Men swingers and bisexuality

[tom&jerri]

In another area of the Board I saw a post about "Women swingers and bisexuality". I wondered if anyone had asked about Men. I know many men love to see bisexual women make love - but they would not engage in it themselve with other men.

I'm not bisexual ( well maybe a closet Bi), but I have had many blow jobs from a man. I was seduced at a young age by a married couple - She taught me how to make love to a women - and he only wanted to blow me. I haven't done this in years.

Since Jerri and I are wanting to get into the lifestyle - I was wondering how often there is some bisexual play between the men. I finally told Jerri what had happened to me and she was not turned off by it.

[sarajane]

as the female half of a coulple why not let the man have his too ....it's only sex , and it's all about pleasure and yes everyone must be in agreement ....... i'm not looking at sex for love ...fun is fun...
so y not go for it..

[jon&roberta]

I think the way Sarajane does. It's sex - for fun sake and if another man wants to "do me" - I'm all for it.

You didn't say "What you did for him - if anything". How long did this go on for?

[WesternSwing]

I've often said I wish I was bi so that I could get twice the action like Mrs. WS. But alas I just have no interest. We have played with couples where we knew the husband was bi, and they have always respected our boundries. So no, it doesn't turn me off, but it's just not for me. But we have found many bi men in swinging.

Mr. WS

[greatesc]

As the guy in our couple my wife loves to watch me with another man. I wouldn't probably go out on my own and search for just a guy to play with, but for her I do it and love it. And it is always reciprocal also, him on me and me on him, and before long it's all of us on all of us. Why not experience it all facelick

[hmr]

I (the female half) love to see bi action between males. The male body is beautiful. I love watching two or more of them intertwined in physical sexual contact. Just watching their muscles flex as they pull and push their bodies together then away again makes me hot. facelick Seeing them give head to one another is exciting for me.
We have found there are many more bisexual men in swinging than you would think. A lot do not put it on their profiles or say anything about the curiosity until after meeting because of the double standard in the swinging lifestyle. Bisexuality is accepted, almost expected among women, but it is still taboo for men. Maybe it is me, but I just don't get it. If it is suppose to be ok for women to be bi, and straight women are suppose to accept f/f play anywhere it occurs (according to most men) without being upset or intimidated in anyway....what is problem with m/m play? Anyplace we have ever been, the bimales never do anything without asking first!!! Most of the time they are in their own little space anyway. I just wish adults would act like adults when it comes to this matter!! Everyone would be more relaxed and have a lot more fun, more often!

mrs hmr

[greatesc]

I'd like to add a bit more to this. I find it rather interesting that men in general, love to watch two women together. But what is good for the goose is good for the gander, if you what too see that or even expect it you better be able to play back. It's like a double standard. I our house if I wish to see something then I better be able to answer back with the same. Just our thoughts

[tom&jerri]

Thank you all for your frank comments. I feel much better after asking my question and getting your answers. I might not be in the closet much longer.

Originally Posted by jon&roberta

I think the way Sarajane does. It's sex - for fun sake and if another man wants to "do me" - I'm all for it.

You didn't say "What you did for him - if anything". How long did this go on for?

To answer Jon's questions - I played with this couple for almost 3 years - once a week we would have a 3-some. A couple of times a year I would spend the weekend with one of them - either in town or at another city.

After 6 months of getting blow jobs from the Husband - I started to jerk him off to give him some relief - LOL - I got very good at it.

[CBYLW]

I started out homophobic in by earlier days. I met a couple about fifteen years ago that changed that. We were involved or about ten years, the first five were hetero. The Lady was the one that wanted to se it. It statrted slow and eventually happened.
I can't imagine not being bi now.

[Jonzzz]

I have met several couples where the guy is bi and find that the women find it very exciting watching two guys sucking each other. There are a lot of married guys out there who enjoy sex with another guy without their wives knowing.

[cplinlove]

I've never had the chance to spend time in the bed with a man and a woman, but I want to and the wife really wants me to as well she's really curious to watch me try it out it turns her on thinking about it. I'm not into the romantics of another man like I am with my wife but I am into sexual acts, I guess that's why I'm into the idea of giving oral pleasure and maybe more to another guy.

[Mike and Jan]

Isn't 'swinging' about exploring things that a 'couple' just can't explore without others? Now I know that in some cases it's just, the being with other partners, but I think it's more exploring every avenue of sexuality for me.

My wife thinks that two men together sexy. Just like I think two women together is sexy. Now I'd actually prefer to have a woman giving me oral but would certainly allow a man. I certainly prefer having intercourse with a woman but would try a man if the situation called for it.

But I have to admit that I've fantasized about tasting my wife's juices on another man's cock. Then, sucking it and deepthroating it until it shoots. And yes, I think I'd swallow every drop.

[Chicup]

I have to wonder if its just this message board or the anonymity of the internet, but when this topic comes up it seems that the results are always a lot more male-bi friendly than I've seen in clubs/adds.

[playmatesinpgh]

Originally Posted by Chicup

I have to wonder if its just this message board or the anonymity of the internet, but when this topic comes up it seems that the results are always a lot more male-bi friendly than I've seen in clubs/adds.

I think you are absolutely right Chicup. On the net, including this site, I think that the males are much more truthful due to the anonymity of it all. I have always believed that there are alot more men out there who have fantisized about having sex with other men, whether it be recieving oral, giving oral, anal, etc. They just won't admit it outloud for fear of being labled in a perceived, negitive way. I know I have fantisized about giving and receiving oral with another man, especially just after he pulls out from Mrs. Playmates pussy... but have never acted on it... The only person I have ever admitted this to is my sexy wife and she told me that she would love to see that...and even join right in...

Well, maybe one of these days...

[cracker60479]

I find this a most interesting thread. I am a bi male and the fact that 80% of the males in this poll say they would have bi sex, and the knowledge that bi activities between females is commonly accepted leads me to believe we are all naturally born bi sexual. I was totally straight for 50 years when I had a dream that I went to a nearby nude beach in Florida and a guy walked up to where I was setting and after a few words, he took hold of my head and stuck his cock in my mouth. I suddenly awoke and felt anger that the dream had ended before I could imagine what it felt like in my mouth. I was very aroused and began masturbating motivated by thoughts of sucking a cock. I was surprised and confused because I was straight and had never even thought about sucking a guy. That seemed the key idea, I had never thought about it, and when I did, it seemed very hot. This seems to support the poll, that if a guy found himself in situation of doing bi or not, he would choose to participate.
What surprises me is the response of the wives who said they would enjoy watching their husband having bi sex. My wife knows I had bi experiences before we met and seems perfectly ok with it. I tend to wonder how a wife could watch her husband suck another male and not change the way she viewed his masculinity. As a bi, I do not like men, not attracted to men, I am not gay, I dont want it reciprocated, I dont want to kiss or hug or cuddle or do anal on him. My only interest is in doing oral sex on him and with the right guy would allow him to fuck me anally. But I feel my wife would have less respect for me and my masculinity if she saw this happening.
I wish I could see a poll in which wives would answer if watching their husbands have bi sex would be a turn-on or a turn-off. And secondly a poll asking the men who are bi, how many would suck only, how many would only want to be sucked and how many would want both, and the same for anal, would you give, receive or both? And would kiss, cuddle and hug be part of your activity? There seems to be a wide variety of things some bi males are up for and another bi is not into. I consider my bi role as the female half and my partner as the male half, all male who doesnt suck, kiss or cuddle men, just wants his cock sucked. This brings up just one more question, do guys who only want to be sucked want it sucked by another male specifically, or do they care who does it for them as long as it feels good and they get off? Even though I play the bi role as female, I never think of myself in a feminine way, I am totally 100% masculine, looking and acting at all times. Whats up with this?
This seems enough for a whole new thread but it seems to fit into this one as a subject.