How do you describe yourself?

[JustAskJulie]

The topic Funny I don't FEEL Bisexual got me thinking about how people describe themselves. Let's not use labels here like bisexual or straight... let's just be honest.

Here's mine:

I prefer males in general, however I often find myself attracted to females and enjoy occasionally having sex with females. I love to give oral sex to women, I love the softness of them. I don't think I could ever fall in love with a woman and in general I prefer sex with males over sex with females when given the choice.

[OhioCouple]

I do enjoy both sexes equally when it comes to both friendship and sex providing that there is a mutual attraction. There is a difference though in what each have to offer so it is hard to compare the two.

Like Julie, I do enjoy the softness of a woman and giving and receiving oral sex, but for me it does not equal the animalistic physical attraction that I have for men. I don't have that same sort of attraction towards women.

If I had to make a choice one way or the other, I would choose a man without batting an eyelash. (Well maybe batting them just a tad... )

Lori

[p_cnaz]

I also prefer men and there has only been a few times that I felt an attraction for another woman that I was comfortable about being with. In those few times I enjoyed it very much, but for the most part I don't even think about being with a woman. If I had to choose it would definately be men!!!

Patricia

[bimrdcpl]

The hubby and I are both Bi. We both had experiences before each other and they were not the greatest but they were experiences. Now we have had them together and we enjoy them very much. We look for another couple that is bi because we would like to have everyone comfortable with each other touching when it comes down to all being on the same bed. There doesnt have to be contact between the same sexes but its comforting to know if it happens no one will freak out.

Now I love the feel of another woman also, yes they are very soft and very passionate. But I still love the feel of a man. And would choose him over another woman. Men feel strong and hard and thats what I really like. As for hubby he isnt "attracted" to other men unless he knows that they are bi and then it takes him a while to find it. (if that makes sense) But he also loves the touch of a woman. And would pick her over another man anyday.

So I guess for us being Bi is we are open to feeling good and being open with ourselves not limiting the pleasure we know that can be had while being in the lifestyle.

[BradAndJanet]

I like women. How they look, how they talk, how they smell and taste, how they feel. All five senses worth. I like how they think too, and most of my friends are and have been women. But...I have curiosity about what it would be like to play with another man. I can't imagine myself seeking out a man for a one-on-one encounter, but in the context of a foursome or a MMF threesome, I could see myself giving and getting pleasure from another guy.

I don't know what all that means; I'm still trying to figure it out. I'm not terribly attracted to men in general and most of the time I don't relate to them. But, life is for learning and exploring and swinging seems to offer the possibility for me to do that in a way I'm comfortable with.

Label me if you must, I don't care. But I think labels are for food and fashion. Human behavior is far too complicated for us to be shoved into a set of boxes.

-B

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by BradAndJanet

I don't know what all that means; I'm still trying to figure it out.

I personally don't think it has to "mean" anything other than you are sexual. You are right labels are for food and fashion they have no place in sexuality other than the ones of Male or Female and even then that is subjective.

Lori

[C@YWMI]

Brad thanks for standing up, I'm with you and agree with most of your feelings. I don't think it can or should be classified a Bi- sexual. I would have to think it is normal in this hedonistic life style and that is if it feels good and you do something that might be out of the realm of what most people consider normal. You shouldn't have a label stuck on you. Just my .02 worth

[sexypairca]

I describe myself as straight when asked. We list ourselves as an openminded couple, but straight. I have been involved in same sex activities(not one on one) but do not actively seek them. I have met some very sensual women, but I do not feel the same attraction that I do with a man.

I believe that if all parties involved are for it, who cares what you call it .

Annette

[Happy2Bmarried]

Hubby has zero desire to touch another man or have one touch him. And that is perfectly fine with me. I also have no desire to touch or be touched by another woman. I have had two FF encounters and I really didn't enjoy them. Both were a result of "I wonder" conversations, alcohol & a hot tub. I'm glad that they happened. But I definitely found out what's for me and what's not. If hubby wanted to see me kiss another woman's breasts or her kiss mine, I would. But that's about as far as I would go. I have no desire to see him touch or have another man touch him.

[MagicEnigma]

I'd have to go with Bisexual. Since coming out as such, I've not dated more than a couple of guys, and outside of swinging, I've not had sex with them. Flip side to that is I've only dated or been with women outside of parties or meeting couples. It just seems to work out the best for me this way. The hard part is trying to find another woman that is open to my being a swinger. I think it'd be easier to find a guy. But not looking for a signifigant other helps make that easier.

[rammur]

Well let's start with the easy one. Hubby is str8, no thoughts the other way!!
Me on the other hand is a little more difficult. I am a florist, I became very open sexually after a new ladie came to work with me. She has been out in the world a little more than me. She helped me to open up and do things for my hubby that just blew his mind. The we started this swing thing. I have had some mild bi- oportunities, hubby was htere coaxing me on, he is waiting as long as he can watch!!
I am very attracted to the gal I work with, she knows we swing, we have talked openly about it. I think she would play with me, just not so sure if my hubby was there. I will respect our rules and not go it alone, he is game to setting up a camera and watching from another room, rather exciting to think about, but I would have to tell my friend!!
So I guess I prefer a man, but curious I am!!! and waiting!!

[Handyman69]

Well, my husband is straight, with no couriosity to be any other way. When we first started swinging, I wasn't really interest in a another woman...until we met this one couple. She just allowed things to happen and I totally enjoyed the whole thing...giving and receiving. Surprised myself and my husband, but do prefer men over woman. Enjoy the softness and feel of a womam but love the animal instinct of a man.

Got to say though....really have enjoyed getting into and learning about this lifestyle.

Rhonda

[vorphlak]

men-i like (i will go down on a nice man)no buttstuff but cuddles and kisses are welcome and i would reciprocate well;women-i adore i will go down insert myself rub feet, back, annoint with oils and bathe...if a man hit my brainstem
i would be willing to do all the same MASS respect lovemaking but no guy ever made me that googoo...except one but he is in zurich now. i thought bi was only if i did buttstuff which is the only thing i aint diggin'.
on girls too...poop smells bad.()()