will guys lose respect for another guy if they saw him having bi-sex

[Tia Vampire]

We have seen the question, "would a woman lose respect for a guy if he wanted to be done by another guy, if so then why?" At times it has gotton very nasty on here because of this question. So, I would like to know more from the guys point of view. If you walked into a room and one of your guy friends was being done by a guy, would you lose respect for him? Could you still hang around with him? Alright guys your turn.

[VegasLee]

This is an easy one for me. Since I have male friends that are straight, Bi and some are gay.

I never lose respect for anyone for their personal choices.

I have had many people judge me and my family because of our own lifestyle choices and have had to deal with it so I don't see that it is my place to judge anyone else for their choices.

I have noticed over the years in this Lifestyle that "Swingers" accept swingers and bi women but many of them are not so open minded when it comes to bi or gay men. Never figured that one out myself.

[confunktion]

Well put, Lee. I guess I always figured, who am I to judge others for their paths, no matter how close or far they are from mine? As long as no one's hurting anyone else, go crazy. Happiness is reached by many paths. I wouldn't want anyone to block my personal path, and I have no right nor a desire to do so to others. Do what you feel, and let's go on our merry way.

Mr. Funk
R-E-S-P-E-C-T

[sereneiders]

I guess the question doesn't mean "any" woman inside the lifestyle, but THE woman you are with, provided she knows the guy and the guy know her for long enough as to suppose some behaviors could be, at least, unexpected from him. Moreover, the question doesn't have to be about a "homo/bi" behavior, it could be about any other behavior.

For example, let's suppose this peacefull swinger couple meets a playmate who also is inside the BDSM lifestyle, and this playmates express his/her desire of some power exchange game, or to be humilliated/degraded... let say, asks to be slapped. One of the spouses could be up to give it a try, but it's very likely that he/she would be worried about the side effects of such a behavior inside the marriage, asking "would I lose my spouse respect if I slap this playmate, since one of the features my spouse loves from me is that I am not violent?".

So, the "homo/bi" subject here would be one of many, many behaviors deemed as "unusual enough" as to risk to be seen by your spouse in an odd way, to the point of damaging the relationship, by means of loosing respect, admiration, or so.

[Spoomonkey]

I have to agree with VegasLee as well. I lose respect for folks when they are not true to themselves and comfortable within their own skins... Not because of who they choose to have sex with...

Spoomonkey

[at-a-kiss]

I do not know why guys are so up tight or lack the ability to enjoy another way of being pleased. Alot to be said about having a mans penis in you, as you ladies know facelick . Al of you guys with this problem should give it a try, you will never come so hard Example. I do not like to kiss another man, I do not feel that way about them but I do like the feel of a rock hard penis in me. I enjoy my wife using toys with me very much. I love to be on top Try it guys! Open your self up to new things, you will love it if it is done right!

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Hi Everybody,
I don't care who does what with whom just so long as the 2 universal rules are followed. "Ask before touching" and "No means NO."
I don't care what somebody might ask me to do or have done to me in a play situation. Just respect my answer. I wouldn't lose respect for anybody over any sexual practise under those conditions.
Jeff

[lovinher]

Not at all. I firmly believe in "to each his own" regardless of the subject. It does turn me off to watch it though. Sorry but that's me. But I could care less if the guy was gay and wanted to dress up in a tutu.
I also don't worry about what people think of me because of my preferences and neither should whoever you are referring to .
I'm straight by the way.
Could I still hang out with him? Sure. During high school one of my best friends was obviously gay but he would never fess up to that. We all knew but none of us cared and he still was one of the guys. I lost touch over the years with the guy but we remained friends well after high school.

If the other post you are referring to was put in the manner this was, I think that post would have gone in a different direction. With that one it was tough to figure out what the OP was looking for or trying to say.

[lovinher]

At a kiss.....just because a straight guy wants nothing to do with a dick in their ass does not mean we are uptight or lack the ability to try new things. Your statement is BS. I guess a guy who likes to fuck donkeys could say the same about you if you apply your way of thinking.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by at-a-kiss

I do not know why guys are so up tight or lack the ability to enjoy another way of being pleased. Alot to be said about having a mans penis in you, as you ladies know facelick . Al of you guys with this problem should give it a try, you will never come so hard Example. I do not like to kiss another man, I do not feel that way about them but I do like the feel of a rock hard penis in me. I enjoy my wife using toys with me very much. I love to be on top Try it guys! Open your self up to new things, you will love it if it is done right!

:beatdeadh

"bangdesk"

[WesternSwing]

It wouldn't faze me at all. It's his sexual preference and isn't for me to judge. It doesn't change who he is with me. If I had never known of such things our relationship would never change, so why should it now?

Mr. WS

[twohots4u2]

Getting into swinging has really broaden our concepts about non-hetrosexual activites. Before, we were a little uptight about guy on guy, but now, we are both interested....

[at-a-kiss]

Lovinher No reason to be an asswhole. That was my opinion and did not mean to attack anyone as you did. This is suposed to be a place to be open about yourself and not have to worry about an uptight jerk like yourself! You must have real hang ups.

[TNT]

As a reminder to all...everyone is entitled to their opinion but personal attacks of another poster is NOT allowed.


Teresa

[Alura]

at-a-kiss wrote:

Lovinher No reason to be an asswhole. That was my opinion and did not mean to attack anyone as you did. This is suposed to be a place to be open about yourself and not have to worry about an uptight jerk like yourself! You must have real hang ups.

Is this the post you refer to, Teresa? If so, I agree that it was over the line and would ask at-a-kiss to forego the insults or speculation about someone else's hang-ups or uptightisity. I saw nothing out of line in Lovinher's post, merely a difference of opinion. Did I miss something?

Mr. Alura