Men...would you...

[good times]

openmindedcpl, you seem to make the assumption that if the people here do not embrace the scenario that you posed in your original post that it somehow means that we are not open minded, in my opinion, this is an assumption that is totally incorrect.

In your follow up post the scenario you presented is a totally different one as all parties involved were consenting, unlike your original post in which their is no prior consent by the guy getting the dick stuck in his mouth. Therefore, it is no surprise to me that the reaction to your original scenario turned out as it did.

In my original reply I said that this was unlikely to ever happen to me and left it at that. From that, and others responses you assume we are narrow minded, yet I doubt if judged by comparing this group to the population at large that anyone could consider those that responded to your post even slightly narrow minded.

The reasons that I said that this was unlikely to ever happen to me starts at the very beginning. Your scenario starts on a nude beach, I am not a nudist nor does nudity by itself turn me on. I am not narrow minded about it though, if it blows your dress up or gets you excited, I have no problem with that. Then in the scenario you wanted me to consider, my wife would be on that nude beach making out with another woman, and while again we aren't narrow minded about that as far as accepting people who are into that, my wife is not bisexual so that wouldn't happen either. Then you want me to imagine myself taking a walk while my wife is going at it with this girl she isn't into on a nude beach that we wouldn't walk across the street to get to and I have to say, like the others, I would never leave my wife in such a situation even if we did somehow defy all of our preferences and find ourselves in that situation. Next I am supposed to imagine myself sitting in a secluded spot stroking my happy stick in front of another guy, sorry, again this is something that wouldn't happen because I am not an exhibitionist and can't even imagine spanking my monkey in front of anyone unless I was getting it ready for some pussy. I am then to imagine that the guy jumps up and is waving his tallywhacker in my face, and am further expected in this scenario to now ask him, "whats up" or some such question. In actuality, I would be up and running by then, but if the guy did by some coincidence catch me off guard, and actually get his wiener past my lips, he would find that when seeking pleasure in the future he would have a difficult time explaining the scars on his willy from having to have it surgically reattached, and it would be much more difficult finding a place to live after being prosecuted and registered as a sex offender.

So, I assure you that up until the time that your scenario became a sexual assault I am totally open minded to people engaging in those types of activities if that is what turns them on. That I am not interested in personally participating in these activities does not mean that I am less open minded to them than someone who is, it just means that I know what I like and what I don't like as personal preferences. In other words, those things just don't turn me on.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by sereneiders

...It could be the begining of a bi erotic/porn story of the sort you'd fine un many, many websites but here. BTW, this is the first post from the OP, so it's very likely he doesn't know what swinging is about, nor how "artificial" the whole set up is:

openmindedcpl ~

I think sereneiders statement above sums it up well. You are receiving replies from people who are well-read on swinging and many also who are very experienced swingers. Because of this, you may not yet be able to appreciate where everyone is speaking from: experience.

I think you're at your starting point guided by misdirected belief (possibly due to porn films, stories, or what not) that swingers do about anything fantasized without giving prior thought of conscequence, which is not true in most cases.

We're trying to help you see how swingers really think things through. We ARE living out many of our fantasies, and those we don't live out are probably ones we know wouldn't be practical or as exciting as the "dreams" we have about them.

I think you felt like writing about your fantasies which were stimulated by your real sexual experience. You can now choose to learn about what swinging really requires to be sensible (and yes, there are lots of us sensible folks swinging) or you can forgo the education and instead wait and see what comes along next...on a beach, or wherever you find it.

You might consider polishing up your story (told in your second post) and contributing it somewhere on the net, since you enjoy writing about sexual adventures.

LM

[spectraschain]

For all the bullshit this thread has created, one can't help to notice the gains "let it continue" is making....

it's very likely he doesn't know what swinging is about, nor how "artificial" the whole set up is:

It would appear "he" is not the only one...

[Cpl2share]

The big difference bewteen the original post and the second accusatory story of what actually happened is the violation factor. Neither of us find M/M sex arousing. This does not make us close minded, but does mean that we know what is appealing to us. I would not be as angry, but I would still feel violated if a woman walked up to me and stuck a tit in my mouth without first receiving some indication that I was receptive to such a thing. Likewise, Mrs. Cpl would be greatly offended and probably bite any mans tackle off if he just jammed it into her mouth or anywhere else without permission. That does not make her a lesbian does it? (and if so, thank the lord she is a bisexual one)

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by sereneiders

You didn't even care to add the option "none of the above", which is the logical option to choose for the swingers. Also, I wonder who answered your poll, because I think most swingers guys (i.e., married ones, singles aren't swingers by definition) wouldn't even consider to answer it.

I was wondering myself. Sometimes I just have to wonder who the lurkers are on this forum. Many times poll answers go against everything I've seen in swinging. If the website wasn't already on the fritz I'd love to see a poll where you HAD to post your reason before getting to vote.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

I think the first would include me punching his nuts pretty hard. As I stood up my right hand would be waving clockwise to move the hand that is either defending himself or is still touching my head, as my right hand finishes it's clockwise motion I would be raising my left hand to his face which is a mere distraction move as my right hand now punches him in the gut. My left hand reaches for his shoulder and as I move my right hand onto his shoulder for more leverage, bends him forward where my right knee now impacts his chest. Then, following swiftly my right hand moves down his right arm straightening it out toward my right side as I rotate and push down with my left arm which forces him to the ground. I then bring both hands down in a fist very hard over his shoulder blades which further drops him flat on the ground. Then I kick some sand into his face for good measure (following through of course).

There, I can make up stories too.

Uninvited penises in my mouth would be dealt with. But then again, it would never get so far.

As violent as that sounded, I am just fooling around. The original posters post was so absurd something equally absurd needed to follow it.

Mr. Truelove

WOW, Now that story turned me on. You explain the beauty of a well execute ass kicking to a T. It brought a tear to my eye.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Mr. Truelove]

Somehow I knew you'd like that... It actually got me in the mood to spar. (Among friends that is). I'd almost ask Dog, but I am afraid he'd whoop my butt.

Sorry about the hijack... :threadjac

Mr. Truelove

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Somehow I knew you'd like that... It actually got me in the mood to spar. (Among friends that is). I'd almost ask Dog, but I am afraid he'd whoop my butt.

Mr. Truelove

Dogs not so tough, did you see the pic of him? The one where we are kissing.
Your friend,
Prettylady

ps maybe Dog and I should bring our gear down to the meet up.

[prettylady]

BTW, the only person who would have even a remote chance of survival "encouraging" me to give head with out the thumbs up being given first would be Dog....and that would only be a slightly higher chance of survival.
Your friend,
Prettylady
After the thumbs up though, he can "encourage" me all he wants. facelick

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by prettylady

Dogs not so tough, did you see the pic of him? The one where we are kissing.
Your friend,
Prettylady

ps maybe Dog and I should bring our gear down to the meet up.

Gear?

[Thrax]

Geez Louise, prettylady and Mr. Truelove, get a room -- or a gym -- already!



(Hmmm...sparring scenarios turn prettylady on...add development of sparring scenarios to "To Do" list...)

Thrax

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Gear?

handwraps, gloves, kicksheilds, hand pads, you know gear
your friend,
prettylady

[curiousagain]

I'm gonna bring a helmet, cup, and shin pads.

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by prettylady

handwraps, gloves, kicksheilds, hand pads, you know gear
your friend,
prettylady

Oh, I've never used protective equipment like that before. But I'll reconsider since well, you could kill me with a popcicle stick.

Mr. Truelove

(I suggest we take it to the meetup thread )

[WesternSwing]

I can honestly say that none of the answers fit me because I would have never let it get to that point. This doesn't diminish the OP's question though since it is obviously something he has thought about. So from that light, I say, as an "open-minded" person... to each his own. It wouldn't work for me, but that doesn't mean it's wrong.

Mr. WS