Does BI Curious Mean NO reciprocation?

[northindycpl]

It seems TO ME that when a woman says she is BI Curious, it really means she is willing to allow another woman do things to her, but not to reciprocate.

Is anyone finding this out,too?

[VegasLee]

I think that "BI Curious" means that a women or man wants to explore and find out if they are interested in same sex action.

Laura is not BI Curious yet in group play if a women does something to her she does not freak out or get upset about it. Hell, she even looks like she enjoys it at the time.

She is NOT bi or BI Curious at all though. She has no interest in playing with a women. She also does not ever set out to have a women play with her. She has always been very upfront about this with all that we play with so if some lady does play with her there is no reason for her to feel bad about not returning the favor.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

I think that "BI Curious" means that a women or man wants to explore and find out if they are interested in same sex action.

Dito Now what that means depends on the individual. If a woman is 'bi curious' and interested in exploring to find out just how 'bi' she is, she may start out just letting another woman do things to her first. Or it might start out that way but in the heat of things if she is enjoying what's being done she may reciprocate. I think it's an individual thing and has a lot to do with comfort levels during the "bi curious" phase.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[lnk4u]

Some people call that bi-friendly. Meaning that they are willing to receive but will not give.

[intuition897]

I dunno, I always thought it just meant that a person was open to trying some contact with their own sex. I was 'curious' about what made sex with a woman so different. So I tried it and I'm no longer curious. I figured out that while I'm certainly open to playing with people - regardless of their gender - I'm not about to go out of my way to have sex with a woman. I found out I'm primarily straight. It never occurred to me to rule out certain sex acts like performing oral; that was part of the curiosity! I mean if the other woman decided that she was uncomfortable with something, that was fine. Whatever. I just didn't make any rules up before-hand.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by intuition897

I figured out that while I'm certainly open to playing with people - regardless of their gender - I'm not about to go out of my way to have sex with a woman. I found out I'm primarily straight.

Whatever. I just didn't make any rules up before-hand.

Intuition I am right there with you. No rules before-hand (in fact my first experience was totally spontaneous and unexpected) and I am very much primarily straight, I love men We have been with couples where the woman was straight and that's just fine with me. When the woman is bi or bi curious I am not opposed to cross play, in fact Mr Spoo and I really like it when a couple just sort of wants to be in a bit of a pile rather than totally pairing off so that the woman can move freely between each other, our spouses and the other husband.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[gsu22]

I agree with the previous statement that it sometimes might depend on the individual......some bi curious person might want to see who bi they might be by letting "stuff" be done to them by the same sex and then maybe deciding if they'e willing to reciprocate.


Regarding Mrs. Spoo's remark about the pile....I think that's a great situation to be in instead of pairing off....when everyone's bi, the options are unlimited!

[fun_pairTX]

Originally Posted by gsu22

Regarding Mrs. Spoo's remark about the pile....I think that's a great situation to be in instead of pairing off....when everyone's bi, the options are unlimited!

We often participate in much larger piles, (12+), none of the guys are Bi or even curious, they just aren't paranoid. They all just pledge to avoid grabbing anything hairy LOL

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

We often participate in much larger piles, (12+), none of the guys are Bi or even curious, they just aren't paranoid. They all just pledge to avoid grabbing anything hairy LOL

OMG, I've heard "The penis people stay away from the penis people", but that's much better.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by fun_pairTX

We often participate in much larger piles, (12+), none of the guys are Bi or even curious, they just aren't paranoid. They all just pledge to avoid grabbing anything hairy LOL

No males are bi in our situations either (I was referencing the thread topic in my other post about 'bi woman'), but Mr Spoo isn't paranoid in a pile up as long as all the males agree to the above....of course the woman are always free to grab whatever they want

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Ssugarlips]

I am bi-sexual. If a woman reads that on my profile and says she's bi-curious and inexperienced, I thank her for her interest and pass. I am adult woman who knows what I want out life. I'm not interested in being someone's teacher or one-time fling. While I had my own first time, I went into the situation anticipating both giving/receiving.

[EvilMJ]

my opinion was that Bi means Bi and BI courious means that you are not sure yet and are still in the learning stages. But I also thought that it meant that you were into giving and recieving.

I know my hubby and I like the pile. He is straight as an arrow but is not paranoid and knows that any touching is completey accidental. I personally take it case by case, it if happens and I am enjoying it, then fine it's all good. If I am not attracted to the woman in any way, then I don't want it.

[driveajeepnaked]

I listed myself as bi-curious in our Swing Lifestyle ad even though I had been with other women in the long ago past and enjoyed it... I know that I will always enjoy the male-apendage, aka penis, more than another woman, but the woman's touch is so sweet as well...

I have never had a sitaution where the other female didn't reciprocate, in fact met with one couple where the female was straight, yet we had a great time with FF play. It was her first time with another F, and I noticed soon after that her profile was changed to bi-curious - funny huh??

Seems that F's are much more willing to play with another F, not only for the man's pleasure, but with their own...

I have to ask - when does bi-curious become just Bi ?? Is it one or two or three times with another female?? Is there a timeframe for the degree of seperation between curious and just plain ole Bi??

Inquiring minds want to know...

Val

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by driveajeepnaked

I listed myself as bi-curious in our Swing Lifestyle ad even though I had been with other women in the long ago past and enjoyed it... I know that I will always enjoy the male-apendage, aka penis, more than another woman, but the woman's touch is so sweet as well...

I have never had a sitaution where the other female didn't reciprocate, in fact met with one couple where the female was straight, yet we had a great time with FF play. It was her first time with another F, and I noticed soon after that her profile was changed to bi-curious - funny huh??

Seems that F's are much more willing to play with another F, not only for the man's pleasure, but with their own...

I have to ask - when does bi-curious become just Bi ?? Is it one or two or three times with another female?? Is there a timeframe for the degree of seperation between curious and just plain ole Bi??

Inquiring minds want to know...

Val

Val, we ran into exactly the same situation. She wasn't interested in FF play in their ad, nor did anything happen between us girls the first time, but after the fact mentioned that she was curious. There was some FF play the second time. I think the simple fact that two naked bodies are lying in close proximity to one another (as in, on the same bed) during play sparks something in the imagination. If it's something that is unknown to you, humans being the curious critters that we are, you naturally want to find out. Now, on the other hand, Mr. intuition has stated that he has no interest whatsoever in exploring bisexuality. Doesn't do a thing for him. So I don't know why women tend to be more open to this thing in the lifestyle than men?

[CandTinLorainCo]

T and i have had many talks regarding this exact thing.... she felt she was bi-curious, and but truely wasn't sure and yep on our second escapade there was her chance as the other woman who wasn't to sure herself just grabbed her and the rest lets say was history!!! Now niether one consider themselves Bi because they both still love a good stiff dick over any FF, they however still aren't afraid to explore all kinds of things togather and just have fun. So does that mean in our politically correct world we now have to stereo-type ourselves? Hence we leave bi-curious on her so that others will not be afraid if they want a lil FF fun its ok too.

-C


ps: curious means id like to know more about something and if im intrested in it, not that i have to like it or want to do it, just explore it and see if i like it or not for future reference.