Do women share a fantasy of seeing their man have sex with another man?

[Merric]

From Netscape love:

Wife Does Others
My wife goes dancing on the weekend at one of our local clubs. She picks guys up on the dance floor. Before the night ends, she will give them oral sex before coming home. At first, I didn’t like it, but it’s grown on me. Last weekend, she brought a guy home and wanted me to watch. Before he was done, she called me over and told me to do it with her. She then told me to do it while she watched, and I did. On Monday night, she told me that it really turned her on and she wants to watch me do it more. She said her fantasy is to have sex while watching me have oral sex with a guy. -Mel, 30

I’ve found many other similar letters on Netscape love concerning women wanting to see their man have sex of some kind with another man. Now that men in the Vanilla and Swinger world for the most part share the fantasy/reality of actively participating in or seeing their women or any woman/women having sex with other woman/women is a fact pretty much goes without saying. So my question is do women here on swingers board share this fantasy of seeing their men have sex with other men? Seems likely this question has been broached here but I’ve not been able to find it.

[havefuninsun]

I think it would be a fantasy of mine if Mr. Fun were into that. He isn't, however. He isn't homophobic, he has no problem being naked and hard as a brick in front of another man ... hell, if four bodies are on one bed, things might get touched. But he has no desire to be with another man sexually, so the fantasy doesn't play in my head.

I love him being turned on ... so I could see me thinking it would be great fun for him if that is something he wanted.

[lovefest04]

My wife gives this fantasy a big thumbs up.

She get's very turned on by the idea of watching two men get it on, especially kissing and oral, but has mentioned anal sex as well.

Something about men being gentle and caring to each other.

[sigh35]

I think I would enjoy brief touching, as long as they got back to me...why waste their loads on another dude?

[joaninla]

I'd love to watch my hubby and another guy

[bethncole]

You know, I hear this more and more in the last couple of years. My wife does have that weird fantasy but doesn't push it becuase she knows it won't happen. However, I hear more and more from women how they'd love to see their boyfriends or husbands do that. Interesting how the tables are turning.

[Tybee Swing]

I've had the fantasy, but just like havefuninsun, my husband has no interest in that. I'd never ask for something he didn't totally want, and it's no big deal to me.

I don't think it's a "weird" fantasy though, any more than it's weird for a man to have the fantasy of his wife with another woman. It's exactly the same, I think.

[blondie77]

This is a huge fantasy for me, but it'll have to stay a fantasy. My hubby will never have any kind of sex with another man, and I'd never push the issue because it's not something he's comfortable with. He knows it's something I would love to see, so perhaps someday it'll happen, but it has to happen because HE wants it to happen. Still, the fantasy that plays in my head is REALLY HOT!

[WesternSwing]

Mrs. WS has said in the past that it isn't a fantasy in the way that she'd masturbate to it, or she fantasizes about it while we're having sex, but if that is what I wanted she would not be opposed to it. Her thinking is it's not so much being bisexual as simply being sexual. She sees FF as that way too.

Mr. WS

[Merric]

Originally Posted by blondie77

This is a huge fantasy for me, but it'll have to stay a fantasy. My hubby will never have any kind of sex with another man, and I'd never push the issue because it's not something he's comfortable with. He knows it's something I would love to see, so perhaps someday it'll happen, but it has to happen because HE wants it to happen. Still, the fantasy that plays in my head is REALLY HOT!

blondie77
Me being a sexually straight male to say the least since starting this thread I've been startled at these responses. None of my past or current girlfriends ever expressed the desire to see men in any way shape or form engaged in sex with other men. Maybe just because the notion never came up, so until now I'd no idea women had interest in seeing men with other men. And now that I've been enlightened with your statement you've certainly snagged my interest. So because of it I'm wondering if you'd care to share your really hot fantasy with us here on the swingers board? I for one would like to see what it is about man on man sex that would turn a woman on so much.
Anyway thanks whether you do or don’t

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

Mrs. WS has said in the past that it isn't a fantasy in the way that she'd masturbate to it, or she fantasizes about it while we're having sex, but if that is what I wanted she would not be opposed to it. Her thinking is it's not so much being bisexual as simply being sexual. She sees FF as that way too.

Mr. WS

Dito

[des1re06]

Absolutely not! Sorry, but it's just not anything I'd ever want to see.

We go to gay clubs and see men together all the time, but I just don't want to see hubby with another man.

Mrs. D

[blondie77]

Merric,

Watching my husband with another man is a fantasy of mine for many reasons, and I guess the top reason is I've never seen it before. Not with my husband nor any other man. It's the unknown I guess. It's something that's a little "naughty" maybe, or perhaps it's just because I know he'll never do it, so there's that little part in the back of my mind that thinks "but wait! That would be awsome!" A fantasy is something that's safe, it doesn't do anyone any harm and it gives me a little thrill. I've noticed that the idea of two women being together is considered alright, even sexy, but whenever anyone mentions two men, it's almost taboo. I would like to see my husband with another man probably for the same reason my husband (or most men) would like to see two women: it's different, it's not something you see everyday, and it's a little "forbidden" which makes it all the more enticing. Knowing it will never happen doesn't really make the fantasy any less exciting...perhaps it even makes it more exciting because my brain can come up with things that are WAY hotter than anything that's apt to happen to me in real life..haha.

Anyways...thanks for being interested in my response. I hope I was able to "enlighten" you a little more. Blondie

[Merric]

Just a note. I did happen on two like threads here as this since posting it.
they are:

Men swingers and bisexuality
Men swingers and bisexuality

My fantasy - watch husband with another male
Men swingers and bisexuality
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[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Merric

blondie77
Me being a sexually straight male to say the least since starting this thread I've been startled at these responses. None of my past or current girlfriends ever expressed the desire to see men in any way shape or form engaged in sex with other men. Maybe just because the notion never came up, so until now I'd no idea women had interest in seeing men with other men. And now that I've been enlightened with your statement you've certainly snagged my interest. So because of it I'm wondering if you'd care to share your really hot fantasy with us here on the swingers board? I for one would like to see what it is about man on man sex that would turn a woman on so much.
Anyway thanks whether you do or don’t

Forum posts are self selected. No one posts unless they have a reason too.

As a example of how this type of selection can cause bias, when I was in college they passed out a sexual abuse survey to every woman on campus in the campus mail. I remember the day cause there were 100's of these on the mail room floor in my dorm alone. So some 20,000 women got this survey. From what I gather they had 2% response rate. Based on these surveys the schools incompetent newspaper ran a story saying 1/4 women on campus had been raped.

Now ask yourself, if you were a female, raped and had this survey would you send it in? They are suppose to test for this kind of bias but rarely does that kind of test make the news media interpretation.

So a question like this will get people who are interested to respond far more than those who are not.

So while the women I know in swinging are repulsed by MM contact, and as far as I can tell genuine about this feeling (to the point they once turned off a HBO show featuring some MM contact because it was a turn off) you won't here too many of them say 'hey no thanks'.