Men swingers and bisexuality

[eskimo]

I like to play with the other guy some, but I am not very interested in him playing with me.
A bit odd, perhaps, but as it has been said, to each his own. If we were all the same, life would be really dull.

[FDGlide]

I really didn't think I would ever do anything with another guy. But during a full swap the girls talked us into stroking eachothers dicks. We both actually ended up liking it. And the girls OMG they almost came just watching. I never heard my wife moan so loud with out being touched. It progressed to licking and then sucking but never to complition. My wife and I even kissed at the tip of his dick which was amazing. Now I would prefer mfm cause watching her get so turned on does something to me. We have not had any encounters the past couple of years but have been talking bout again lately. We have a good friend we have been with a few times and I love sucking his dick with her. Hope to get to again soon

[corynlaine]

This poll really puzzles me! It seems that for a large percentage of women this is very much a turn on and most men in this poll replied - well at least NOT negatively -

I'm the male half of a bi curious couple and we're listed that way because we're both open to trying it.

We've been contacted by a few couples who list str8 male bi female yet tell us in their e-mails that they're open to both.


can NOT imagine why this is such a big deal with men!?

[bi4me2]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

can NOT imagine why this is such a big deal with men!?

(him)

I can think of two reasons

1. There are a lot of men that just feel it is 'gay' no matter how un-gay it is

2. Straight men contacting you are being what I honestly believe 85% of the men out there really are, closet curious. They won't admit it to anyone publicly but deep inside they really do want to try it and or they think about trying it.

Sad that so many men can't be 100% honest withe themselves but the stigma many men attach to that is really tough for them to get over, no matter how much they want to try it.

[corynlaine]

Originally Posted by bi4me2

(him)

Sad that so many men can't be 100% honest withe themselves but the stigma many men attach to that is really tough for them to get over, no matter how much they want to try it.

But if they can't even be honest with themselves WHY should we trust them and feel comfortable inviting them into our bed????

[bi4me2]

Originally Posted by corynlaine

But if they can't even be honest with themselves WHY should we trust them and feel comfortable inviting them into our bed????

(him)

Well that's a tough one but in their defense you have to realize many people see a bisexual guy as a (pardon the language) fag. It sucks but that's how many men are and broadcasting your curiosities shuts down a lot of avenues that might otherwise be open in the lifestyle.

Take a look around at the couples ads on many sites and look at how many ads contain a line similar to:

Sorry guys if you are bi we aren't interested and I can damn near bet everything I have that is coming from the male half of the couple.

It's a stupid double standard because the same guys that would call a bisexual guy a 'fag' are usually the same ones that think two women together is hot as hell.

I wont speak for the entire male gender but I see and hear what a lot of guys say and it makes me hate men, that coming from a man. I know damn well a huge portion of them have the thought in the back of their head but because of the stupid 'a man is a man' thing they can't accept their thoughts or even begin to act on them.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by bi4me2

(him)

Well that's a tough one but in their defense you have to realize many people see a bisexual guy as a (pardon the language) fag. It sucks but that's how many men are and broadcasting your curiosities shuts down a lot of avenues that might otherwise be open in the lifestyle.

Take a look around at the couples ads on many sites and look at how many ads contain a line similar to:

Sorry guys if you are bi we aren't interested and I can damn near bet everything I have that is coming from the male half of the couple.

Actually my wife, who IS bi, is majorly turned off by male male activity, to the point I gotta tell her to lighten up at times. I've known other women the same way.

So while perhaps you are right in that a majority its the males, there are plenty of females not really into it either.

[Titsrfun2]

My ex tried for years to get me sexually involved with another man, claiming that it would be a huge turn on for her. We used to visit bookstores together back in the days, so she saw me sucking other guys off. However, when it actually came to climbing in bed with another man to join us, I couldn't do it. Something about the anonymous feeling that the bookstores gave you.

[divenaked]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Actually my wife, who IS bi, is majorly turned off by male male activity, to the point I gotta tell her to lighten up at times. I've known other women the same way.

So while perhaps you are right in that a majority its the males, there are plenty of females not really into it either.

In our local club, it seems to be the bi women who are most opposed to playing with bi males. The most common comment regards risk factors.

[BigNikki]

Big Nikki here, channeling my John's answer.

Yes, yes, YES answers John. (But John's plenty bi- and actually more queer than straight; we're both more queer than straight.)

We're both very glad to see the graph of answers, go steadily upward as the options move from No to Yes.

Now when we play in a party, he does mostly pussy; he feels it's the right thing to do. But when a man comes on to him, John doesn't hold back.

Outside of parties mine is almost the only pussy John does. His catting around is mostly with guys. Frankly I'm happy with that. I like my pussy being very special to him.

-- Big Nikki

[wannaswing2]

I'm new here and I don't consider my self Bi I am very curious. I have read that in a mfm situation it's all about the lady, I really don't believe it's all about the lady. I would think it's about all involved enjoying wonderful sexual pleasures. I haven't ever gone down on another man but in the heat of the moment I probably would as I said it's about 3 individuals pleasuring each other.

[likkittisplit]

My first bi experience was with a couple. We were in their tent and she was on top of me in a 69 and I realized they were both sharing my cock. I was shocked whan I caught on , but mostly shocked because I loved it. It turned out that their fantasy was for her to force him to suck a cock to completion. I got really hard as she had him by the hair of the head and was telling him to "Suck that fucking cock" them alternate looking me in the eyes with the most sexually aroused look on her facw and demanding that I "Shoot that hot cum in his mouth". Now I find myself fantasizing being in the same situation as him or even just me and a girlfriend sharing a long hard cock as we suck and lick him to completion.

[Lascivious L&L]

For us, MFM is hot because we can explore sexuality not possible with just two people. When you are just yourselves, you can't have one male sucking each breast. You can't have one going down on her and another kissing her. You can't DP without three. You can't both suck a cock without the extra cock. You can't go down on her while she's being fucked unless it's at least a threesome. She can't suck while being fucked if it's just you two.

Swinging is more than swapping. There is a whole geography of sex impossible to explore with just two people. A whole world out there you'll never experience unless you add one more person, two more people, or more.

[weloveeachother]

Originally Posted by Lascivious L&L

For us, MFM is hot because we can explore sexuality not possible with just two people. When you are just yourselves, you can't have one male sucking each breast. You can't have one going down on her and another kissing her. You can't DP without three. You can't both suck a cock without the extra cock. You can't go down on her while she's being fucked unless it's at least a threesome. She can't suck while being fucked if it's just you two.

Wow, that just turned me on. Thanks for the visual!

[AdamJessica4u]

My wife and I agree that bi activity among men is much more common than what is expressed in profiles. I enjoy bi action, mostly oral, and she loves to watch or participate. I have also met many couples that the wife gets extremely turned on watching her mate suck a cock. Bi men are not a requirement for us to play, but my wife always puts those profiles that hint or openly say the guy is bi at the top of our "to do" list, and I don't have any problem with it. It is fun and it is great to see my wife pleased by something I do, for her and for me.