK, girls between 23 and 45 - LOL) I still wouldn't do it.

Point is, everyone will change, especially about something they are uncertain about, from time to time their interest in something. We can't always want to eat steak! (And part of the sexual interest changes might actually be related to hormones so make sure you stagger your considerations to offset the possibility that your "time of the month" might not be influencing your decisions.)

The aspect you mentioned though of not wanting Ms. Cougar #2 to be a "one night stand" is more revealing though. It seems what you're looking for, and what turns you on, is that if you enjoyed the experience, you'd want to keep going back to the trough. THIS you should investigate further with Ms. #2 so that you're both on the same page.

In any event, you shouldn't drop the idea at this point until you've actually experienced several bisexual sessions spaced out over time. You might enjoy the experience with Ms. #1, but even though physically turned on by Ms. #2, the actual event might not be enjoyable. Likewise in reverse. Also, an initial experience with one person might not be as good as a subsequent session with the same person. It's like live theater, no two performances are ever exactly alike. (Unless you're Milli Vanilli.)

By the way, an update from you would be interesting.

Enjoy!

[JustAskJulie]

Heather, how about an update? Did you end up going through with playing with the wife of couples #1 and if so, how did it go?

I totally understand your feelings about how the wife of couple #2 came off. I am totally bi but I still get kind wierded out when people come on too strong like that. It almost comes off as desperate.

[sexychoclit]

The first time I had sex with a female I totally freaked out. This girl was a lesbian and she was butch, so she was cute and if you saw her you really wouldn't know if she was a male or female. So she and I are hanging out at my house and the next think you know, she is leading me to my bedroom. We are kissing and making out and then she pulls out a condom and I am thinking "this is really a man". So I hopped up out of the bed and I asked her if she was a man. Of course she got offended. She walked outside and smoked a cigarette. I went outside and told her why I was nervous and she explained that she was going to put it on her finger. So that cleared the air and let me understand what was going on and I felt more comfortable. I must say that she was the best lay I ever had. We got together a few more times and we are still the best of friends.

It could be that you are afraid to take this big step. Don't do anything that you aren't comfortable with. However, if you are feeling frisky, it's better to be with someone who you are attracted to and you know that they feel the same way. Also, you could do it one time and find that it's not for you. Or, you could realize that you love it and want to keep doing it.

It might be single female thinking here, but I don't think that you should have to explain to your husband why you are not feeling it right now. Go with your gut.