have ? for bi-men and or cples with bi-men

[nicerrtxcple]

just a ? i am the husband and am wanted to know how you go about telling your wife that you want to have sex with another man? I have thought about it for yrs now.I love my wife and no that i am not gay but would like to play with other men sometimes.So how did you tell your wife that you are BI and like to play with me also?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by nicerrtxcple

...how you go about telling your wife that you want to have sex with another man?

I took a look at your Swing Lifestyle profile and you list yourself and your wife as bi-curious.

You also mention in the profile that you are both interested in trying "the bi side."

I'm confused, it would seem that your wife already knows.

LM

[Cpl2share]

If your wife is bi then it should not be an issue to her. Usually a person will understand another person having the same interests sexual or otherwise. Based on some of your other posts I would question if your wife knows that you are using this board, do you two actually swing or is this just a fantasy of yours. Not trying to flame you, but like I said from reading some of your other posts I question if she is truly involved in the "swinging" aspect of your life right now?

[ncmd_couple]

I had the same question that likeminds had. I had looked at your profile after a post of yours in the past, and it looks like you have added the bi-curious too it since then. I guess the question came to me is, is this something your looking at and you haven't really talked to your wife about it? Does your wife have access to your Swing Lifestyle profile?

[nicerrtxcple]

yeah i know what the profile says since i wrote it,she is curious and yes i added it to mine.and she asked me about it.but i just for some reason could not tell her yes.I just didn't know how,Yes she know about the boards i did not hide that from her.and we want to swing and have talked and been with 2 couples so far, so NO it's not just a fantasy of mine!! And YES SHE is truly involved in the "swinging" aspect of my life right now! You know if i was going to get flamed this bad for asking a question i wouldn't have.Sorry that i did

[WesternSwing]

nicerrtxcple, if your profile says you are bi-curious and your wife knows about the profile, than she knows your at least bi-curious. It would seem to me the thing to do is to just tell her "By the way, you know I really am bi-curious" and let the conversation go where it may.

[ncmd_couple]

Nicerrtxcpl,

I'm sorry that you thought I was flaming you, it wasn't intended to be. I was just trying to get the confusion cleared as to what the true situation is. As WS said, you need to sit down with your wife and tell her where your interests lie. As she already knows, it isn't like you have to go, "Hi honey, I'm curious about Bi sex with another guy. Good luck!

[JustAskJulie]

So what did you tell your wife when she asked about it? Did you lie and say that you clicked the box on accident? Or what?

I know you were hoping to get feedback from people who have gone through telling their wives about their interest (and hopefully you still will get those answers as I think it's a great question). Unfortunately, at this point those answers won't do you much good. I think that you really wanted to tell your wife and you are scared to do so and subconsciously you opted to tell her through your profile, now all you have to do is back that up verbally.

[hmr]

Always much easier to tell once you do it. The anticipation of a problem is worse than the problem itself. All mrs hmr said was ok.

[paradiseclubcpl]

I have a question that concerns Bi males. I run a couples only on premises lifestyle club. This weekend I was approached by one of the members of the club would had a problem with a Bi male. Lets call them couple A and couple B. Now the memberA and his wife got together with a coupleB to go into one of the rooms to play. They were in the throws of a happy foursome all was going fine. The wife of couple B was straddling husband A using her hand on him. Wife A was going down on husband B and husband B was sucking wife B's breasts. All of a sudden husband A felt a mouth on his cock. When he opened his eyes he saw wife A going down on husband B. While wife B was sitting up in a position that would make it impossible for her to be going down on him. He looked around her body and seen much to his horror husband B sucking his cock. Needless to say he pushed the guy off him and the moment was lost for the rest of the night. My question here is shouldn't a Bi male ask if it is ok with the other guy before approaching him in that manner? To the best of my and other males in this club there were no Bi males in the club. Does anyone think that full disclosure was called for in a situation like this.

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by paradiseclubcpl

Does anyone think that full disclosure was called for in a situation like this.

I do think that is a boundary that should have been discussed by both couples before Husband B helped himself to the sausage buffet. However, I also think that you have your head in the sand if you think no bi-males attend your club. A closeted bi-male is a bi-male nonetheless. /threadjack

[good times]

Wow, yes I think full disclosure would have been appropriate before they play since he intended to do what he did.

Frankly though, I am surprised this guy got away with it and still has his teeth. I am a pretty mild mannered guy, but if some guy latched onto me without asking, I suspect an ambulance would be needed. Don't get me wrong, I am not advocating violence, but that is something that would piss most straight guys I know off beyond self control.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here- While myself playing with a girl is often a matter of convention, I always ask if the other woman prefers to play straight. Now, this convention may be hypocritical in the Lifestyle in regards to bi-guys, well, the world is full of contradictions.

Bi-guy play should always be discussed beforehand. If only to ask,"We both play bi. Do you ?" Simply put, if some guy started going down on Ed, he wouldn't have to push him off, because I'd have booted the guy to the parking lot and passed the county line, first.

I also have seen the 'accidental' bi-guy play. It never was an accident. My opinion on this is pretty harsh because I am very against anyone being tricked into an unwanted sexual act.

[paradiseclubcpl]

I also have seen the 'accidental' bi-guy play. It never was an accident. My opinion on this is pretty harsh because I am very against anyone being tricked into an unwanted sexual act.[/quote]

I sorry but I gotta do this. Oops sorry my cock fell into your mouth. Oops wrong ass! LMAO

[SecretAsianMan]

(*laughing*) ... I was walking naked through the room, tripped, and my dick fell into your husband???

(*ROFL*)