Would you perform a bi-sexual act if your SO asked?

[c and k]

As my wife and I were making love the other night she asked me a question, "I would like to see a man put his dick in you ass, would you?" Being caught up in the moment I told her, "yes if I thought it would please her. " We've played around with toys in this area but actually taking a man even to please her is going a bit far. I'm not gay or even bi, but if I was to expect her to be with a women for my viewing pleasure I suppose she could expect the same from me. Say you do this for your wife, are you gay or bi, and would you consider doing this for her?

[Flori_DAMAN]

A poll would probably show that some would do it and some wouldn't. It really doesn't matter if anyone else would. The important thing is how comfortable YOU are with it.

Everyone has there own limitations. On the same note, if you wanted to see her ganged banged by a band of midgets (does sound kinda interesting huh? It's my Snow White fantasy!), and she thought it sounded repulsive then I would suggest that she not be compelled to do them....

But to answer your question, there is no way in hell I would do it. And I am straight but occasionally indulge in oral bi because Tam likes to watch that, and I don't mind it at all, although it is nothing I fantasize over, John.

[mksNmd]

No way! My butt is off limits - period. I don't even like it when my wife tries to insert a finger - ouch. Do I even have to mention toys?

I'll go the oral route if it pleases the women, but that's my limit.


M

[youngish56]

I think the considerate thing to do would be to ask your wife just how important it is to her fantasies and wants.

After you find that out you are in a much more enlightened position to make the right decision.

And that decision is - no way, no time and nowhere!!!!!!!!!LOL

Why till the backyard when the front lawn is so much better kept?

Seriously, to each his own, as most deviant discussions end on this site. LOL

[6477jcj]

My wife did the same to me. We were in a 3some with my best friend and my wife asked me to lick her clit while Brian fucked her. She really likes that and kept moving to get his dick in my way. I finally asked her what the hell she was doing and she wanted me to lick him while he did her. She has had this fantasy of watching two guys. Of course she throws up the fact that guys want it from the girls...so why can't we do it for her. We did a little oral only and we are cool with it. No anal though...just won't go there. But she got what she wanted and everyone had a great time.

[sportync]

I don't think that I would want to go there. I've messed around back there before and found that although there are pleasurable sensations back there, they stop at the point of penetration. It still feels good, but can cause me to loose my erection. I guess it's like a one-way check valve. Mrs. Sporty isn't really into anal penetration either and finds anything much larger than a finger to be uncomfortable. But there are plenty of other ways to enjoy ourselves without full anal penetration. Sportync

[ciscosv]

I explored my anus with a finger to see what the big deal was. Homosexual/Bi males must find it pleasurable. It stimulates the prostate? It was uncomfortable and did not care for it. Just not my gig. Exit only.

[Perseus]

As a bi man, I have engaged in many kinds of sexual activities and my first thought on this is taking anal is not for the faint of heart. The sex I have had with men has involved that, but I wouldn't do it with just anyone, even in a swinging situation where MM contact was understood and expected up front. I have to be VERY comfortable with someone to go there. Hands and mouths are one thing, but anal is another. Even the difference between a couple of fingers or a toy and having a guy (not to be to crude) "bang you" are worlds apart. Heck, ask the ladies who do and like anal if it is something they enjoy all the time. You guy all know what that answer is.

If you want to do it, my advice is being very "prepared" before you start and make sure you trust the guy implicitly. At least try some oral first!

Originally posted by michigancouple

And I am straight but occasionally indulge in oral bi because Tam likes to watch that, and I don't mind it at all, although it is nothing I fantasize over, John.

Sorry, I'd have to disagree, as much as you might love woman, if you're either taking or receiving from the same sex you're NOT straight, you're bi.

[pipeman]

[L&K]

Frankly i wouldn't do it for that reason , Im sure our experience was different then yours as we were in and out of the life style in a short time frame ( 3 ) months .

This is what i learned , you have to each be doing what is pleasurable , dont just worry about filling all her ideas . Dont step over a line that leaves you uncomfortable .

L & K

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by everlast
Sorry, I'd have to disagree, as much as you might love woman, if you're either taking or receiving from the same sex you're NOT straight, you're bi.

Who are you to tell me what I am?

Numerous research projects and polls have demonstrated that most men have at one time in their lives fantasized about m to m sex. A much higher percentage of men and women than claim to be bi or gay have tried it. Do the people that cross the line of fantasy to reality need to be labeled? Maybe we are just less inhibited and under-concerned about being categorized.

A substantial percentage of men have never even given it a thought. Does that make them superstraight? And if so is that better than bi? Does it simplify your life to put everyone into a neat little box in this horribly complicated world?

What about the gay men that get married to please their family and friends? Many have exclusive heterosexual relationships so they are not bi, or homosexual according to your rationale.

This is why so many Catholic priests have resorted to the horrible crime of pedophilia. They suppressed their sexuality by taking a vow of celibacy due to the guilt placed on them by labelling. They found out the temptation was overwhelming and they attacked our young children. I don't think categorizing is a good idea when it comes to sexuality. I am not saying these monsters arent guilty, but they should have never become priests and if people didn't label and feel its so important to categorize them possibly they could have gotten in touch with there inner selves instead of becoming warped.

I suppose you know that if your neighbors and non-swinging friends and family knew you swing (I'm assuming you do because you are posting on a swinging site) many of them would put you into the category of a sexaholic (not a good thing), a pervert, or an aldulterer. There are in fact laws that demonstrate swinging is very frowned upon by lots of people. People have been handcuffed and taken to jail for swinging. Just because people put them into a category.

A much smaller percentage of people swing than don't so its very important to place them into some category. Truly sanctimonious.

Just because they would put you in that category doesn't make them right though. I WOULD PREFER TO BE BI,(because I could have twice as much fun). That by the way is what convinces me that sexual preference is not chosen, its inherent in ones genes at birth. I can't state that as a fact though, because it is a debatable subject; I correctly only say its the way I feel.

I consider myself straight because I don't seek men or fantasize about m to m sexual situations. Now thats just my personal definition and I would never suggest that you adopt it. That would be a bit presumtuous dont ya think? John.

[OhioCouple]

Everlast,

I am going to agree with MichiganCouple here. Not from a male point of view (since I am not a male) but from a bi-sexual female's point of view.

I am and do consider myself as bi-sexual. I fully enjoy giving as much as receiving with another female, In truth I desire it just as much as I do being with another man. They are equal to me. We have some play friends that have at times gotten wrapped up in the moment (for lack of better words) and participated in bi-sexual activity. (Both male and female) This did not make them bi-sexual. They are still just as straight as the ones who have never had same sex relations. It is a mindset and a desire, it has nothing to do with casual interaction.

Lori

I really dont think that you should ever consider having a man enter your rectum for any circunstances. :p

[Perseus]

Originally posted by nineofluv
I really dont think that you should ever consider having a man enter your rectum for any circunstances. :p

Why? It it is not like the worst thing ever. If fact some folks find it kinda a fun. My point is be sure what you are getting into. :P

Perseus

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