Bi- curious to Bi..with my best friend

[dragonblade]

So I was thinking a lot about whether I was bi-curious, or bi, or if it was a way for me to do the "expected thing" like has been talked about here with the bi chick in the profile...

Last night my hubby and best friend were drinking some, (not heavily, not drunk) and I of course was not. We were hanging out and all had in mind that this 3 some might actually happen. I wasn't really nervous at all, but she had the thought that I had done this before...I hadn't..

How does one go from never kissing a girl ever to doing wonderfully naughty things to her without being nervous? facelick I don't know, but I did it last night and I can say that I can officially think that I am Bisexual now. That's not to say I'd lick any pussy, but selectively bisexual for sure...And she lives with me <EG>....I just wanted to share with you guys (with her permission as she is a new member of this board) that I have never been happier, she is such a phenomonal person, and for her to be my first in that respect and just...... wow.

My husband is happy though we definitely need to focus more on him next time that's the only part I feel bad about, and we definitely need to find her a loving partner (IMHO) that she can be with and share herself with but us too I just want her to be happy you know? I don't want things to come between us, and I know that a lot of people don't really like the thought of really close friends as sex partners, but so far it's workin for us! His best friend....my best friend...now we just need em all in the same state!!

~Blade~

[MrsVan]

Dragonblade,

Thanks for the post. MrVan and I have been talking about the curious side of me wanting to see what it would be like. We have talks and have talked with a woman who we hope to bring into our sex life to have a FMF..However, when I informed her that I was not bi she was disappointed till I had explained I had not had the opportunity to experience that side. I cannot say I am bi not knowing if it is something that I could do or not. I have told MrVan that I dont know if I could be the one to make the first move in that type of situation without knowing if it is something that I would like.

Out of curiosity, was it you that initiated the action between you and your friend or was she already bi and took the first steps? I am just interested to know how one starts to explore that option with the nerves flowing?

I like that you were able to share this experience with us and I was glad to read that I am not the only one with the nerves weighing in heavy in deciding what steps to take.

MrsVan

[shygrrl]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Out of curiosity, was it you that initiated the action between you and your friend or was she already bi and took the first steps? I am just interested to know how one starts to explore that option with the nerves flowing?

Me too!

I recently told hubby in the past 2-3 weeks about this board and was pleasantly surprised he wasn't completely offended. In fact it's really given our sex life a major boost lately!! facelick

He's confessed some fantasies, one involving our neighbor whom we rarely see but she's a single girl, no boyfriend and I wouldn't mind seeing her go down on him since I'm not real active in that dept but also wouldn't mind joining in.

We had a threesome about 12 years ago with a friend of mine b/c we were all curious but we didn't enjoy it b/c we weren't attracted to her.

I'm curious how we could "put the feelers out" for lack of a better term to see if his fantasy could become a reality.

[MrsVan]

Shygirl,

I am with you on how much this lifestyle can spark a sex life.. MrVan and I had a great sex life before but now after reading the board, communicating about our fantasies and acting on things we never thought possible we now cannot get enough of each other. We went from a slow sex life to "wow, got to have it every night" kind of life.. I am not complaining by anymeans but it is just odd that something like this can improve a relationship when you think it would actually hurt it..

I am hoping to find out from the board how to approach the bi side. Like I said before, I may try it and realize it was not me and stay the way I am but there is a side of me that would really like to know..And this is coming from me and not MrVan. There have been many conversations where people wonder if the woman is bi or if it is the man that has listed the woman bi.. And I can honestly say it is me wanting to experiment.

MrsVan

[mybeeps]

well, i didn't know that i was bi, and neither did blade. we had talked about it at different times, that the possibility could be there..... and we just....sorta........let it go from there....

[shygrrl]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Shygirl,

We went from a slow sex life to "wow, got to have it every night" kind of life.. I am not complaining by anymeans but it is just odd that something like this can improve a relationship when you think it would actually hurt it
MrsVan

BINGO!! We got really lazy about sex and I mean REALLY lazy and when I get on my "I need sex" kicks I like to get in a big conversation about it to try to keep it from fizzling out again. Sometimes that's not enough.

I was really nervous to tell him about this place b/c I didn't want him to think I didn't love him or want to be with him anymore but we talked, talked, talked and now use it as a way to express our fantasies. He had no problem saying it but I'm a little more shy so I wrote a story about a former co-worker and still friend of mine who moved 2 states away. We're planning on visiting his city within the year and even if nothing comes of it, I know the sexual tension between he and I at any similarities between elements of our visit and my story will make sex that night AWESOME!

I swear we should both be broken by now but somehow we've gone from snores to whores the past 2 weeks!

[dragonblade]

She lies noooo I'm just kidding. Well as y'all know by now I am a fairly outgoing person, but beeps isn't in the sexual aspect. So we were just all hanging out, my husband thought it'd be funny to get naked...and just wear socks and fuzzy black slippers.. so that broke a little ice, but we were just sitting next to eachother, and then Dragon came and sat in between us and started playing with her nipples while I was stroking him...and we still were just sitting there basically talking...so at about 3:30 am I got impatient and said "Ok, it's time for everyone naked in our room. Let's go." So we did, I was going down on my hubby a little, and she was going to try to kiss me a little, but I of course was clueless, and she said "Blade doesn't want to kiss me " and pouted. It was hot. I was like..yeah right. And basically attacked her lol. We kissed and everything moved on from there! I really didn't know how I'd feel about it and neither did she, it was both of our first time with another woman. I am SO glad it was her, and it was everything, from kissing to going down on each other, and it was fantastic, I know I can't wait to do it again.facelick

Any other questions or whatever, feel free to ask!!

~Blade~

[C@YWMI]

I wonder if people in this lifestyle are bi,bicurious? Or just expanding there sexual expierance. Much like using toys to expand sexual expierance. Just my slanted observation! would be interested in others opinion sorry hope I didn't hijack this thread.

[MrsVan]

Originally Posted by C@YWMI

I wonder if people in this lifestyle are bi,bicurious? Or just expanding there sexual expierance. Much like using toys to expand sexual expierance. Just my slanted observation! would be interested in others opinion sorry hope I didn't hijack this thread.

I am straight and do not list myself as bi or bicurious. I am looking to explore the bi side basically to expand my sex life just like playing with toys and going to clubs. I have always wanted to know what it would be like but have had not been ready to make that step. MrVan and I have talked alot about me experimenting but I am not wanting to make the first move or if I do decide I want to know how to go about it. This is a decision I am making myself, not by things that MrVan has been wanting me to do..We are in this lifestyle for US but we do not do anything that either of us is not comfortable with.

MrsVan

[dragonblade]

I was wondering the same thing, but in all honesty, I think it depends on your definition of Bi. For instance, if you feel to be truly bi, you have to be able to have a possibility of a loving relationship with one of the same sex, then I am not. However, if you define Bi as wanting and thuroughly enjoying sexual things with someone of the same sex then hell yes I am bi! Does that make sense? I hope this answers your question...

~Blade~

[mybeeps]

I dont know how other chicks feel about that either...but, i know that i dont want a monogamous relationship with just a female. i have to have a male in my life as well. However, to just sexually satisfy a woman, or have that done to me. I'm all for it now.
of course i will be choosy, but thats no different then if it were for a male as well

[MrsVan]

Mybeeps,

I agree with you. I am all for venturing out to please and be pleased by another woman but I can say that I have to have a man in my life. I love the sex with a man and cannot limit myself to just a woman..I get pure pleasure out of a man pleasing me and I get complete satisfaction knowing that I am pleasing him in all aspects. I also when looking at single females with MrVan as to whom we want to bring into our sex life, I can say I am very picky also. With this being our first FMF, I want to make sure that the woman has an attraction for me as well in order for me to think about wanting to venture with her a little on the bi side.

I cannot wait to explore that with MrVan but when the time is right. I am in no rush and it will happen when it happens.

MrsVan

[dragonblade]

If I didn't have my husband I don't know what I'd do. There is NOTHING that could replace him or be better than him, and that feeling of filling, facelick it just can't be given up. So I can sleep with Beeps, she can certainly do things well, but she'd never replace (nor any other woman for that matter) my husband...that's why it's good that we're such close friends that I can share him with her too

~Blade~

[VanHlebar]

Hey I want to be shared with someone. I was always taught to share, so please please share me

-Van

[lips2theready]

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Hey I want to be shared with someone. I was always taught to share, so please please share me

-Van

this would be my first time, have you shared before, was it strange, easy??