Sexuality Preferences and Swinging

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by BettyAnnMBSC

And, (a peave of mine) -- just because someone is bi (male or female) doesn't automatically mean that they want to have sex with "you" (male or female).

Oh I totally agree.

I hope my post above didn't sound like I walk up to couples and say, "Sorry if your wife's hot for me ... it's not gonna happen."

But ... when a couple sends a note to your online ad expressing interest, I think it's fair to assume that they are interested in having sex with someone.

And if their ad says one or both of them is bi, and one or both of you is not ... I don't think it's a bad thing to ask, "So what are you looking for out of the experience?" and then clarifying what you are looking for. We ask that general question of all couples for a variety of reasons, as one gauge of compatibilty.

[BradAndJanet]

Well said BettyAnn! We do not list me as bi or bi-curious because of the reasons you cite, and I certainly wouldn't proposition someone whom I did not know was interested in male-male playing. They'd never know the difference, because if I did 'check them out', I'd do it descreetly. As you say, being bi does not make me a slut for every guy I meet.

To answer the original question, no, we don't automatically rule out couples with bi-females, but we would make sure they knew J's interest doesn't lie in that area.

-B