FF play, what to do?

[sweet_tna]

Okay, so I had my first (notable) ff experience over the weekend. It was in a group setting, which I think made things easier on me. I didn't feel under pressure to be "good" at it, 'cause I had NO idea what I was doing. I did enjoy it, though.

I should probably mention that I only recently changed my profile from straight to bi-curious. And I AM curious, but I feel almost silly. I have the same basic equipment as every other woman, so you'd think it would seem like a no-brainer. My instinct tells me to just do to her what would feel good to me, but I think women are a bit pickier about what they like than men are.

**Please forgive the gross generalization here, guys. This is based on my (albeit limited) experience and from what's been posted here.**

So what's a gal to do? Have any of ya'll ever felt this way? Am I totally overthinking this?

[ShellyM]

Go ON girl! No, all normal. The first time I did oral on a lady was at a club in San Antonio. And I felt the same way as you did, I kept wondering if what I was doing was right. I think that since we "own" the equipment we are naturally just more talented. Exactly like you I simply do it like I like to have it done and pay attention to her body language. I tell them in a seductive way "tell me how you like it" and she will. Just relax, you'll do fantastic!

[sweet_tna]

I haven't attempted giving oral yet. I figure I need to work my way up (or down, as the case may be) to that. Thanks for the vote of confidence, though!

=)

[havefuninsun]

I've had a few experiences, and always feel the same way. We played with our unicorn this weekend, and had a wonderful time. Our bodies are different; I get a lot of pleasure from clit stimulation, whereas she's more of a g-spot girl. And I certainly haven't mastered how to pleasure that well in that regard. Mr. Fun is a good teacher, though, and I'm having a ball (no pun intended) learning!

[The Fuse]

Yes, it's amazing how awkward I have felt trying to give pleasure to another woman, even when I am so attracted to her and feel very relaxed and accepted and wanted by her. For me, it has just taken some time. I think I am getting better at it the more I relax and just let the feelings overtake me; then I just do what comes naturally, more naturally, if that makes any sense. The women I've been with have been very bisexual and very easy to please, so that made it easier on me.

I would say, just go slowly, try different things and see what gets a good reaction. Different body parts, different firmness, different tempo... don't hurry anything. Have fun, and let us know how it goes!

[MRnMSbhaven]

Ok, don't laugh.
I know what I like and so does Mr B (he does a fine job). So, before I even attempted bi play...

I asked Mr B to show me how he did it! Even though I had a general idea... I wanted details. It's not like I could really practice on myself or anything! I'm just not that darn flexible!

Ms B

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by MRnMSbhaven

Ok, don't laugh.
I know what I like and so does Mr B (he does a fine job). So, before I even attempted bi play...

I asked Mr B to show me how he did it! Even though I had a general idea... I wanted details. It's not like I could really practice on myself or anything! I'm just not that darn flexible!

Ms B

Not laughing, thats how I learned to give blow jobs LOL! I sat down with Jay and said "listen. I don't have a dick (obviously since I have a vagina lol), so I truly don't know what feels good and what doesn't. I only have his body language to go by. I'm going to give you a blow job and I want you to tell me how to do it....what feels good, how fast, how slow, etc. etc.
Now of course as every woman is different so is every man and so are likes. But it really gave me a good base on what feels good. I seriously think that if men were to do this with women alot more would be better at it than they are...in fairness how can they really know what feels good when they don't have a vagina?

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

So what's a gal to do? Have any of ya'll ever felt this way?

Yes, I have felt that way, and usually still do! It's soooo different from making love with a man.

Since the first time, I just did what you said...knowing what kind of touch I like and how I like things, I start there and watch for body language/signals/cues to adjust from there. Even when I felt absolutely **clueless** as to how I was doing, they always seemed to really enjoy it, so I guess this is the best approach...just doing what we know we like.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by MRnMSbhaven

Ok, don't laugh.
I know what I like and so does Mr B (he does a fine job). So, before I even attempted bi play...

I asked Mr B to show me how he did it! Even though I had a general idea... I wanted details. It's not like I could really practice on myself or anything! I'm just not that darn flexible!

Ms B

My honey has tried to give me tips, but to be honest I think I learn best by DOING . . .

So I guess I'll just have to find a really patient bi gal who's willing to show me the ropes.

And thanks to all of ya'll for the support. It's wonderful to have someone I can go to with these pesky questions!

[redgirlwithfrec]

You can test your skills out at our place any time.

[Miss Sunshine]

Well, if it was Shelley I would ask her to slow dance with me, I would then slowly kiss her neck and caress her hair, I would then kiss her softly working up to a long fench kiss, I would slowly take off each piece of clothing. Then I would lay her down and begin at her feet and slowly work my way up to her ears kissing and licking as I go. As I lat next to her I would begin to slowly rub her nipples until they were hard and kiss and suck on them softly, I would slowly ease my hand down her tummy to her pussy and rub around the outside for a little until I made my way between her lips and found her hard clit, in the meantime we are kissing deeply, as I make slow soft circles around her clit and can feel her build up I wil slide my fingers slowly into her pussy and slide them in and out feeling for her rough gspot. I will continue my lustful kissing but then work my way down to her very wet pussy , I would spread her lip and dive for her clit which I will begin to suck and lick, I am now flicking my tongue lightly on her clit and have one finger inside her pussy playing with that wonderful gspot, she begins to cum as I now beging to lick harder and faster, I can feel the warm liquid on my finger and taste her , mmmmmm, once she squeezes ny head with her thighs I make may way to her face, I offer my shvaed pussy to her, in hopes of her accepting and working magic on my clit, oooooooooo

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Miss Sunshine

Well, if it was Shelley I would ask her to slow dance with me, I would then slowly kiss her neck and caress her hair, I would then kiss her softly working up to a long fench kiss, I would slowly take off each piece of clothing. Then I would lay her down and begin at her feet and slowly work my way up to her ears kissing and licking as I go. As I lat next to her I would begin to slowly rub her nipples until they were hard and kiss and suck on them softly, I would slowly ease my hand down her tummy to her pussy and rub around the outside for a little until I made my way between her lips and found her hard clit, in the meantime we are kissing deeply, as I make slow soft circles around her clit and can feel her build up I wil slide my fingers slowly into her pussy and slide them in and out feeling for her rough gspot. I will continue my lustful kissing but then work my way down to her very wet pussy , I would spread her lip and dive for her clit which I will begin to suck and lick, I am now flicking my tongue lightly on her clit and have one finger inside her pussy playing with that wonderful gspot, she begins to cum as I now beging to lick harder and faster, I can feel the warm liquid on my finger and taste her , mmmmmm, once she squeezes ny head with her thighs I make may way to her face, I offer my shvaed pussy to her, in hopes of her accepting and working magic on my clit, oooooooooo

OMG!! SNAP, CRACKLE AND POP!
I'm sitting here watching Eddie Murphy Raw and read this. OMG SNAP.
Thats all I can say. SNAP.

[lost_j1]

Damn,

Well, if I am not invited I want some details when your done babe...

[sweet_tna]

Well, Miss Sunshine, I'll definitely keep those tips in mind for when she moves to A-town!

=)

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by redgirlwithfrec

You can test your skills out at our place any time.