Fear of labels?

[Devil]

My wife just hates the label bi-sexual. She has had sex with many women, and used to experiment sexually with a female friend from about age 14. They started out touching, then rubbing their bodies together, and eventually, by the time she was 16 and stated having sex with men, they had gone down on each other perhaps dozens of times. She always insisted that this did make her bi because she was not attracted to women and would fantasize about sex with men during the act. She has certainly never had a girlfriend, but she has had one-on-one sexual encounters with several women, and we have had a mess of MFF threesomes.

Well, I think she is bi, but she insist that she is not and jokingly refers to her female partners as "wine powered sex toys" This Idea has some merit. Shouldn't sexuality be subjective? Heck, while typing this post, I might have just persuaded myself that she is not Bi after all. Well. What do you guys think?

[jon&roberta]

Who cares! As long as you both are having fun.
Wish I could get my wife to try a "wine powered sex toy:
I envy you two.

[northindycpl]

All and all it only matters what she thinks about herself. Bi-ness is so subjective I don't think any lable is good enough. I have been struggling with this myslef.

I don't think about sex with women, although some woman turn me on a bit. I don't like plain FF but in a MFMF I am fine to perform oral sex on another woman if the mood strikes.

I try to explain my feelings on the matter without lables to potential playmates. I think giving a lable to anything leaves the others with a lot of potential interpretations that may not be so.

[DaveNSheila]

Hello. From what you wrote and from what I have heard from other couples and females, sounds like your wife would "call herself" situationally bi. Meaning depending on the mood the situation and how everyone got there at the very moment. That is my 2 cents on it. D

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Devil

she insist that she is not and jokingly refers to her female partners as "wine powered sex toys"

Not only does that idea have merit - it's damn funny.

Your wife is exactly what she wants to call herself. bi-sexual, bi-playful, bi-curious, bi-adaptable, bi-nothing... Doesn't matter, really... Heck - she can call herself a "golden goddess with a rich citrus scent" and a wise husband would simply smile and agree.

If the idea of being bi-sexual bothers here - that's fine. And it is still okay if she wants to play with women occassionally.

Spoomonkey (who is similarly afraid of the label "unevolved")

[BiDrywallChick]

dito to what everyone else said.. some days I am dyke a delic and on others I am strictly dickly.. It really depends on my mood. I hate lables myself and find that most people do not fit entirely into one group or another