Bisexuality For Everyone

[BigDawg]

I have read quite a few threads today on the subject of male bisexuality. I have been actively bi for a long time and now the sex of my partner makes little difference to me. To be blunt though, there is NO organ on a man that feels quite as good as a pussy. As far as oral goes though, the best I have ever had was from a man. I can't understand why anyone would be exclusively either gay or hetero. Cutting off half the population as sex partners is sad. I think most guys, if you got them to admit it, would be curious to try but as many have said, they are afraid to be labeled gay. It is acceptable for women, even straight ones, to kiss and hug but men get funny looks if they do the same. Double standard for sure.

Big Dawg

[Gods_favorite]

I agree with you, labels don;t do anyone any good, we should be able to try and experiment with anyone we want, male or female.

[Fox n Hound]

And from the the depths of the earth a Hell Fire did come forth and consumed mankind for his wicked ways.
With this kind of up bringing it is a wonder that any of the American population dares try anyhting different.
This is what I heard at least 4 times a week, sometimes 14 days strait, for up to 3 hours at a time for the last 15 years I lived at home as a kid. Some nights it would last for up to 6 or 7 hours.
From an up bringing like that it is a wonder I would even wash those special feeling areas.
Those teachings will haunt me till my death, but my internal desires will prod me for more at the same time. <img border="0" alt="[Angel or Devil]" title="" src="graemlins/devil.gif" />
Then you add societies peer pressure to conform to certain set of dos and don'ts, oh well you get what I mean.
Fox N Hound

[OhioCouple]

Big Dawg,

This is coming from a female point of view. I truly enjoy having one on one female contact and actually crave it, but in the end (And I'll be blunt here) I really want and desire a hard cock to finish me off. You are right about the double standards. As much as I would entertain the idea of uninhibited sex between everyone involved, I doubt that it will ever happen in our household. I personally see no difference between MM or FF and it is truly a double standard. Society has led us to believe that only "certain" sexual activities are acceptable. IMHO (And I'll be blunt here again) What is the TRUE difference if I am licking a clit or he is licking a dick? You are both participating in "BI Sexual" activity. It doesn't label you as Gay, you are just enjoying and expressing your sexuality.

Lori

[BigDawg]

There are definite advantages to sex between men. Men don't freak at the idea of just being honest that the desired end result of saying hello to someone attractive is to have sex. Some women act completely amazed that you had that in mind. I know all women aren't like that but I have NEVER met a guy who wasn't ready to go at it 10 minutes after shaking hands. That is nice when you really aren't looking for love, just a good time. I don't think I could fall in love with a man though. Sex is great but I have never had romantic feelings for one. I've been in love 4 times in my life and they were all ladies.

Well that is enough rambling on. Thanks for all the comments. Great reading!!

Big Dawg

[Quin]

Big Dawg, I understand your way of thinking and for a normal human being, this train of thought would seem reasonable....BUT men are men (and strange creatures at that)...they are conditioned and taught that homosexuality, especially between two males, just isn't right...some to the point that they are so intimidated by it, they kill, tho these are far and few between but harrassment of gays is nothing new and has probably seen an increase within the past few years. And now with HIV/AIDS, I think it's going to be a long long time coming before the majority of the male population even begins to grasp your concept, if they ever do at all.

Being 42 years old and being a bi-sexual female (I had my first bi-sexual experience at the age of 18), let me assure you that the interest in female/female action has only increased and became *cool* within the past 10 to 12 years. There was a time, even in swinging, when interaction sexually between females wasn't as readily accepted as it is now and was even kind of frowned upon depending upon those involved. I'm happy those days are basically over but I still respect those who truly are straight and their wishes.

Quin

[BigDawg]

I completely respect anyone's wishes and if you are just straight it is cool as long as it is stated up front. I'm sure you agree they just don't know what they are missing. My wife is straight as an arrow and I doubt she will ever change although I have suggested she give it some thought. She accepts my feelings in the matter so it works out for us but I know that if she could just get over the taboo, she would have a good time. I don't pressure her though as it is her life to live like she wants. Her best friend is openly bi and approached me about having sex with my wife. I told her it was cool with me but that I wanted to be there (of course). My wife turned her down but they have remained friends. I think that is probably the last word and I haven't said anything more on the subject and don't plan to. Too bad though, would have been fun. :-)

[CanadianCouple]

Hello Big Dawg.

I'm assuming that in addition to recent posts concerning this subject, you've also read posts from threads that are many months old, perhaps even from last year. There's one post somewhere on this board that involved over 100 posts I believe, including those that were rather heated in nature.

I'm all for adults engaging in consensual activities that are mutually desired by all involved, however this subject went far beyond that in here. The implications were strong that those of us who are 100% heterosexual have something missing, or worse, something organically wrong with us, in that we have no desire whatsover to engage in sex with our own gender. I personally took great pains in that thread to explain how personally repugnant male to male sex was to me, if I imagine myself being a participant. Not to compare apples and oranges, but most of us don't engage in bathroom activities, and the thought of m/m provokes a similar reaction in me. That is NOT being judgmental on what you and your s/o do with other people, but how I react at the thought of me in the same situation.

One of the underlying credos of swinging is to allow consenting adults to engage in mutually satisying sex with others. However, that knife cuts both ways -- respecting those who don't wish to participate in certain acts as well.

Dan

[Quin]

Originally posted by BigDawg:
I completely respect anyone's wishes and if you are just straight it is cool as long as it is stated up front. I'm sure you agree they just don't know what they are missing. My wife is straight as an arrow and I doubt she will ever change although I have suggested she give it some thought. She accepts my feelings in the matter so it works out for us but I know that if she could just get over the taboo, she would have a good time. I don't pressure her though as it is her life to live like she wants. Her best friend is openly bi and approached me about having sex with my wife. I told her it was cool with me but that I wanted to be there (of course). My wife turned her down but they have remained friends. I think that is probably the last word and I haven't said anything more on the subject and don't plan to. Too bad though, would have been fun. :-)

Oh, I totally agree they don't know what they're missing but then there's the saying...how can you miss something if you never ever had it or done it before...or something along that lines. I don't think that bi-sexuality is for everyone, that's quite apparent.

It's great that you respect your wife's (mmmm don't want to say decision here because I really don't think it's a decision that one makes..either they are or aren't) straightness. Many a man would apply pressure and/or try to push her in the way of bi-sexuality and/or play a few mind games and lead her to believe that something may be wrong with her because she don't want to try it. I really respect you for that and wish that more men were like you.

Good Luck to you and your wife in your adventures, Big Dawg and I hope they are always fulfilling and satisfying for both of you!

Quin

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by BigDawg:
She accepts my feelings in the matter so it works out for us but I know that if she could just get over the taboo, she would have a good time.

Now here's a prime example of what I was illustrating in my last post.

Your wife isn't refusing to consider f/f because of any so-called "taboo", she's only attracted to men and nothing you or anyone else can say is going to change that. Nor should you even try. She's a heterosexual woman only, like it or not.

Dan

[BigDawg]

Dan,

Something I said seems to have upset you. That wasn't my intention. I am NOT saying there is anything "wrong" with being straight. It is just my opinion that those who restrict sex that way are missing out on a lot of fun. Last time I checked I was still allowed an opinion. :-) Have fuin and don't take all this stuff so seriously. After all, this is supposed to be fun.

"Life is too short to sweat the small stuff".

[BigDawg]

Quin,

For a while BB tried to talk me out of seeing guys. She is actually more comfortable with me having other women than she is with men. She said she could "compete" with women but felt unable to with men. Finally though she finally realized it wasn't a "competition" and that I was her's in all the ways that count and that no sexual encounter with either sex was going to change that.

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by BigDawg:
Dan,

Something I said seems to have upset you. That wasn't my intention. I am NOT saying there is anything "wrong" with being straight. It is just my opinion that those who restrict sex that way are missing out on a lot of fun. Last time I checked I was still allowed an opinion. :-) Have fuin and don't take all this stuff so seriously. After all, this is supposed to be fun.

"Life is too short to sweat the small stuff

No, didn't upset me, I just felt it needed clarifying on my part.

Dan

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by BigDawg:
Last time I checked I was still allowed an opinion. :-)

You sure are. And people posting rebuttals certainly doesn't negate your right to express yours.

Dan

[BigDawg]

Dan,

It is always more fun when you have someone to argue both sides of an issue. Glad you weren't upset with me. Wouldn't want to get off on the wrong foot. I'll be glad when BB gets home so I will have someone to argue in person with. :-) She is on the east coast for two weeks getting our kid settled in college. Dull around here. This will be the longest we have been apart in 23 years or marriage. Thanks for the replies.

Big Dawg