How can you tell if another woman may be into threesomes?

[Crystal]

Quite often I'll see a beautiful woman, inside and out, and I want to get with her. I freak out, though, and get too scared to ask. What if she's not into that sort of thing. I don't even know how to pick up a guy let alone a gal. I mean (and this will crack you up) when I met my hubby for the first time, I liked him right off the bat. So I sheepishly walked up to him, gave him my number (without saying a word) and ran like my tail was on fire. He laughed so hard he couldn't help but want to call me. That's the only time I was "brave" like that. How do I flirt and seduce a woman? How can I tell if she is even into 3somes?

[dayhiker]

Hi Crystal,

Have you tried chatting on the web. Flirting on the web, Once you feel comfortable chatting and flirting then you it will be easier to do it with people live. The little chat room that Julie has usually has a few people in it and I'm sure someone there would love to flirt with you.
Also I bet you husband would love you to flirt with him thru the day more. Are you doing that now?

either of those will help you I'm sure.
dayhiker

[Crystal]

I do. I've been flirting and making suggestions but our kids (plus a neice) are constantly around. Even when we go to bed. I put them down an easy hour, hour and a half before we go to bed and they are still awake. Then to hammer that final nail in... he is so stressed and preoccupied with work, he's whipped at the end of the night. All I get from him lately are hugs & kisses in the day and Zzzz at night.

When is a good time to go on the chat room? I went yesterday and no one was on.

[edmustang]

I can't help with the kids, since I don't have any.

But as far as getting to know people...you don't get if you don't ask. Sounds flippant, but the only way you'll know is if you put yourself out there. Yes, you'll get shot down...probably most of the time...but it will work sometimes. After all, that's how you met your hubby! Worked that time, didn't it?

I have no numbers to back it up, but I think a lot (maybe most) people will feel at least a little bit flattered. It's always nice to know you're attractive, even to the same sex. It happened to me once. I'm not in the least bit bisexual, but it did put a smile on my face.

[dayhiker]

Hi Crystal,
Yes, the kids thing is tough and stress from work definately works against his desire for sex and as your noted leaves him tired.
I take it that the neice isn't old enough to baby sit.

One idea might be to have huby take a nap right after supper say one day during the week. Hopfully that would help hjim relax an have the energy for later.

I'm not in the chat room much. Once in a great while at noon. So I'm not upto date on the chat pattern. When you do start chatting, keep huby up todate about who your chatting with and what your saying. If you've not chatted much, the attention can be pretty intoxicating for a new person. I've heard good things about about secondlife.com, but that is way more involved.
I never liked yahoo chatrooms. guess I don't really know a good chatroom right now. I've not chatted much in over 2 years.

as the old saying goes, Roman wasn't built in a day, so work a little each day or two on getting freer and thinking of things to say.
dayhiker

Originally Posted by Crystal

I do. I've been flirting and making suggestions but our kids (plus a neice) are constantly around. Even when we go to bed. I put them down an easy hour, hour and a half before we go to bed and they are still awake. Then to hammer that final nail in... he is so stressed and preoccupied with work, he's whipped at the end of the night. All I get from him lately are hugs & kisses in the day and Zzzz at night.

When is a good time to go on the chat room? I went yesterday and no one was on.

[bryanandteresa]

I'm right there with you. Last night me and my boyfriend went out and there as a girl that I wanted to ask, but didn't. I danced with her, but that's as far as it went.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Crystal

I do. I've been flirting and making suggestions but our kids (plus a neice) are constantly around. Even when we go to bed. I put them down an easy hour, hour and a half before we go to bed and they are still awake. Then to hammer that final nail in... he is so stressed and preoccupied with work, he's whipped at the end of the night. All I get from him lately are hugs & kisses in the day and Zzzz at night.

When is a good time to go on the chat room? I went yesterday and no one was on.

I hear ya on the kids not wanting to go to bed, we had that problem. Finally, I put the foot down and now they know they take their behinds to bed when i say. Are they younger kids? I lay down with them and they have no choice but to go to sleep lol. You HAVE to have time for you and your husband girl, and the kids need to go to bed so you can have this. I go into the chat room alot, there are some awesome people who go in there, "regulars". The evenings after 7 is when everyone tends to be in there, after they get home from work and eat dinner.

[cheekyngiggles]

im prob going ask stupid question now but where is this chatroom? on swingers site or another like yahoo / msn paltalk etc' just wondered was all and yea with summer hols our kids not go bed till 11 so we gotta work around them too. but you forsure need urs and ur hubbys time alone my wife is like u she so wants to be with a woman too but no luck as yet you could chat to her 2 im sure she like even to just chat' her nic here is gigglesncheeky hope all works out for ya ..

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by cheekyngiggles

...where is this chatroom? ...

You can get there by clicking the Chat link on the menu bar at the top of the page. Have fun!

-B

[Crystal]

Originally Posted by bryanandteresa

I'm right there with you. Last night me and my boyfriend went out and there as a girl that I wanted to ask, but didn't. I danced with her, but that's as far as it went.

Here's irony for ya. I went dancing about a month ago and there was this woman I had no trouble at all knowing she was into anything. We'd dance most of the night together. She'd touch me here...grab me there. She'd take my hands and place them on her ass or breast. I could've taken her home with me no problem. Except for two. 1.) My sister. She'd get so pissed that every time this woman came near me, my sister would pull her off me and threaten to kick her ass. 2.) This woman had an itch so bad, she didn't care who scratched it. She was hitting on almost everyone in the whole bar! A huge turn off for me. By the way she was behaving, I had no idea how clean she was. I'm not looking for a disease, just a good time.

[Crystal]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

I hear ya on the kids not wanting to go to bed, we had that problem. Finally, I put the foot down and now they know they take their behinds to bed when i say. Are they younger kids? I lay down with them and they have no choice but to go to sleep lol. You HAVE to have time for you and your husband girl, and the kids need to go to bed so you can have this. I go into the chat room alot, there are some awesome people who go in there, "regulars". The evenings after 7 is when everyone tends to be in there, after they get home from work and eat dinner.

We are working on getting them back on their "school" schedule. So it's gonna get better. I can't lay with them, though. They are in separate bedrooms and can be very jealous of each other. Plus I know I'd just fall asleep too...lol.

Things are getting better with me & hubby as well. Our stress from the business has let up a bit. We got some work in, we have put some more bids out, we are putting together brochures and portfolios, and.... WE GOT PAID! Now I can pay on/off our bills and get people off our asses a little. This is all helping hubby's attitude and he's back to wanting me again. HURRAY!!!

[edmustang]

Originally Posted by Crystal

WE GOT PAID! Now I can pay on/off our bills and get people off our asses a little. This is all helping hubby's attitude and he's back to wanting me again. HURRAY!!!

Yeah, this shouldn't have anything to do with it, but it frequently does. Believe me, I know! Back in the bad old days!