have ? for bi-men and or cples with bi-men

[bicuriocpl]

Oops sorry wrong hole, mind if I play through?

[horneinmo]

Depends on how your wife would feel about something like that bro...

[aaaflirt]

Wow Talk about a thread poach.
Its a pretty important rule in most clubs and parties... ASK BEFOR YOU TOUCH
cos a punch in the face often offends (not to mention hurts)


Ok Back to the original post
Mate if your going to try bi then you need to tell your wife.
dont just spring it on her with just cum with some young guy and let her find out by seeing it for herself.
Honesty is the only policy and open comunication is a great way to have a happy continuing swinnging relationship.
there are of course a few of ways this could go... 1 is she doesnt like the idea and you have to decide how you are going to satisfy the situation
2 is she loves the idea and is in a great position to help you to satisfy the situation. (get her to ask the bloke if he minds you doing what ever you have decided is good for you ) 3 she may like the idea but dosent want to see it.


dont forget to aet some Boundaries and talk about how it went the next time you have an opertunity to talk.
Good luck and happy swinging

[ViSexual]

OK, back to the original question for a moment.

I was writing erotic stories and let 'my' characters reveal male/male activities during swinging encounters with two couples.

When my wife disclosed how 'hot' she thought it was it was easy for me to simply agree.

So, husbands, find really good stories or movies that might lead to the conversation.

Then simply admit that you thought it was sexy.

For one, if you and the bride haven't already seen it, is Break Back Mountain.

OK, and do discuss any activity with the other hubby in advance!!!!!

[realcplub2]

Ok.. not nice Secret... Besides it was better when Bruce Willis said it

After reading the collective posts and the lack of responce.. Hate to float an idea out there, but suppose she doesnt know, because he hasnt told her/shown her?

Bi the way, there are no accidental bi settings.. Fruedian slip perhaps.. but not an accidental setting

[SIR_DRAGONFIRE5]

I sure would think it's an issue to discuss before a situation like this occured.

[CABob]

Find the best time to tell her, and say it in a loving way that's open to a discussion.
Good Luck!

[steversk]

As part of a couple that have only discussed swinging and not taken the plunge yet, I have spent time on tihs board and one thing I have learned is that one of the most important things is honest and open discussion with your partner. Even though we have only talked about swinging it has led to discussions about fantasies, and I told her I thought it would be fun to suck a cock. Also one of my fantasies (since I enjoy anal play) is to be fucked in the ass by the guy (or woman with a strapon) while someone sucks me off. If your are already involved int the lifestyle I would think it shouldn't be a problem to have this discussion with your wife. Bring it up first as a fantasy, see how she reacts, and then go from there.

[jamen]

I am a bit Bi curious.What I have done in the last few months is get some dvd's Sexual variations is a good one.I also suck on her vibrator while we are getting it on.I asked her if it turnes her on and she said ya.I would go easy,Open communication and trust is key.As per my earlier post we are contemplating a MMF encounter.

[IvoryTowers]

While I agree that people should be upfront and honest about what they want to do and what their boundaries are, I just don't get the panic this incident provoked. Before he realized what gender was sucking his cock, the guy was happy--why should the fact that it was a male mouth rather than a female change anything?

I can understand being turned off if someone asks you to actively do something that you don't want to do (asking a straight man to go down on another guy). But threatening to punch a guy's teeth in or put him in an ambulance, or even losing the moment "for the rest of the night" seems an extreme and unwarranted reaction to someone's attempt to pleasure you.

Maybe if the men were more relaxed about "incidental" bi contact, there would be less "accidental" bi contact.

[biplayfulcouple]

Originally Posted by paradiseclubcpl

I have a question that concerns Bi males. I run a couples only on premises lifestyle club. This weekend I was approached by one of the members of the club would had a problem with a Bi male. Lets call them couple A and couple B. Now the memberA and his wife got together with a coupleB to go into one of the rooms to play. They were in the throws of a happy foursome all was going fine. The wife of couple B was straddling husband A using her hand on him. Wife A was going down on husband B and husband B was sucking wife B's breasts. All of a sudden husband A felt a mouth on his cock. When he opened his eyes he saw wife A going down on husband B. While wife B was sitting up in a position that would make it impossible for her to be going down on him. He looked around her body and seen much to his horror husband B sucking his cock. Needless to say he pushed the guy off him and the moment was lost for the rest of the night. My question here is shouldn't a Bi male ask if it is ok with the other guy before approaching him in that manner? To the best of my and other males in this club there were no Bi males in the club. Does anyone think that full disclosure was called for in a situation like this.

everyone is supposed to ask, before they touch, or reach out. many times we do not do full disclosure with another couple...........it could be on the dancefloor or something spontaneous. we are much more spontaneous, in our activities, than planned. but we do always ask. all the same, the offending guy should have asked the husb or the wife, before he made contact. unless he violated the "no means no" code, then im not sure why the "offended couple" ran to management, with a complaint. the complaint initially needs to be lodged with the offender, then if no apology or satistaction is received, you move it up the chain of command.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

While I agree that people should be upfront and honest about what they want to do and what their boundaries are, I just don't get the panic this incident provoked. Before he realized what gender was sucking his cock, the guy was happy--why should the fact that it was a male mouth rather than a female change anything?

Because it wasn't wanted and goes against the sexual/chemical/genetic nature of the guy in question. I would not be happy if that happened to me. I would be angry because in my world a guy should ask if its ok to give you a BJ.

I can understand being turned off if someone asks you to actively do something that you don't want to do (asking a straight man to go down on another guy). But threatening to punch a guy's teeth in or put him in an ambulance, or even losing the moment "for the rest of the night" seems an extreme and unwarranted reaction to someone's attempt to pleasure you.

While I wouldn't be violent, it would end play with that couple.

Maybe if the men were more relaxed about "incidental" bi contact, there would be less "accidental" bi contact.

This I can't follow. The situation presented was not "incidental" or "accidental", but "deliberate".