are you what you say you are?

[cubnamy1995]

Amy is hard to label. She loves sex with both men and women, she is in a long term relationship with a man (me), but emotionally prefers women. If she and were to ever part company (God forbid), she would probably choose another woman for a LTR, but still likes sex with men.

I call her my committed bi-lesbiwife.

[Tybee Swing]

Hi Tia, it's all subjective, but I'll give it a go.

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

I think i am straight, but will flirt with other women just as a tease for the guys. Yes, there are many attractive women out there, but i'm not attracted to them sexually.

I think this is what many people refer to as bi-social. It's not really bi, but you'll play around and just "tease" like you are for somebody else (a show for guys).

Bi-social may be interpreted in slightly different ways, though. Some may interpret bi-social as being "bi in the right circumstances", which is different from what you do. If you do it just as a show, it's a great idea if the lady you're teasing with is in on it (knows it's just a show), so there's not a misunderstanding with her.

Since you said earlier that you tried it once and would "never do it again", said you have no sexual attraction toward women, and it's just a tease for the guys, I would call myself straight in profiles if I were in your shoes...because I wouldn't want to mislead anybody with bi terms. I wouldn't want them to get the idea that I had some degree of interest, if there wasn't any.

For the profile maybe you could just say that you're straight but you flirt?

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

I would also be with a woman only if she was wearing a strap-on. If she wanted to go down on me, she could, but sorry to say, i wouldn't give back. So what is the correct lable for me?

Well, it confuses me because you said you'd "never do it again" (be with a woman? ), but you would in a particular scenario of her being aggressive and being the "guy" while you are being the "girl" (and you don't reciprocate activity). She could do you and you wouldn't do her. I'd call this role bi-passive.

Have you ever put this fantasy in your profile? Maybe you'd want to explain that you're straight (not turned-on by women, don't want to perform any sexual acts on women), but that you might be open to strap-on activity in a bi-passive role (something like that, but in your own words). I guess it depends on how interested in this you really are. If you're not too sure about this or it would need to be just the right person at the right time, you might want to save this for a face-to-face conversation with somebody you choose for this?

[Mr. Truelove]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

We found that if you list yourself as "bi" you are contacted by people who either want only that - or are expecting that from the word go. It is such a big thing in the lifestyle...
Spoomonkey

That was the hesitation we had about putting "bi" on the profile. It certainly isn't all about that with Mrs. Truelove either.

It's simply a case we felt neither Bi, nor bi-curious seemed to fit. So we just picked bi-curious because she is relatively new to the whole thing and is still experimenting, and made sure to explain our stance in our profile.

Mr. Truelove

[WesternSwing]

Mrs. WS is truly "bisexual", not "bi-curious". There is no "curiosity" about it, she likes having sex with women. But, her overall preference is men. She likes to play with women, but would never want to be in a relationship with one. Also, her strike-zone is much smaller with women then with men. She's definitely not attracted to as many women as she is men. I'd classify her as "selectively-bi".

Mr. WS

[Cpl2share]

I love tongue. That is all there is to it. It doesn't matter what other sexual organs are attached to it. I do not like to give oral though. I also enjoy touching another woman and do find other women sexually attractive. I gues I am bi receptive? Maybe someday I will change my view on giving oral, but for now: The choice available on the ad sites is either straight or bi curious so we list me as bi-curious to open the door.

[des1re06]

Well, we broached the subject of my bi-sexuality before we married. He was fine with it then, and is now. I think my profile is pretty clear, in that I love giving oral to both male and female. FF sex is exciting in a different way than FM or any other combination, but I wouldn't want to replace him with a woman.

On the other hand, if he passed away before me, I could see myself living with a female rather than a man.

Mrs. D

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by Irishsakura

I will have to re read the bi article. But I figured anyone who is bisexual is actually heterosexual emotionally but sexually likes the best of both worlds. Anyone who is bi curious hasn't been with a same sex partner but is willing to try. Does that make sense?

It does make sense, so my profile does NOT reflect who I say I am, because there isn't that option. I'm like others describe -- I enjoy the ladies, but cannot ever see myself emotionally involved with one. So it says I'm "bi-curious" -- I'm no longer curious about it, and I don't think I'm truly "bi," but enjoy variety on occasion.

[sexychoclit]

I consider myself to be bi-sexual because I love to have sex with women, which includes oral, giving and receiving. I look for couples who have a bi-sexual female because I like the best of both worlds, however, I base my decision to be with a couple on the attraction that I feel for the female first and then the male. I choose to not be with couples who have a bi-curious or straight female because that wouldn't be any real fun for me. As a single woman I can sleep with a man without having to be in the lifestyle. Being in the lifestyle provides me with the ability to be with a woman without all of the hassle that a relationship could bring.

[Irishsakura]

Originally Posted by sexychoclit

I consider myself to be bi-sexual because I love to have sex with women, which includes oral, giving and receiving. I look for couples who have a bi-sexual female because I like the best of both worlds Being in the lifestyle provides me with the ability to be with a woman without all of the hassle that a relationship could bring.

You are on the money. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[MoonLightKiss]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

That is a good question tybeeswing? I'm confused myself. I think i am straight, but will flirt with other women just as a tease for the guys. Yes, there are many attractive women out there, but i'm not attracted to them sexually. I would also be with a woman only if she was wearing a stap-on. If she wanted to go down on me, she could, but sorry to say, i wouldn't give back. So what is the correct lable for me? Please be gentle guys. :surrender

I am in a very similiar boat as you. For us, I list myself on profiles as straight, but during an actual chat with another couple, I refer to myself as bi-tease. I usually get a ??? from the other couple and so I define it as I am not opposed to FF foreplay, a little kissing, touching, to get the men revved up if the right amount of chemistry is there between me and the other woman, but I am not interested in oral, or heavy play. I haven't had a problem with that label for me, but some might not like that particular label. I think in your case, straight might be the correct label, and you can always list in your profile that you aren't opposed to "_____" in the right circumstances.

[catalina8591]

Bi Bi ! Yes I am bi - not bi curious - actually enjoy havign sex with another woman with or without my male sweetie!

-Cat

[sexsexsex]

life is complicated

[SexyScorp]

I didn't see the original post of defining the terms, but here's my take on it.

I mark bi-curious on my profile, because there is bi-ness in me. I usually add something in the profile that says "bi-playful".

My Leo and I have talked a lot about it and I tried to explain to him that I don't want to put bisexual, because it really does matter what the chemistry is... and sometimes even the chemistry isn't enough.

If I'm feeling playful, I can entertain a gal for hours...

It really is too complicated to label with only three choices :P