Boyfriend is BI?

[badboyooplik]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

I have never met a woman that thought two guys messing around was hot......

No, you have, but they just won't admit it. I've met many, many women who think two guys together is "hot"....... Beside what does that have to do with this thread? We're already discussing this ad nauseum in another thread.

[Cerberus]

good to know I must press some of our unicorns for more info

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

I have never met a woman that thought two guys messing around was hot......

Actually, we have met a few women who think the idea is erotic. Once actually watches gay male porn.
Shelly

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by blondie77

There are so many red flags here that it worries me. The one thing that keeps popping up in my head is.....is there a possibility that he's gay? I don't mean to say that he is....but why hide it if you say you would love the opportunity to share this with him? I could be WAY off course here, but obviously somethings going on that's deeper than just him thinking he'll scare off potential couples. And I agree....I think the more important issue is his cheating.

I don't agree that he is homosexual. If he loves his girlfriend and enjoys sex with a woman he is bi-sexual. A woman who likes to lick kitty and is married to a man she loves isn't called gay. I agree, if he is cheating that is just NOT okay. But because he enjoys sex with men sometimes along with women that does not make him a homosexual. Men can be bi-sexual just like most swinging women are.
Shelly

[lovefest04]

"Cerberus I have never met a woman that thought two guys messing around was hot......"

That proves you've never met my wife or at least discussed this subject with her. It makes her crazy facelick


To the poster,

He's bi, not gay and he needs to know that you are REALLY ok with his behavior before he will modify his. Let's face it female Bisexual behavior is far more accepted in the lifestyle.

In reality, he is outside of the norm and from many of the posts I've read here, has a right to be secretive about his desires, rather that open himself up to the possible ridicule.

Your original post didn't convince me you are ok with it. Possibly just because of the way you phrased you post. So, make sure your ok with it and then make sure you can communicate that to him, then see how he reacts.

Best of luck and here's wishing you both a long and sex filled life.

S

[2chase3]

Ok.... are you truly ok with it? I mean you say it would turn you on, but your opening line was "i have a problem." and the ender is how do i get hum to confess?

Men read beteen the lines sweetheart. Possibly reassure him you love him for who he is. And if it isnt a problem for you, I am sure in time he will share his desires with you.

[Beardedknight]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

I have never met a woman that thought two guys messing around was hot......

I guess I have been fortunate, with the fact that my current wife and my second wife both get VERY turned on when watching me with another guy.

In fact my current wife usually has an orgasm just from watching me with another guy, without even touching herself!

Unfortunately it hasn't happend in awhile since we haven't been able to find any Bi-Couples where we are not living. Or at least any that want to hook up, a lot of talkers but no action.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by Cerberus

I have never met a woman that thought two guys messing around was hot......

I guess you have to ask that question in a direct way to find the woman that thinks it is hot. You may already actually know her.

[FlaPlaya561]

I have been Bi since 98 and have encountered SO MANY men cheating on thier wives or b/f's with other men. I wont have sex with another man if he is hiding it from his lover.

FORGETABOUTIT!

You should confront him and if he tells you ...FINE...Thats up to you what you do next.
My Ex lover LOVED watching me with another man and i do it often with my Lifestyle freinds

[safireblues]

I think guy on guy action is the hottest thing, but if he's putting you at risk with anal sex with other men, you need to find out RIGHT NOW.

[Perseus]

I have to say, in the last 3 to 4 years, the attitude about bimen on the board has changed a lot. I remember before there were ton of people that were like "No way!" I have seen other changes in the world too.. It used to be that tgirls didn't p[lay with each other either and now that is all they are looking for... I guess, as Mr. Dillon said, "The times they are changing..."

[OnHArry]

Originally Posted by smc0516

okay I have a problem.. I think my boyfriend is Bi-sexual... actually I know he is but he hasnt told me yet... I have proof, but I cant show him. I have hinted to him many ways that if he is Im okay with it.. I have even told him that it would be such a turn on to see him with another man... but still he hasnt confessed... the worst part is I think he is hooking up with men behind my back, which means he's cheating. I think he is afraid to tell me because we are swingers and he might be afraid that couples would be turned off to us if they knew he liked men too. We have been dating for over a year, so why is he holding back part of himself. Can anyone help shed some light on how to get him to confess???
thanks

I am guessing here, but I would be willing to venture that the reason you know he is Bi is that you may have seen an E mail or viewed a site or chat room he did not close.

Assuming that; It is quite possible he has never actually done anything other than cyber sex. There are a lot of married guys, singles to I suspect, who talk about their fantasies on line, it is a great outlet, but would never actually meet a guy for sex.

I also suspect the reason you don't want to be totally open about knowing is you don't want him to think you are eavesdropping on his private chats. Remember it might just be a fantasy he is entertaining.

In any event I think the best answer came from Beardedknight, and you should talk to him if you saw it accidentally say so, if he is only indulging in a fantasy he will doubtless feel very uncomfortable discussing it.

Bottom line, talk and stop hinting, be honest, be open but tell him all you know and what you suspect, sitting on it won't solve anything, and as others mentioned communication is so important.

[LOOKIN4FUN9773]

Communictation and trust is the most important thing in a healthy relationship (more so in a swing relationship ).If you can not talk to your partner and trust them you are headed for problems.

The issue that we see is the most important here is trust issue.That needs to be addressed first,the bi or gay issue is mute.If is going outside of your relationship and its not in your swing agreement that its cheating!If it is something you have discused before and agree its ok than its not cheating.Once you have worked out the cheating issue than you can address the bi/gay thing.

Good luck!

[easyguy]

I was reading these posts with great personal interest.
Ladies, this is one of America's BIG secrets. No one wants to talk about how pervasive it is and we prefer to ignore it as much as possible. If any of you knew what I know, you'd be concerned. We got a taste of it a while with the Larry Craig bust and the McGreevy scandal, and I wonder how many of your husbands wiped a bead of sweat off their brow thinking, "There but for the grace of God......"
Larry says he's not gay, and I agree with him. Gay is a socio-political construct. To them, gays are sissy single men who throw dinner parties. However, just because one isn't 'gay' does not mean one isn't a cocksucker, or that one doesn't throw one's legs up in the air begging to be fucked, while wearing your bustier.
Ladies, men who crave cock learn at an early age to sweep it under the carpet as much as possible. Some hold off for years or decades. Many (like myself) craft an entirely new persona to throw throw others, often including themselves, off the scent, but eventually, A HARD COCK WILL ALWAYS BE SATISFIED. It's nothing personal. Look at what so many important, successful men have risked and lost for it.

Often, there are no signs. His need and outlets for cock are so carefully compartmentalized, that they may be quite divorced from all other aspects of his life.
Not MY husband. He HATES queers. Number one red flag. Almost a sure bet that he thinks about homosexuality way too much. Protesting too much is what nine year olds usually do, but it's amazing how effective it has been in this case.
Not MY husband. He's a good Christian. Number two red flag. See above.
Not MY husband. He's all man. Nothing feminine about him. Number three red flag. Some guys just try too hard.
Spends more time at the gym than his physique would indicate?
Occasionally has quarter sized brass tokens in his pockets or car, but no evidence of a passion for video games?
Crusty spots on his boxers? Most faithful married men's penises do not drip residual semen while away from home.
Invests in hard disc cleaning equipment? Cleans cache and cookies nightly?
Internet related, obviously discreet credit card charges?
Seems to need to visit the mens' room more frequently when out (such as at the mall) than at home?

If one or more appy to you, that mouth kissing you may have recently had a cock in it. His strongest tool????? Your denial. If it were me, I's get a keystroke counter installed, or hire a PI. No woman deserves to be married to a cocksucker -without her consent that is.

[SFl_Bi_Couple]

Well, my wife is married to a cocksucker and loves it..LOL We are both bi, although its been easier to find a bi-guy than a single bi-lady. She is very turned on watching me with another guy and usually lays back with her toys and plays and watches. She does want her share of cock though...LOL
Our thoughts are as long as everyone is OK with it...who cares.
Almost all of our swinging has been MMF 3somes and it seems to work for us.